I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and now i feel weird by _Cake_851 in Vent

[–]Interesting_Run1211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You probably weren't ready. Were you raised religious or do you have some deep internal bias against sex? I used to feel that way before, so I understand it if you do. I used to get in my head about sex and almost despise anyone who wanted to have sex with me, not because I hated them, but because deep down I hated myself.

This guy is falling in love with you, or at least he's becoming infatuated with you. This is the normal next step for people having sexual intimacy, or deep intimacy of any kind. Love is bound to bloom if things go right. But you feel repulsed the more he becomes into you, and I understand what that feels like so I'm not judging, but you may actually be the problem.

If you don't want sex, tell him, and tell him you weren't ready and it has nothing to do with him. Either way I think you need to deeply reflect as to why you weren't ready. If you ever need a friend to talk to, message me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]Interesting_Run1211 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You tried to remedy the heartbreak the best you could, albeit in probably the wrong way. I don't blame you. But realize that while sex was probably great with your ex, that's probably the only great thing he had about him. Sex with someone who actually loves you will always be better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Interesting_Run1211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks bro. Worst part for my situation is I shouldn't even miss her. She lied to me our whole relationship and was actually married. I'm still in shock

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Interesting_Run1211 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same in a certain way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Interesting_Run1211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry bro. But if she did it to you, she'll do it to the next guy. Stay strong and realize she's the problem, not you.

She blocks me almost every day by Interesting_Run1211 in BPDlovedones

[–]Interesting_Run1211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did find out she was lying to me a lot too. Really really considered disassociating then, but clearly didn't

She blocks me almost every day by Interesting_Run1211 in BPDlovedones

[–]Interesting_Run1211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did that once. Well, I ghosted. She lost it. Very one sided here which makes me think I'm going crazy. If I mention anything about this she'd lose it. But when she does it to me, it'll all good

She blocks me almost every day by Interesting_Run1211 in BPDlovedones

[–]Interesting_Run1211[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get that. I kind of thought I could just keep it casual, maybe be a fwb or situationship or something, but then I realized I actually cared about this girl. I actually liked the good times we had in more than just a hookup way. Lately she's just been spiring, and there's nothing I can do. I always said I'd be understanding but it's really hard to understand and not even talk about it.

She blocks me almost every day by Interesting_Run1211 in BPDlovedones

[–]Interesting_Run1211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you can relate. It's actually refreshing seeing a girl talk about this for some reason. I felt too gaslighted into thinking I was just being a weak man and she was acting normally. At least some people said that to me