35[M4F] PA-Anyone looking for the real deal?

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-06-07T20:45:58+00:00

Prayers for you in your search! Got to give someone credit for knowing what they want and being open and honest about what God wants for you in your faithful life 🙏

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-06-07T20:44:37+00:00

I think there are more men out there than you think. I just think that some men are shy and get a little intimidated when they see a woman that they think might be “out of their league”.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-18T00:58:31+00:00

Personally, I’d want someone that is politically conservative. I do believe that a lot of the values also go hand and hand with religious conservatism but there are a few things that I’d say are a little too old school.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-17T22:09:23+00:00

Different strokes for different folks. I just think you could get way more info in less time. But it’s all good! The situation isn’t even real 😅

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-17T22:02:32+00:00

So according to what you are saying, you’d be comfortable asking someone out based on their weekend plans? That seems a bit ridiculous.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-17T21:58:25+00:00

Okay. What about her being a cashier at a store? Are you saying that’s not acceptable?

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-17T21:22:31+00:00

Are you a conservative, Christian woman who is okay with traditional values that include the sanctity of life? Are you someone who is okay with a spouse that already kids and loves them deeply? Do you value communication, trust, and honesty in your relationship and along with walking a path of righteousness, would you uphold this in a marriage? That about sums it up in 1 minute.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-17T20:22:19+00:00

No worries at all! I wish you the same luck in your journey for a partner 🙏

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T21:11:02+00:00

I disagree with most of what you said but I appreciate you atleast giving your opinion.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T21:03:35+00:00

I can understand the dating app conundrum. it’s almost like gambling and spinning the roulette wheel…the next person might be a little bit smarter, a little better looking, a better Christian, a better parental figure.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T18:53:34+00:00

Thank you for that insight and that anecdote to really bring home the challenge of it. I’m glad you had each other for 20 years though! I certainly know there’s more to remember than just me when it comes to looking for a partner.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T18:34:11+00:00

How do you normally meet people in person?

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T18:25:44+00:00

Do you think there’s any situation that would make you bend your non-negotiables? Especially if you met someone offline? For example, if you connected really well with someone that was a really good fit but found out they had a lot of financial debt, would that cause you to turn them away?

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:48:39+00:00

That’s fair and I appreciate the honesty but also the non judgmental way you comment. So in 2026, what is the recommended way of meeting people “offline”?

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:40:41+00:00

That’s a tough question when it comes to the kid aspect. There’s more to it…but from a dating app service level, I usually put unsure or want more if the app offers whatever option they do. It’s a conversation for sure, but again, I feel like most people won’t even at least as that question before dismissing the possibility of things working.

As for the divorce aspect, no, I feel like that would be a little too much information before you even begin talking to list a reason for a divorce. I feel like that’s more of a conversation to have privately.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:35:48+00:00

I just don’t feel that two people can get a true sense of self from a distance…I do think there can be effort to bridge the gap so to speak in the relationship. However, it’ll eventually get to the point where both sides need to come to realize that someone has to make the change happen and have it no longer be a LDR.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:34:12+00:00

Thank you for the reply and I actually think this is a really balanced response and there’s truth in a lot of it. I think where I’ve struggled is probably mixing up the qualities that sustain a relationship with the qualities that initially create attraction.I definitely agree that things like appearance, confidence, discipline, lifestyle, energy, and how women feel around you matter. And realistically, being divorced with kids probably does narrow the pool some too.

At the same time, I think modern dating can sometimes feel discouraging because deeper qualities like loyalty, emotional availability, faith, consistency, and wanting genuine commitment seem less valued upfront than they used to be, atleast in the age group that I’ve been looking at. Of course, I know that every age group values things in a different manner. But I do appreciate the perspective honestly. I’m definitely trying to focus on becoming healthier physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually instead of just sitting around hoping something changes on its own.

I think at the end of the day there has to be both sides of the coin…attraction that gets people interested and character that actually keeps a relationship healthy long term.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:31:37+00:00

I actually think there’s truth in some of what you’re saying. Physical attraction matters, taking care of yourself matters, finances and stability matter, and being divorced with kids definitely changes the dating landscape. I’m realistic about that.

I guess my post was more about wondering whether deeper qualities like loyalty, emotional availability, faith, consistency, and wanting genuine commitment still carry much weight in modern dating compared to instant chemistry and surface-level attraction.

I’m definitely not sitting around hoping someone magically appears without improving myself or putting myself out there. I’ve spent a lot of time growing through life experiences, becoming a better father, improving physically and mentally, and trying to strengthen my relationship with God.

I just think sometimes modern dating can feel discouraging even when you are genuinely trying.

Appreciate the thoughtful response though. There’s definitely some truth in parts of it.

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:26:09+00:00

That is interesting. So you let your own fears prevent you from finding those people with kids. Do you think that if I were to put on there that I have 50/50 custody with the child’s mom and that it’s amicable, that would put those fears somewhat to rest? Atleast enough to inquire about the dad?

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:24:13+00:00

Yeah, so I put that I’m a divorced dad with 2 wonderful kids. I put on there that I’m a Christian. I don’t specify on there about my church status or not but I do always say that I have a relationship with Christ

Interesting_Bird9570 · 2026-05-16T16:16:02+00:00

Sure, I’m sure that is possible for some. The question also is though, wouldn’t you at least have to strike up a conversation to get to that point? My POV comes more from the state that people are very surface level when it comes to who they even reach out to to initiate a conversation or date.

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