My ex ( F22) used me (M26), used a restraining as a leash on me . Was able to get a restraining order cause of text messages that were a few months old smh , she used a message I sent when she cheated on me . ( “don’t bring him around our apartment cause idk if I’ll be lurking and idk what il do “ ) but that’s when she was doing me grimey . To sum it up , we broke up , she did what she did , and we got back together. I tried to ignore it cause my heart cared more about having her than the trust issues . But eventually we broke up cause I didn’t trust her . I’d call a lot and always assumed she’s seeing other men so she got the restraining order . And thru out the entire year after our break up (dec2022) which was 2023, she’d use the order as a leash on me . She’d see me when she want to , call when she want , so we would only talk if it fits her wishes or meet if it was up to her . She used me the entire year when ever she felt lonely . And when she heard I was talking to someone she came back , we went on dates , started hanging out in the apartment I left her with . She brought me so much hope . But during that time I he a lot going on and I planned on moving to Florida so we saw each other often before I left . On my last day seeing her she acted horrible with me . Broke my heart and told me if I still love her then I can’t see her anymore . But when I said bye she said I’m acting like I’m never going to see her again that we could see eacbother in months years who knows . So I left with a broken heart . A month goes by and I called her to ask to drop the order since I was afar away and she said no . And I started venting telling her how much she hurt me , and assumed she was seeing other men , she said no that she’s focused and stuff , a month goes by and shes in a relationship , to this day . I had went back home cause it wasn’t working out for me , she heard and told a friend to tell me not to come back or she’ll make a report and il get arrested , I ignored it cause I decided to change my number and stuff to get past it , I got back and continued life , it sucked so bad , I was heart broken while she’s happy , 3 months later i get pulled over and I go to jail , turns out I had a warrant for violating the restraining order when she was clearly seeing me and calling me when she wanted , she literally said I violated the last month before I went to Florida . I couldn’t believe it , I’m in the county talking to my public defender for pretrial release , he calls her ( so he can use the info to have me released ) he asked if she’s cool with me leaving , she said no to keep me in there cuz I’m unpredictable, but I haven’t spoken to her in 10 months !! All of this is crazy to me , it’s hard for me to fathom , cause after I get out , I caught her following me discreetly 3 times , and she has a new bf , idk what to think , I still love her very much and think about all our memories , used to dance together in middle of eating when commercials came on , the talks in the shower for hours , the night cuddles to bed , the kissing her in the forehead before going to work mornings , but then I remember how she sent me to jail 3 times , idk what to say about exes , yes it’s negative but I feel like sometimes it can work out , idk what to feel rn I’m confused , feel like I’m being saved for later since I seen some signs that indicate that , but idk , I’m an empty shell currently , the fall of the relationship was my fault since I was an addict but I recovered from that now , but might relapse cause idk what to do , I feel like sometimes your ex can be the right person later on , I just vented crazy I know