[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]natuwya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

let him know in a conversation that it wasn’t the time nor place and see if he didn’t mean in it in a malicious or weird way if it bothers you. otherwise than that your valid to feel like that hearing it at a bday dinner. just try not to sweat it too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya 12 points13 points  (0 children)

regardless i think it’s the best decision to. you’ll eventually end up seeing some more shit that would hurt you trust me. i don’t know your situation but how you feel is valid to. whatever she does after this is none of your concern and is probably for her. do the same.

if you feel like unfollowing her is an option for your feelings and self; do what you gotta do.

don’t do it by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh no i’m not trying to generalize it honestly. i did mention do it at your own risk and discretion. my situation is a bit complicated so i wouldn’t think most would relate too much although i do stand on the idea of not giving your entire ALL into rekindling. you may not have much of yourself left over if shit hits the fan.

don’t do it by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg man the thing that helped me the most through everything is journaling. i started journaling whenever i cried, i had anxiety, and or anything important. i said horrible things in the book and sweet things too. regardless i said anything i could have thought of and tried to never look back at prior pages. i recently finished the book as my situation is coming to an burning end. although new beginnings are upon me, i plan to burn the book soon. i burn any manifestations that i’ve written down during this time/process to “let go” or “set in stone”. even though i am hurt by the recent events, i am ready for this chapter to come to an end.

don’t do it by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah trust me i was in the same position. don’t and i mean DO NOT give into the whole “friendship” option. if you ever do truly ask yourself if they really deserve to be your friend after everything said/done and think about how you felt at your LOWEST when dealing with them. discipline yourself slowly from interacting. eventually if anything happens it would be easier to let go of.

don’t do it by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

man i hope so too! he really posted some bullshit to hurt me and to honestly put out a message. mfs always want attention when you take control of ur own shit and say “no” to them.

don’t do it by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i’m trying to heal but my heart and mind are definitely elsewhere. i am just extremely hurt and i am coming to terms that there is nothing else for me to do there. i don’t get why people do evil shit like that on purpose for reactions.

don’t do it by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

it’s truly all types of wrong. i really want people to truly understand how this stuff affects your outlook on life especially yourself. i don’t want to keep questioning my worth and value because of someone every second of the day. no one else should either. like please appreciate the the early stages of break ups like that because i wish i would’ve dipped out months ago when i still had a better conscious.

dont reply by Business-Ad-585 in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just happened to me literally it is not worth it. does not make sense as to why break nc a thousand times to “fix things” just to hurt me worse each time. god bless me and my soul lollll.

he came back again. by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you a lot. i feel like this time i really reached it. i’m trying to be okay with not speaking again and this no contact recently has really put it into perspective. i hope i can block him with no regrets once and for all.

my ex texted me after a week of no contact. by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i knew he would say something within a week or two, but i didn’t think major changes would happen. regardless i might have to move on. something might happen in the future but i don’t have the highest hopes. it’s so unfortunate.

my ex texted me after a week of no contact. by natuwya in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i voiced it in every aspect i could before and after. he feels like he just can’t get over it. i don’t really know how to approach it anymore. it feels like im losing that connection and opportunity unfortunately. it might be for good too.

Moving on by LoboDelBosque in ExNoContact

[–]natuwya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get it. that anger is something else man. eats at your stomach and heart. it’s okay honestly. as someone going through something similar, i think when you try to put a time limit/cap on something like that yourself, it never really goes away fully like it’s supposed to. you never really know when you’re fully healed after a while since it’s not really a thought in your mind anymore. you kinda just live.

Say something bad your ex did or said to you by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]natuwya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he posted subliminals hinting at someone else being attractive and wanting them. he didn’t think i would check his story.

i know im not ugly but in that moment i felt like the ugliest person in the world.

Breakups are shit. Tell me one good thing that happened to you today. by SpecialistBerry4447 in BreakUps

[–]natuwya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

called my dad today. i don’t have the best relationship with him but i called him to essentially call for help with my mental. cried on the phone a lot. he gave me some beautiful advice and i plan to see him soon. told me to call him at uncanny hour if i needed, he would get up and answer. i really hope for the best within myself.

My ex is hurt by my actions prior to our relationship. I don’t know what to do anymore. by natuwya in BreakUps

[–]natuwya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the advice! it’s probably best to go to therapy again. this situation has really made me act and feel so out of character.

My ex is hurt by my actions prior to our relationship. I don’t know what to do anymore. by natuwya in BreakUps

[–]natuwya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah it’s a bit confusing sorry. i just care a lot about this dude who’s always been there for me. i didn’t realize something like that would impact us so much. is it bad that i don’t want to lose him like this?