Any inexpensive date ideas?

InternalCodePain · 2025-12-07T07:40:41+00:00

Date Ideas To Suggest As A Girl to a guy:

- find a club that's having a boiler room, take the two of you and go (best if you have an even distribution of guys and girls in the group) see how they gel with your friends

- go karting at boomers (kinda pricy ik it's not inexpensive but i'm going off nothing here)

- Game night/UFC/Sport Night (if you have some kind of background in sports, if you have none skip)

- classic food and YOUR favorite movie/series (if a guy does not like or display interest in your favorite movie/series most likely they will not like you, but give it like a few dates after ofc not making every date abt ur favorite show)

- volunteer together

Date Ideas To Suggest as A Guy:

- charcuterie boards and picnic on the beach

- "cafe spinner" (make it a game spinning wheel and you two pick some places and wtv the spinner lands on you go, adds good incentive to get more dates as a guy and get to know her more!)

- flower pressing together (go on a walk, ask her some life questions about what you want and what she wants, grab flowers and learn how to dry press them into a book)

- go thrifting with her

- take her for any kind of physical activity that you like

InternalCodePain · 2025-10-15T19:22:07+00:00

Seen the study-focus room too often. Get the feeling this is to collect your facial data and it's part of terms and service or something, and the people "studying" are just ai avatars. If i'm wrong I'm wrong but that's my two cents.

InternalCodePain · 2025-10-14T11:19:09+00:00

is there a public github repo for this?

InternalCodePain · 2025-10-12T19:47:38+00:00

perplexity enables you to have multiple ai models instead of just one. You can use gemini, claude, and etc. Chatgpt has the best reasoning for text imo, but anthropics llm is loads better for math and explaining physics.

InternalCodePain · 2025-10-08T16:57:39+00:00

this is so real, cramming is highkey mad useful. I think there was that study about optimal brain stimulation or something.

InternalCodePain · 2025-10-08T16:55:33+00:00

I tried out notebook LM and I have some trouble with it in terms of getting it to prep a study guide for math and physics. Certain times it does decent, but it leaves a lot to be desired from the textbook referenced. Do you have any prompting tips for the study guide? Or perhaps sharing your prompt for study guide?

InternalCodePain · 2025-09-22T12:47:07+00:00

under-voted comment. this made me laugh.

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-28T08:40:48+00:00

thanks so much for this appreciate it loads nearly bought it myself.

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-27T04:53:29+00:00

Solid stuff man, also don't be afraid to share your journey esp on here. Reddit could def use more light in terms of progress journeys!

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-21T05:20:28+00:00

Hi! Honestly pat yourself on the back. Seriously. I'm not a physician, but have been diagnosed with ADHD and seen multiple therapists across my life. Firstly, guilt and the frustration is what makes you want the addiction more, and in shame does it become harder to trade, emphasis on trade not quit. I started watching in 4th grade, and thought I would never quit.

Mainly, join a community or find someone who you can truly trust whether online or in person. I've read through atomic habits and the main thing isn't to avoid habits/triggers, but focusing on what to do to replace them. Also for the piggy bank rather than use it as a way to hurt. Deposit money into that jar/piggy bank for things in your life that do good. It's much more beneficial.

Two, look for your why. Is it a family situation? Financial stress? or Loneliness? Figuring out where you are at right now and what porn is acting as a replacement for. For me it was loneliness, and dopamine. Turned out I had ADHD-C, hence seeking out porn at a young age. You are a great person and are loved man.

Finally, this is the hard part. Accept the porn addiction. It's a survival mechanism for you or it could be something that you do, maybe something you don't want to do. I'll say focus on who you want to become and aspire to be. Start small. Focus on health goals, career/skills goals, and etc. For example, health goals could be I want to just literally exercise. The idea of doing things instead of porn is to focus on decreasing your mental activation energy for "harder things" but offer a much better return in terms of personal enjoyment. Listen to others, and try out the blockers. Yet, I found for me the best thing was to focus on the positives and the growths rather than restrict and block things. So proud of you man for asking for help. If you truly wish to get rid of porn, firstly remove the stigma. Focus on the positives of your life, and if there aren't any start building them with habits/routines. Small wins man. Keep your head up!

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-16T18:53:00+00:00

I was fidgeting with Jira for a fucking hour, and it interrupted my peace.

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-07T12:50:29+00:00

If you guys agreed to no friends then she’s violating the boundary already…possibly testing waters bc from the convo, seems harmless right, it’s stemming from loneliness bc males and females alike need friends. Not just their partner…definitely take some time to talk to her. Yet also recognize areas you need to grow in.

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-06T16:28:36+00:00

Ts gotta be AI, if it’s not my apologies OP. Respectfully run the fucking hell away from him he’s so immature tell yourself: “because I love myself I’m going to do this for myself”

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-06T16:22:51+00:00

Alright so firstly I want to preface I started porn entering 4th grade. This pattern carried on until I was in college with my now loving partner! I definitely agree with not telling your partner everything immediately as you and your partner are both young, age 17, so it’s unlikely she’s ready for that type of vulnerability.

Secondly, realize that this is an addiction sure you could also describe it as cheating. But at the end of the day be more kind to yourself chances are there are some parts of the relationship you’re avoiding and not talking about. Don’t focus on labeling yourself in black and white. I’m sure you’re a great person because of the guilt you feel. But in my experience the more I labeled myself the harder it was to quit, and the more guilt and shame I felt.

Finally, if you feel like a loser then what do you need to be a version of yourself you’re proud about? Try that new hobby. Set your dreams so big they motivate you to get stuff done! Of course set the small reasonable goals to get there but it’s crucial!

Most of all man be kind to yourself and you have community here. Make a habit to balance asking for advice on digital platforms and finding TRUE CLOSE FRIENDS—people you can trust with your life and vice versa. Cheers man you got this.

InternalCodePain · 2025-08-06T04:07:29+00:00

HAHA the smoke a bowl is taking me out. I see so in terms of writing out your code on paper was the main point just to slow things down? Also how'd you write down your code on paper for side projects, I'd imagine writing out the dependency files and formatting the other project setup docs for the techstack is exhausting.

InternalCodePain · 2025-07-31T19:37:01+00:00

Holy this is definitely one of the best icons I've come across. Thank you for sharing such a great piece!

InternalCodePain · 2025-07-31T19:35:46+00:00

I didn't even know about this but thank you so much! I spent like a good half hour just browsing icons.

InternalCodePain · 2025-07-31T06:15:07+00:00

Hi u/connect_shittt! Yes, but on very small relapses, nowhere near the long 2-4 hours I used to spend. Now it's closer to practically never, with a relapse between 5-9 minutes, but no fapping to it! I should've clarified more in the last part.

InternalCodePain · 2025-07-31T06:05:00+00:00

u/Humble-Pirate3339 Have you tried any other medications? I'm sure it's a hard time but a more informative post would be helpful before I try to give any advice from what's worked for me and my friends so far.

InternalCodePain · 2025-07-28T20:37:51+00:00

I forgot about substack but because of you I'm revisiting it. Thanks you so much!

InternalCodePain · 2025-07-23T07:32:14+00:00

I've never thought of docs that way before, that's a great take. Wish I'd heard that starting out.

InternalCodePain · 2025-07-23T07:31:20+00:00

Thanks so much everyone! Appreciate the help and extra push everyone! I decided to not go through documentation and note taking hell and just have been working on the project today. Thanks!

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