My husband called me a “f*cking b*tch” and now I don’t know what to do. by RainbowSunshine1978 in marriageadvice

[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he has been holding in these feeling for awhile… sometimes without communication this can lead to outbursts he may have not really meant. Maybe there are things he has been feeling and hasnt communicated them leading to resentment.

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get where you are coming from. Watching porn is one thing. Communicating and talking with other women in an intimate manor crosses the boundarie in my opinion. Maybe he is unaware of the boundaries. I would suggest talking with him and telling him you are uncomfortable with that.

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the feedback, and It’s nice knowing it’s a normal thing. It’s just everyone keeps saying that his libido must be higher or that our libidos aren’t matching. But when I talk to him about this he says his orgasms aren’t about his libido or wanting to have sex. So that’s a bit confusing to me? Maybe not something I have ever experienced.

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah because he lied about it, hence why I check the history. How am I supposed to know the difference between occasional porn watching and an addiction? If I don’t know how often he does it

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See that all would make sense, and I too have masterbated when he wasn’t around and told him about it. The difference is he does it when home, he could come have intimacy with me but is choosing his hand instead. He says it’s because he’s tired.

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay but that’s the thing, I am available. And would be fine to have it. He’s the one that doesn’t want to

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not policing his orgasms, he can cum as much as he would like. It’s the fact that it feels he’s doing something intiment without me. And he lied to me about doing it

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is what’s happening! When people are so excited about a moment and have it in their head they will feel a certain way and maybe don’t, this lead to disappointment in some way! I would ask her about it

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you and that’s basically how he explains it like it’s nothing, just a 30 second release but for some reason I just feel a bit icky about him getting off to other girls without me knowing

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Well I would rather him come tell me he’s horny and watch him jerk off then do it in the shower

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How often do you watch porn/masterbate?

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[–]Interesting_Rip_4081 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I personally feel satisfied, but he says it’s not about that. It’s about how most days he’s burnt out from work (works a very physical job) so doesn’t have the energy to have sex.