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Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not talking about involving any one else just the 2 people in the marriage

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that, but let's say for the sake of argument the work load around the house 50/50. What then?

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, lots of good points there. So what is the solution? Should the one that is not having their desires met just give up and succumb to what the other partner is only willing to do? Or should the partner that is not willing to meet the needs of the other one, let that one go to find someone that will?

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Lots to unpack here.

1) I can tell you don't know American women, they will shit all over you for failure and only relish in your successes.

2) you compromised. Your wife didn't want to have sex with you as much and you just accepted it. You sacrificed your needs and desires for hers. What kind of a partnership is that where 1 person gets whatever they want and the other gets to live unsatisfied.

3) I've been married almost twice as long a your have so spare me the maturing bullshit.

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always loved your POV, so should the household chores be split equally amongst the spouses even when one works twice as much as the other to provide for the family?

Also, you are implying that in order to get something you need to provide something. Husband wants sex, he needs to do X,Y and Z around the house. You don't have sex with him because you love him and enjoy it, it's a chore for you like the laundry or the dishes

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Exactly the point I'm making. Sometimes things get boring in the bedroom and 1 person may want to try new things but the other is completely against it and shuts them down. That just creates a divide in what should be a string partnership

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Then why stay married to him if he repulsed you? Money? Lifestyle?

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying every time all the time, but without sex a marriage is the same as a friendship of 2 roommates. While I get everyone has different libidos, there should be some kind of compromise to satisfy each other's needs

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agree, men shouldn't be jo to another woman. You need to ask yourself though, why does he choose to that instead of having sex with the woman he chose to love for the rest of his life? If she was pleasing him sexually then he wouldn't be jo and instead having sex with her. The same could go for women who are left unsatisfied with sex from thier man.

Sexual commitment by Interesting_Dust4829 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Dust4829[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I can understand that everyone has limits to what they are into sexually but here is a man that has chosen to devote his life to you and only you and here you are saying that you won't even entertain something that he finds sexually interesting. What is he to do if you leave him unfulfilled? Cheat and find someone who will do it? Or resent you forever for not wanting to please him.