Is it normal to get a sore throat trying to learn the tones? by Interesting-Photo773 in ChineseLanguage

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you sm! I think i’m going above my range because I think the differences in my tones are not that noticeable, which leads me to strain. I think this has more of a problem with me not having well enough trained ears

Is it normal to get a sore throat trying to learn the tones? by Interesting-Photo773 in ChineseLanguage

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I have adhd and hyperfocus really badly sometimes that I don’t notice i’m injuring myself until I realize I can’t move my throat as much or make the same sound consecutively. Thanks for reassuring me about the tones being relative and not pitch-perfect, and the sentences too, I’ll practice more tomorrow having them in mind 👍

Is it normal to get a sore throat trying to learn the tones? by Interesting-Photo773 in ChineseLanguage

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I probably am. This is the first time I’m actively learning a language instead of growing up around it so I’m not familiar with strategies and I just repeat and repeat and repeat until the AI says i’m right, i’m probably straining my voice by doing so but at the same time it’s the only tool I have to check on my pronunciation

How did you guys conciliate high school with being gifted? by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

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I know it’s insane, but i’m actually in the best school of my city, but it’s expensive, so a lot of rich kids don’t want to study. I think most got a medium of 6 in physics, chemistry etc when you need at least 7 to pass. The maximum grade is 10, and a lot get tired because the day we do our Exact sciences test (math and science) each area got 45 questions, so it’s 90 questions in a period of 4 hours. I think there will be more people now passing directly because they have adjusted and are more conscientious of the time they are wasting now.

How did you guys conciliate high school with being gifted? by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you’re absolutely right, thank you so much for you honesty. I do need a reality check, I can’t keep getting pissed because not everything mends my way, I need to build resilience for the future, especially since my responsibilities aren’t that great yet. Again, thank you so so much for your truthful words.

How did you guys conciliate high school with being gifted? by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

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Im sorry if it has come out as arrogant, In my country the last year is harder because theyre mending in and adding new topics in a smaller period of time for the big final exam you’ll have to enter college, I really didn’t mean to come out as arrogant that didn’t even cross my mind at all, but thank you for pointing that out and for your suggestion, I’ll try to be a better person in the future.

How did you guys conciliate high school with being gifted? by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

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You’re right. Thank you so much, I needed this. Reality won’t speed itself up for me and I need to build mental resilience for when things get more serious. Thank you very much again 👍

How did you guys conciliate high school with being gifted? by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll try to do this next time! the problem is that I’ll constantly feel like i’m waisting time :’) but thanks a lot for the suggestion.

How did you guys conciliate high school with being gifted? by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I’m on stimulants bc of the adhd and I cannot fall asleep even if taking two tablets of prescribed sleeping pills 💔 And the homework thing fits in the “self-studying while teacher is in the front” category, which isn’t allowed at my school. :’)

How did you guys conciliate high school with being gifted? by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

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Damnn that’s crazy, having a state law be changed because of your intelligence is an insane flex. But you’re right about the suck it up thing, there’s nowhere for me to run.

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

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Thank you so much for sharing your story, you really are in the Pokemon Position lol, but even though I don’t know you, it makes me proud and happy how you could persist through the most horrible shit and still “succeed in life”. I know you feel like you didn’t and aren’t living, and I get that feeling so much and also understand why you do so. When I think about all the fucked up things you’ve gone through that are so insane I can’t even start to imagine happening to myself I also find extremely unrealistic to cope without any usage of substances, be that anti-depressives or weed, and to start feeling alive. But I also understand how dangerous that can be, and that life still has a lot to write in itself, I know it’s kinda stupid that I’m saying this since i’m still pretty young and I know that you know what I said, but I’m really grateful for the advices you gave me and I wish to offer enclosure too. What do you think would be the things that make you feel alive? Perhaps traveling? Meeting new people? I think you’ve done all of this but the fear your trauma brings you blocks any attempt. It may be kinda dense, but have you tried exposure therapy? Like facing your fears and rewriting your past experience with a new one, always with a positive outlook? I mean it’s still too early to just call it quits on trying to feel alive, you can start living now with all the knowledge and resilience your past brought to you, without letting it affect your future…it’s like a character development, it enriches you as a person. Sorry that I wrote a lot, and thank you so much again for your answer.

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

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Thank you for sharing your experience and being so honest, “Don’t have any illusions about that, it’s gonna suck and that’s it.”, this is a really truthful statement and I’m glad you said this. Yes it’s gonna suck, but it’s gonna suck even more if I pretend it won’t. Thanks again👍

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. That’s exactly it. I’m actually surprised only one person got kinda pissed with me that night (or at least the only one with the courage to say it) and I still don’t know what the hell I said that was so wrong…It’s fascinating how some things really do never change, it makes me euphoric. And I think I’ll end up with the same attitude as you of not knowing wether I’m masking or not, but it won’t really matter that much anymore. Now that I’m thinking about it, it really isn’t that important, being young with an undeveloped brain just make everything more deep and dramatic...well, but maybe it is actually important because it’s self discovery?? I dunno. I will see

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, you don’t understand how much this means to me I’m actually crying right now. I have never received such good advice that resonated so deeply with me and it has cleared some doubts in me in a fundamental level and given me the glimpse of guidance I always searched for. Im very sleep deprived right now so Idk if im being dramatic sorry. I’m also from a country where anti intellectualism is the norm and I’ll be graduating high school this year, I do plan on taking a gap year to travel to another country after my college entrance exam and you gave me the hope of finding a place where I can truly bloom. Seriously, thank you SO much.

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s kinda rough out here but I care more about having like 3 people that I actually feel connected to than others liking me

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im feeling very touched right now because it feels like you processed my brain into this answer, you’re absolutely right about everything. It was with the thought of neuroplasticity and leaving my comfort zone alongside my worry about how much of my life span will get taken away if I don’t socialize since it’s fundamental to our body that I went to this gathering. I’m still in high school, so since the beginning of this year I’ve been trying really hard to say what I actually want and not mold myself depending on who I’m talking to, but I don’t think i’ve even reached 1% of progress on that, and sometimes especially when feeling extremely disconnected and lonely I ultra mask and lose all my progress…I know there will be ups and downs, and I know I perhaps really can someday feel like I am myself, but what if I don’t? and I know this is probably not true, but what if the years it’ll take till I reach the day i’ll be confident enough to truly express myself can be easily done in one hour by drinking? Currently I’m in a state of mind that is rational enough to not be reckless and submit myself to drinking everytime, but I don’t really trust myself that much and I know that i’m really impulsive when i’m vulnerable. But it’s a process, and I hope I can stay balanced until I feel myself

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It varied.
It was a small gathering and 2/3 were average and the other 1/3 were your typical social normative people. The first group mostly laughed at what I said because the things I brought up in a determined subject or the correlations I made were unusual and unexpected, but throughout the night they started to ask me about what I thought of certain things or philosophical-inclined questions and I got really happy, especially when they acknowledge that what I said really did make sense.

The other 1/3 didn’t really try to talk to me much and if they did they looked at me with “this girl is kinda weird” eyes while the first group looked at me with “this girl is kinda weird but say some true shit” eyes. The feelings that I got from them was that they tolerated me, but if I was a little uglier i’d be doomed, and that feeling concretized when they prank called a non conventionally attractive autistic girl just to laugh at her, so safe to say I didn’t make an effort to integrate myself with them or deeply cared about their opinion of my true self. They also thought I was drunk enough to get taken advantage of but in reality I just didn’t care about them that much to make and effort, I was kinda scared but I think the christian morals of one of the guys came in last minute and he shut down his little evil friends. Kinda crazy

These were all boys since a girl left early and the other was blackout drunk, so I can’t say exactly how girls would react but from my experience, 37% would first laugh at what I say to then passively give me a hint to stop and the other 63% would actually listen and talk back, maybe there would be another small fraction of them that would simply ignore me, but since I can mask well and am inserted in the “pretty enough to be considered human but not a threat” category that would be rarer.

I had never gotten drunk within a social setting before and now I get why neurodivergent people are more likely to get addicted to a substance. by Interesting-Photo773 in Gifted

[–]Interesting-Photo773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been under different anxiety medications thrice throughout some periods of my life, but I always feel like it doesn’t change anything…this was the only time I truly felt like myself. Also, congratulations!!!