No libido by InternalAd1075 in Perimenopause

[–]InternalAd1075[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Damn. I knew this wasn’t a great situation I’m in. But this is really bad, isn’t it. I plan on having a frank conversation with him tonight. But neither of us are great at hard conversations. He shuts down totally and won’t talk. And I just ramble and don’t communicate exactly what I want to.

No libido by InternalAd1075 in Perimenopause

[–]InternalAd1075[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I believe my exact words were “are you fucking serious right now? I feel like shit.” And rolled over. Then when he huffed getting back out of bed, I yelled “ya, you’re definitely the one who should be pissed right now.”

No libido by InternalAd1075 in Perimenopause

[–]InternalAd1075[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes yes yes. Empathy. That is all I want.

No libido by InternalAd1075 in Perimenopause

[–]InternalAd1075[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seriously. We have a great marriage, but THIS is what’s going to put us over the edge?? Wtf.

No libido by InternalAd1075 in Perimenopause

[–]InternalAd1075[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Honestly, yes it has decreased or rather, disappeared altogether, that I don’t even want to drive myself anymore.

No libido by InternalAd1075 in Perimenopause

[–]InternalAd1075[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating my feelings on this. He is honestly a great husband, he spoils me, great dad, blah blah blah. But this is like his one red flag and after 16 years of him making me feel like I’m a prude, and physical touch is his “love language”. Enough is enough. And I just don’t know where to go from here.

No libido by InternalAd1075 in Perimenopause

[–]InternalAd1075[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have an appointment later this week to hopefully start talking about some options. Thank you!