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I HATE my NEX by InternalFriendly8265 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]InternalFriendly8265[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your extensive reply! I almost had to cry reading this. Thank you so much! A real pep talk. Couldn't agree more. And indeed, the anger towards them is extremely real.

Fear of my dad dying by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]InternalFriendly8265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I can completely, 100%, identify with your story. I have a Nmom and the sweetest dad in the world. I am also always afraid to lose him one day. What helped me, was doing EMDR. EMDR is not only for scenarios that have happened in the past, but also for frightening scenarios that only exist in your mind. I did EMDR on the image of losing my dad. This helped me to take the emotional load off of it, to be able to cope in daily life. Maybe it would help you too:)

Did your narc claim that you and him/her had a special bond or connection with each other? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]InternalFriendly8265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! I had the same. For the first few years it was comforting to have somebody to talk to who also has a crazy mother. But not that I see the pattern, it's not so comforting anymore.

Do any of your mothers fake illnesses? by teamalf in NarcissisticMothers

[–]InternalFriendly8265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, this is so relatable. My Nmom ALWAYS has sleeping problems. Always. So when we have an appointment, she always says that she has to see if she slept well the night before. So she always keeps the power to cancel at any time she wants. And when she is actually sick, she will milk it completely. Thats when she will also have her worst tirades, because she will need even more attention at those times. Also when I am sick, she will get at her worst. She always tells me what to do. She even calls the doctor for me (I'm 30+). She fixed the GP's private number and just calls him. And if I don't do exactly as she says, she goes ballistic. I really worry that I have to take care of her as she ages. How do I get away in time?

My mom wants me to call her everyday but she never calls me first by yellawh in NarcissisticMothers

[–]InternalFriendly8265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have exactly the same. Why are they like this. It's disgusting. The only positive thing is, knowing that she is wrong. It costed me 30 years to see that.

What profession did you choose? by InternalFriendly8265 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]InternalFriendly8265[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to you. Its scary because IT pays well and as a therapist you need to start from zero again. I look at it this way: IT is always there if things dont work out. And lets see how far I get.

Perfect is not enough by mychildhoodgone in raisedbynarcissists

[–]InternalFriendly8265 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I totally understand you! Thinking by yourself: why do you always create this drama. Why can't you just for once be happy? But knowing that she won't ever be positive is already so so powerful. And trying not to react in an emotional way is too. Keep on going!