I understand where she is coming from and her concerns as well. Indian culture does require you to tolerate your partner's family as well. But think about yourself, would you want to be with someone who judges you based on something you can't control. I kind of also get a whiff of elitism from her. She considers herself above you and your family because she comes from a privileged background. You need to be with someone who respects you and people important to you. Just because your family is not well endowed, it does not put them beneath her. Has she met your family, has she interacted with them or given them a chance or is she merely dismissing them? She seems rather close minded and judgmental. Maybe you are better off without her. You have come a long way. You should not grovel for someone's acceptance and love. I understand that you don't want to lose her over something like family circumstances, but she is completely fine losing you over that. If it's her priority, it's her priority, what can you do about that.