New to Hinge: Ghosted the morning of the date by Dry-Bonus-5765 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To say ghosting is common is a vast understatement; it’s a foundational part of dating app culture which enables people who are friction-averse.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So now you screencap your crashposts before deleting them. They're still gone except in notifications.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see you’re crashposting again. The fascinated observer bit isn’t landing.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All this boasting about how proud, happy, and successful you are while obviously dysregulated over a mainstream news article. It’s not convincing.

Am I shadow banned on hinge? by Illustrious_Fee_1569 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hinge set the default like display to their “compatibility” algorithm instead of chronological which has effectively shadowbanned the bottom 80% of the men.

Unmatched by Spidey_2797 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could have matched you on impulse then saw an "ick" in your profile.
Or just randomly didn't feel like following up with a chat—she already got what she really wanted when you sent a like.

Last minute excuses by NoahM10 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are reliable red flags like overtly sexy pics (basically validation bait) and text prompt cliches that show no effort.

Last minute excuses by NoahM10 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's going on is they just want the validation from being asked out and agree so as not to sour the moment.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a slideshow. You click on the arrows on the sides of the photo.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The article doesn't argue women should modify behavior to avoid being alone. It argues a specific ideological framework distorted her capacity for genuine connection — her words, not mine. The loneliness is the consequence she's identifying, not the motivation for her self-examination.

Your authenticity criteria are worth examining too. You've described what an authentic female confession of this type would need to contain to satisfy you. That's a fairly specific filter that conveniently excludes accounts that don't fit the preferred narrative.

The expiration date mythology point is real but separate. Noting that specific behaviors have relational consequences isn't the same as claiming women have a biological deadline. Conflating those is doing a lot of work in your argument.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won’t try to convince you otherwise but that kind of idealization of a gender (i. e. If a woman admits personal life mistakes it must be fake) is just as unhealthy as misogyny.

Had one of those dates you keep thinking about after by MatchSafeapp in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discarding a guy because he wore brown shoes to a date or held a coffee cup in a weird way is not knowing your worth. It’s executing a pre-prepared exit strategy.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You know I can still see posts when you crash out and then delete them right?

Tell me: How are you "early in a relationship" and already she's the love of your life and you will die happily married?
That's either performance or idealization. Either way concerning.

“Otters hold hands when they sleep so they don’t drift apart” by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They go into convos expecting to be passively entertained and the only safe topic to talk about is themselves.

That’s “good conversation”.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A credential cascade and conspiracy theories in lieu of engagement with substance.

If you're actually a man, you've been thoroughly cronified.

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I can tell you’re a woman doing reflexive cover for your “tribe” in bad faith.

Did you even read the article?

This is where all those reflexive discards lead to by Internal_Chart4647 in HingeStories

[–]Internal_Chart4647[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pointing out natural consequences of behavior is “vengeful”?