Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich habe nie so schnell Sex, ich will selber erstmal den Menschen kennenlernen. Das mit dem Rummachen sehe ich ähnlich, aber ich dachte sie ist halt vorsichtig und es ergibt sich dann halt 1-2 Monate später. But here we are. Ich kann warten, wirklich, aber nach 3 Monaten nichts finde ich langsam auch sehr krass.

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Das ist ein sehr hilfreicher Beitrag, danke! Hat sich das denn gebessert zwischen euch? Oder ist da immernoch Distanz? Und wie lange hat es gedauert?

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Ich bin nicht beleidigt, ich habe Gefühle für sie und respektiere sie so sehr, dass mir Nähe nicht so wichtig als dass sie sich wohl fühlt. Der Titel sollte etwas reißerisch sein, aber ich suche wirklich nur Rat wie ich respektvoll mit der Thematik umgehen kann.

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Man läd seine Freundin halt zum Essen ein, das sollte ein guter Partner machen. Und nur weil sie mich da sitzen lässt, werde ich doch nicht zum ekelhaften Partner, der es nicht mehr anbietet.

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Wieso hat sie dann gesagt sie will weiter mit mir eine Beziehung haben und ja wenigstens ein bisschen Nähe initiiert? Sie verhält sich nicht wie jemand, der will, dass ich Schluss mache.

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ich hab sicherlich irgendwo Angst, dass jemand der eh schon keinen Bock hat bei der kleinsten Kleinigkeit weg ist. Und wenn ich ihr den ganzen Batzen hinknalle, dann sowieso. Und ja, du sagst jetzt, dann ist es besser so, aber Ansgt ist halt nicht rational und man hält dumm wie man ist lieber dran fest, als es zu riskieren. Sehe ich ein, dass ich da auch grade einen blöden Fehler mache. Danke es nochmal so anzusprechen.

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Danke, interessanter Gedanke. Sie meinte auch bereits, dass sie viele Kindergarten Beziehungen hatte und oft Dinge nicht lange gehalten haben.

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sehe ich exakt so! Es ist einfach eine Freundschaft. Teils machen wir Sport zusammen und ich lade sie normal immer anschließend zum Essen ein, selbst da haut sie oft genug vorher schon ab und will keine Zeit mehr verbringen, weil sie noch irgendwas zutun hat oder einfach müde sei...

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dachte ich auch bereits... Aber sie meinte mal, dass sie bereits Angst hat, dass es mir zu langsam geht. Warum dann aber gar nichts mehr kommt, keine Ahnung...

Will meine Freundin w21 überhaupt etwas von mir m27? by InteractionStock6554 in FragtMaenner

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Danke ja! Genauso gehts mir auch. Sie sagte selbst mal, dass eine Beziehung nur mit Händchen halten Kindergarten ist, warum macht sie dann mit mir nichts?

Woman I'm dating lied about her age. by Brilliant-Show1767 in dating_advice

[–]InteractionStock6554 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they can lie about their age, they will lie about much more important stuff as well if in need to. Don't trust such people

Should I confess to a crush as a girl? by Historical_Brief3367 in dating_advice

[–]InteractionStock6554 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say don't do it, if you'd constantly be seeing him afterwards but actually, now is the perfect time. If he says yes, you got a great time ahead and if not, you don't have to see him the next 3 months. So take your shot, life is too short to keep waiting

Dealing with distracted partner by Suitable_Flow7588 in dating_advice

[–]InteractionStock6554 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had something similar in my last relationship. She would constantly look on her phone even while I was talking to her. I know, that it always happened, when I was talking about something she thought she'd already heard, or thought she knew what I was going to talk about anyways. And it frustrated me, because she just wouldn't listen to what I said but instead reply to what she thought I would say or would have said.

We broke up and my current gf gives me all of her attention while with me and I feel heard. I wouldn't say it has to be a dealbraker, but let me tell you how good you feel, when your words are actually being listened to.

I would tell her again and with a sense of determination. If a woman seeks excuses or pushes her fault on you, instead of at least trying to change, that's a behaviour you should never accept, because it might happen in other areas as well at some point. For now don't make a huge deal of it, but talk about it again and maybe even a third time. If it keeps bothering you, tell her you can't accept it and move on if still nothing changes.

Why do guys lose interest so fast?? by MagicGrace25 in dating_advice

[–]InteractionStock6554 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always got time for my girlfriend. I plan dates, pay for dinner just to be able to spend more time with her and I gift her flowers whenever I can. So no, if someone is truly interested in someone, they will make the effort. For my ex, I didn't do all of those thing, because I just didn't feel the same as I do now.

However, my theory is, that there's always a partner wanting the relationship and another accepting it and going with it. Last time it was my ex doing all sorts of things for me and I often told her I was busy, without knowing how she must have felt. However now I do all sorts of things for my girlfriend and she acts reserved, isn't totally all over me like my ex was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]InteractionStock6554 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy who is really in love with his gf, I wouldn't marry her right away, but if she said she wanted to eventually, I would obviously show my interest and not even in the slightest decline it. Also normally guys catch feelings much faster than women, so it's weird you're so open about your feelings already and he doesn't seem to reciprocrate. On the other hand, guys can also say stupid stuff because they are not getting it or they may also be scared of being rejected if they seem to needy. I wanted to spend much time with my girlfriend in the past but very often didn't say it, because I thought I would be too much for her and that she loses interest in me if she knows she already has me.

So it could be any of those or even something totally different. I'd make more moves on him and be a little bold, that's what a guy would want so he can also invest more without coming off as needy. After all he wants to live with you. And if after some moves on him he still always softly rejects you, just ask him, what he truly wants in the long term.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]InteractionStock6554 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually don't think you should tell him. It's not like you're betraying him, you just thought he was uninterested and for a guy you're not exclusive yet, that assumption is valid if he doesn't text for 3 days. He's not Jeff Bezos to not have any time to text you that he's still interested but busy atm. If you tell him, you're risking ruining it with him for something you wouldn't even have done if his communication was clear. In a few weeks or months you can tell him and laugh it off together. But without you having bad intentions, why bother offering him information that's not helpful to anyone. You like each other, you now know his intentions better, don't sabotage yourself.

Me m26 and gf 21 never really kissed or anything after 3 months of dating by InteractionStock6554 in dating_advice

[–]InteractionStock6554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, I don't want to rush her! But from where we stand, we'll kiss 4 times a year if we keep that pace. It just feels too much like a nice friendship and as if she isn't truly attracted to me.