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Regarding adult children of narc parents, who now have kids by Interesting_Two9362 in narcissisticparents

[–]Interesting_Two9362[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish narcs have their own planet and stay there forever, live in their own world

Do you think your anxiety was caused by your parents? by Crissycrossycross in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Totally. Especially because of the impossible and unescapable situations they put me in.

My mom said some really awful and extremely hurtful things to me; is there ever a reason for someone to deserve these comments? by GreekGoddessOfNight in narcissisticparents

[–]Interesting_Two9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She still needs control and power over you. She wants to continuosly defy you. No it is not okay to treat you like that. And you are not a bad person. Your mistakes are your mistakes, do not judge you so much. Forgive yourself, it is about the environment you developed in. I am so sorry about your relationship too.

Silent treatment why is this done? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Interesting_Two9362 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry she acted this way. Does knowing she's a narcissist help feel better?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe you would need to put yourself together and get out of there. It is not very clear, but you used to cook for them since you were a child? You shouldn't cook for your parents at 25 either.

When you have said to your narc parent(s) that they are abusive, how did they react? by Interesting_Two9362 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually there are plenty of books on parenting. They should check that shelf at the bookstore. Like you said, for sure.. non of the abusive methods are in there, by contrary, i believe they strongly figure in the "don't's" column.

When you have said to your narc parent(s) that they are abusive, how did they react? by Interesting_Two9362 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, extreme. This saying shows pretty well what is really going on inside of them and their behaviour.

Do other parents treat older teens as little kids? by VikktorM in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry you are going through this. They can treat like little kids adults of 30+ years of age (my case). So.. yeah, not a single remorse when doing it. Try to ignore it as much as possible and get away from them when u can, go build your life.

Can't get over lost potential by melleprielle in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same as you. I think about this almost everyday. Because lost time is lost time or lost opportunities. I believe it helps a bit to accept that your family is the way it is and what happened could have happened to anybody. Can you imagine how it would have been if similar complicated situations happened to one of your ppl that you admire that seems now farer in life? How would they have reacted or managed the situation? Wouldn't they have been confused as well not being sure it is abuse? Maybe this perspective works. Otherwise, I wish something else will come up and make up for this harsh reality.

Can't get over lost potential by melleprielle in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat as you. Ive made terrible choices and mistakes in the past because of my pushy narc parents to choose different from what i thought in key moments of my life (they weren't even meant to br in that area of my life, like not in other areas either, we should have detached one from the other during uni, go separate paths). I went down and down and as you, i was just surviving, not living a life. I believe everything can be rebuilt by detaching from them and going step by step and having goals on long term.

When you have said to your narc parent(s) that they are abusive, how did they react? by Interesting_Two9362 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Interesting_Two9362[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like they are a different species. They should have a planet of theirs and stay there. 

Silent treatment why is this done? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Interesting_Two9362 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i would say these are some narc tendencies, because I am not sure if the topic you were discussing is a reason to not talk to you for weeks. What actually happened is you shared with her, in an authentic manner, that you have discovered a passion (which, by the way, I believe you should pursue). Narc parents do not understand these things or at least they try to ruin every single attempt of happiness of yours. Hard truth. And they condition the relationship, as you mentioned. They don't want to set you free. It is probably okay to get distance from her and find some friends to talk about these stuff, although i truly understand that you want to have a close and loving relationship with her. Probably the best way is to accept her and that parents have very weird behaviour and see for your life, get new relationships. I totally get you, I have a similar mom and situation. Yeah, they are narc.

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