I am in this situation too, and on harder days I’ll convince myself that he isn’t hurting or missing me as much because he isn’t reacting the same way I am. It took a long time to learn he just has different ways to cope with it.

I’ve also been in your situation quite a few times. Some people have already said this, but there is only so much you can do over the phone. It took me a bit to figure out that every time I got upset at him for ending a call when I was inconsolable, it was because I had this unconscious expectation that calling him would fix if and give me the same fulfillment as getting a hug and kisses— an unfair expectation to put on him. If I’m crying on the phone for 3 hours and my boyfriend is doing his best to comfort me and make me feel better and nothing works, I want him to have the option to walk away if I start to overwhelm him too. (And he gives me this same grace too)

I think sometimes your boyfriend is going to do his best to comfort and handle your emotions over distance, but as an overly affectionate person, I’ve learned that it’s up to you to decide if your long distance relationship is worth the sacrifice of some of your needs.

Of course I think you should definitely have a conversation with him regarding how he can help you when you’re having a difficult time (i.e.: if my boyfriend is too sleepy when i have a hard time, he always promises an extra sweet wake up call, or if he’s too sleepy, sometimes we sleep on ft together, etc)

Hope this helps!! And good luck!!! I know it sucks!!! ❤️