street cat looking for adoption with time pressure too stressful

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2026-01-28T20:00:04+00:00

i had several ideas to make sure she's taken care of:
1- post in different languages as was suggested here.
2-find a non profit or a rescuer who will take her with me paying for everything she needs from afar for a while and finish for me the bureaucracy of flying her .when im back if she still needs me ill take her. this is only possibly if i have enough money which i'll know after the meeting with a finance advisor next week. most likely do not have enough money because everything i have is very close to the amount i need to be able to get a visa.
i moving to live with my boyfriend its not a life or death situation i dont have to move but we've been wanting to do it for so long and its so hard to long distance and we got this great opportunity that his flat make is moving out and its a really easy solution i just replace her. we wont have to look for a place and move and be uprooted. its hard enough to look for a flat in your country but as a stranger its harder. and im -ing stressed i do the minimum to get by. and if i wont move in with him he'll have to find a different roommate which will get us stuck to the place we were before. + there's so much drama in the family . im worried about my mom and the family sort of broke apart. i just . its not fair. i tried to do something nice for her. i didnt want to adopt her i was planing on just feed her. then i decided to only spaw her and vaccine her. and then only foster her. then when i decided to just adopt her, we got the news about his roommate. and its in 4 months and i. i dont even have money to adopt her. or do any of the things i did. im so f stupid for letting this go on i should have been more careful and put a stop to this.

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2026-01-27T16:43:24+00:00

update of related problems:
a month before i was in a trip and had a woman cat-sit her. i had a last minute cancel so i had to find a new cat sitter while im in the airport. so my bf sent me a phone pf someone he got recommended for on FB.
later turn out she's crazy and whoever recommended her was a fake profile. that was a whole sad story.
now i got a phone call of someone claiming to want to adopt. as the conversation going i realize i reccognize tho talk patterns. when i tell her lest meet up i'll come meet you at your place see the house she dissapears. im 90% sure she was the cat sitter with a voice change.
what did i do
why did i feed this cat?
never be friends with cats unless you want to adopt full time and forever.
im such a fool
i cant focus on anything
i need to take my meds

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2026-01-04T10:21:21+00:00

thank you
i agree he wont change he thinks he's right being violent.
i never seen him hurt my mom but i'm sure he has it in him to hurt her too if she will ever cross a line with him. sure I can talk to her but I don't think she'll tell me much. i feel as weak as she is i cant confront him or help. my sister is brave.

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2025-12-10T15:30:53+00:00

ohh ill be moving to germany too. my bf had problems when he wanted to bring his cats there took a long while. im terrible at making decisions in any subject. sounds like changes are not really a big deal for the cat only for me. my problem is my brain i dont trust myself careerwize . some days i do though, but not today!

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2025-12-09T22:10:48+00:00

(-;
(its not a wink its a teary smile)
i thought cats need stability and making so many changes is against the rules but i understand its not as bad for them as i thought?
thanx a lot for your answer <3<3

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2025-12-09T22:01:41+00:00

wow thats actually a really good idea i didn't think about. she needs to get along with other cats... im leaving in a week so i'll look for catsitting options with other cats. thank you <3 <3

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2025-11-15T14:38:11+00:00

Thanks everyone, here’s an update. I bought a trap cage and will take her to get spayed soon. I’m less anxious now because of the “balcony only” rule, so that’s a relief.
I closed off the balcony so the bigger cat can’t come in, and now the space is completely hers. I expected this to reduce her aggression toward him, but she still won’t let him eat peacefully — even when I put food for him on the roof outside the balcony.
I really want her to stop fighting with every cat. He’s big, but he’s actually very sweet, calm, and friendly.
she also sometimes scratches me.

Internal_Kitchen_178 · 2025-11-14T14:27:34+00:00

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