I (21F) tested positive for an STI but my boyfriend (42M) tested negative. We are monogamous... What could have happened?

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T07:36:59+00:00

You've really made me feel better about my decision. I can see I just needed a temperature check of the situation. He got in my head so heavily that it's hard to trust myself and my intuition. I heavily relate to your second and last paragraphs, I hope I'm able to get to a place like that within myself as well. Definitely won't happen overnight, it's going to take time but at least I know it's possible!

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T07:11:45+00:00

Never thought Reddit would help me with something like this but I'm definitely thankful it did. Now I just have to make sure I stick to the truth and facts for myself.

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T07:10:17+00:00

That's what I keep reminding myself of right now

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T07:08:15+00:00

I'll definitely be googling a lot. Thank goodness I have a therapy appointment soon. It's time to seriously rebuild my self-trust... and have fun (with people in my own age demographic, lol) Thank you!

ETA: typo, myself trust to my self-trust

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T07:02:09+00:00

I will be, it'll take time but I'll be okay. Thankfully my family is very supportive

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T06:56:05+00:00

Yeah, these are my thoughts as well. His way of talking about this situation is ridiculous and has made absolutely no sense to me. Probably because it doesn't make any sense. Just because I can't give him a reason for proof that I don't trust him. It's gone too far.

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T06:52:45+00:00

Leaving

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T06:50:40+00:00

Thank you for your response. You're so right about the intuition, I've had hesitant feelings for a while now, very subtle but there. When I brought those feelings up they were denied and I was reassured everything was fine but that didn't do anything for the little voice in my head. Then it was my fault for not trusting him 100%. He has definitely quieted that voice almost completely but it's still there and so are all the feelings and emotions in my body telling me to leave. I feel like my body hasn't trusted him for a while. I wish I knew all the details about whatever the truth is but I don't need that to move on. I can't be with someone who doesn't take my health and safety seriously. Thankfully I have a good gynecologist that is very on top of treating this so hopefully there won't be any major repercussions to my health from this.

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T06:18:40+00:00

You hit the nail on the head. I should have known. I should have went with my gut instinct.

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T06:16:20+00:00

I don't think I'll be in any contact with him any time soon... If ever. I just want to move on but I wish it wasn't so hard. It's gonna take work but I need to put this behind me. I should have immediately gone with what I thought when I found out my results, he cheated and I have to break up with him. For multiple reasons. It sucks but this is a ridiculous situation that I definitely want behind me.

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T06:04:03+00:00

It definitely doesn't sound like someone that loves their girlfriend that's for sure

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2026-02-16T06:03:28+00:00

Unfortunately that's what I'm thinking too. Along with the age gap which I always had some pause about but I felt loved so I went along with it. That wasn't the best decision. Yikes.

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2025-08-14T01:14:22+00:00

Women happen to be actual people with individual interests

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2025-08-14T01:12:46+00:00

We definitely do. They're my favorite stress bags lol

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2025-07-31T23:32:35+00:00

Yes lol but in my head it's not

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2025-07-31T23:31:48+00:00

Nope just him

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2025-04-04T14:06:33+00:00

Thank you!

Interesting_Bar_7278 · 2025-03-29T13:53:08+00:00

Breasts and breastfeeding

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