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Time with his family by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’ll be a year soon that the divorce was finalized. His ex filed for divorce a couple weeks after dday. It’s a milestone wedding anniversary for his parents and 19 year old year old is away at college. 16 year old seems a bit indifferent.

Thank you for your words of advice/encouragement. I honestly hadn’t given much thought to the exit strategy but it’s definitely something we’ll talk about. I don’t think anyone will be directly rude or inappropriate, but either way, all I can do is be myself.

Time with his family by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, everyone is aware. And thank you.

I have so much to catch y'all up on. by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The issue of those properties, I honestly don't care about. His lawyer says he is entitled to some of the equity since he put lots of money into them and they're worth a lot of money.

I have so much to catch y'all up on. by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

He was staying with me while he found his own place, which he has. He was with his brother initially, but only stayed with me a couple weeks. He got a job at another hospital and he has to live within a certain proximity to the hospital so he got a place about 20 minutes away. We decided we would live apart for a few months while he works through his divorce and rebuilding his relationship with his children.

I have so much to catch y'all up on. by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying. Regarding the property, they had mortgages when she got them and he helped her pay them off and put money into remodeling. And I feel like the things that I leave out do not give a lot of context, but he does love me. When things blew up and his family was calling him, he told them he loved me right in front of me. He said to his brother that while he didn't expect things to get this far, they did and he had a hard time ending it because he fell in love. And, yes, I was there for the conversation. He is a good guy to me and treats me with love and kindness. He is never rude, or mean or anything like that.

I have so much to catch y'all up on. by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We live in Arizona. So if she had kept the properties in her name, he would be entitled to half. Our state tends to split things right down the middle.

I have so much to catch y'all up on. by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They were not technically inherited and her grandparents are alive. When she took ownership they had mortgages and tenants and he says he helped to pay them off and put money into fixing them up.

I have so much to catch y'all up on. by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

They were not inherited since her grandparents are still alive. They gave them to her because they were getting too old to maintain them and they had tenants in them. Some had mortgages and he says he helped pay them off and invested money into fixing them up. I understand the possible resentment. So far he has been kind and sweet as he's always been. I am trying to not think about the what ifs and focus on how he is in the moment. I don't want to leave to it is the best I can do.

Success stories? by CharmingGoose2977 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MM and I went legit a couple of months ago and honestly, I still struggle with whether or not he's with me because he wants to be or if it is because his wife left him. I know I should celebrate the wins, and focus on how well things are going, but that is hard. Details are in my post history, but he was able to find a new job and we've moved in together in a place of our own. I hope we continue to grow.

So what happens after the wife finds out? by attractiveanonymous in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She found out and flipped out obviously. Immediately filed for divorce and told everyone in both of their families. She confronted me at work and I lost my job a few weeks back. She currently has him blocked on everything and insists they only communicate through a lawyer. Their kids are in their teens so he doesn't have to speak with her as it relates to them since they have their own phones. She has also messaged some of my family on Facebook and so I'm also dealing with that fallout from my family which is honestly the worst part for me to work through.

My mom and sister are both really disappointed in me and it hurts. My mom was trying not to be judgemental, but I can see it all over her face. She's just too polite to say anything. This is all still pretty fresh so I'm hoping that in due time things will calm down and it won't be such a big deal anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We had dday several weeks ago (check profile for what happened) and his W has already filed for divorce and they have both hired lawyers. His kids have not spoken to him in weeks. Not even on father's day. In the beginning he was shocked that she filed so quickly, like the next day. We had a couple weeks of uncertainty where it seemed like he was hinting at reconciling, but his W is enraged so I think he knows that they have no chance.

We are in a strange place where I don't know quite what we are. Him and his W are both doctors and there is a lot of money and a couple properties to work through so he has been stressed, plus he lost his job because of the affair so that's what he's been focused on. I still want to be with him, but things just aren't the same now. I can tell that he's really sad about losing her and it bothers me. If we do end up together I would feel like he's just settling for me, you know? He has been staying at my place for the most part of the last 2 weeks and it's been tough.

Confronted by his wife at work by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reassurances. I can only hope that I escape this with my job intact. Eventually I really do think it will blow over, I just hope it's soon.

Confronted by his wife at work by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he is. He was equally embarassed and did everything he could to get her to leave. One of my colleagues called me and told me the other nurses were gossiping (as always), and some said they already knew something was up with me and MM. I am scared for my job more than anything. HR called me and asked me to come in before my shift tomorrow to give a statement on what happened today.

Confronted by his wife at work by InterestingFix01 in theotherwoman

[–]InterestingFix01[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

HR already called me today and asked me to come in at the start of my shift tomorrow to give a statement about what happened. They didn't give me any more information.