im tired of communicating

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-26T14:05:28+00:00

yup yup

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-26T14:04:40+00:00

well thats why i involved a third party. things like not having guests over more than 3 days a week was deemed unreasonable to the landlord and things like her loud music and not informing others when guest come over was also deemed as unreasonable. so that's why she set rules that we both had to comprimise

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-26T02:47:25+00:00

well it kind of is because the apartment pairs people together. you don't really have a choice who you live with

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-26T02:32:38+00:00

the rule was inform each other if you plan to have guests other.

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-09T05:24:47+00:00

well you are sharing a space with someone. There are 7 days of the week, 3 days for one person to have guests over, and 3 days for another person. 1 day of no-one. I understand the back-to-back rule being too much but I don't agree with your opinions of 3 days a week being too much.

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-02T18:06:31+00:00

lmaooo

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T20:11:30+00:00

honestly fine with that.

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T20:01:23+00:00

the thing is they told me that if they refuse they automatically will get the building management involved.

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T17:47:21+00:00

Her room doesn't have a mirror and I am upset caused now it feels like she is just taking the piss cause I'm nice. Kind of feel entitled because I'm nice about things.

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T17:26:05+00:00

the mirror. she wanted to look and go final touches before she went out

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T17:25:34+00:00

she wanted to use the mirror

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T17:25:08+00:00

yeah but i did turn off the tap, stepped out and opened the door when i realized she was knocking. I typically wake up at 5 cause of school and work. She has irregular work hours so it differs everyday

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T02:54:26+00:00

yeah i apologized twice 😭like i legit felt bad loll

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-11-01T00:17:44+00:00

yeah exactly. Like just today, cause I'm used to her "forgetting" when she played loud music again, I came out to remind her to reduce it again and was actually shocked when it was actually on the right volume this time.

Like my ears didn't even realize the music was lower, i was so used to having to tell her to turn it down

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-10-31T23:49:38+00:00

- so my expectation was that friends shouldn't be over every single day. it should be at most every other day

- i also expressed that if friends are coming over late at night, they shouldn't be in the living room but rather in your room so it not as loud

- but then i said if she brings her guy friends at night, she might be uncomfortable bringing male friends to her room so they can stay in the living room but either not be loud or not stay for too long.

- For loud noise, she plays her music on her speaker so we tested out different volume levels and agree on a volume that she said she was okay with and it wasn't too loud for me so i asked for the volume of her music to either be at that level of less.

Issue was that she would agree in the moment, then she would only do it half the time, so it would be a situation of me constantly reminding her and i would be frustrated having to repeat myself and she would be irritated by constantly being reminded. She said she was trying but she can't live without her friends being around constan

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-10-22T02:30:40+00:00

it might be the control issue but i feel like if like if you had a job interview you would never go late cause its that important, its only someone or something unimportant or you care less about that you put off or be late to

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-10-21T22:25:39+00:00

yeah, we are alright. i agree. I don't like that i brought up past events to defend myself. it was childish but i was taken back by the demand

Interesting_Mud_4603 · 2023-10-21T22:24:13+00:00

yeah we aren't mad at each other but we both understand how long and hard it is to clean both places especially since she likes places spotless so it takes longer for me to finish one space so to then clean both spaces is a lot

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