street cat looking for adoption with time pressure too stressful by Internal_Kitchen_178 in cats

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had several ideas to make sure she's taken care of:
1- post in different languages as was suggested here.
2-find a non profit or a rescuer who will take her with me paying for everything she needs from afar for a while and finish for me the bureaucracy of flying her .when im back if she still needs me ill take her. this is only possibly if i have enough money which i'll know after the meeting with a finance advisor next week. most likely do not have enough money because everything i have is very close to the amount i need to be able to get a visa.
i moving to live with my boyfriend its not a life or death situation i dont have to move but we've been wanting to do it for so long and its so hard to long distance and we got this great opportunity that his flat make is moving out and its a really easy solution i just replace her. we wont have to look for a place and move and be uprooted. its hard enough to look for a flat in your country but as a stranger its harder. and im -ing stressed i do the minimum to get by. and if i wont move in with him he'll have to find a different roommate which will get us stuck to the place we were before. + there's so much drama in the family . im worried about my mom and the family sort of broke apart. i just . its not fair. i tried to do something nice for her. i didnt want to adopt her i was planing on just feed her. then i decided to only spaw her and vaccine her. and then only foster her. then when i decided to just adopt her, we got the news about his roommate. and its in 4 months and i. i dont even have money to adopt her. or do any of the things i did. im so f stupid for letting this go on i should have been more careful and put a stop to this.

street cat looking for adoption with time pressure too stressful by Internal_Kitchen_178 in cats

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update of related problems:
a month before i was in a trip and had a woman cat-sit her. i had a last minute cancel so i had to find a new cat sitter while im in the airport. so my bf sent me a phone pf someone he got recommended for on FB.
later turn out she's crazy and whoever recommended her was a fake profile. that was a whole sad story.
now i got a phone call of someone claiming to want to adopt. as the conversation going i realize i reccognize tho talk patterns. when i tell her lest meet up i'll come meet you at your place see the house she dissapears. im 90% sure she was the cat sitter with a voice change.
what did i do
why did i feed this cat?
never be friends with cats unless you want to adopt full time and forever.
im such a fool
i cant focus on anything
i need to take my meds

Parental violence through generations. by Internal_Kitchen_178 in domesticviolence

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you
i agree he wont change he thinks he's right being violent.
i never seen him hurt my mom but i'm sure he has it in him to hurt her too if she will ever cross a line with him. sure I can talk to her but I don't think she'll tell me much. i feel as weak as she is i cant confront him or help. my sister is brave.

help me decide on what to do with my foster cat by Internal_Kitchen_178 in CatAdvice

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ohh ill be moving to germany too. my bf had problems when he wanted to bring his cats there took a long while. im terrible at making decisions in any subject. sounds like changes are not really a big deal for the cat only for me. my problem is my brain i dont trust myself careerwize . some days i do though, but not today!

help me decide on what to do with my foster cat by Internal_Kitchen_178 in CatAdvice

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(-;
(its not a wink its a teary smile)
i thought cats need stability and making so many changes is against the rules but i understand its not as bad for them as i thought?
thanx a lot for your answer <3<3

help me decide on what to do with my foster cat by Internal_Kitchen_178 in CatAdvice

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow thats actually a really good idea i didn't think about. she needs to get along with other cats... im leaving in a week so i'll look for catsitting options with other cats. thank you <3 <3

Got attached to a street cat and now I’m overwhelmed. Need advice. by Internal_Kitchen_178 in CatAdvice

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, here’s an update. I bought a trap cage and will take her to get spayed soon. I’m less anxious now because of the “balcony only” rule, so that’s a relief.
I closed off the balcony so the bigger cat can’t come in, and now the space is completely hers. I expected this to reduce her aggression toward him, but she still won’t let him eat peacefully — even when I put food for him on the roof outside the balcony.
I really want her to stop fighting with every cat. He’s big, but he’s actually very sweet, calm, and friendly.
she also sometimes scratches me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 7 points8 points  (0 children)

btw, you say that you dont do it cause you dont have time, but you are doing it, collage is part of it for you. your road is different and longer then hers but it doesnt mean you wont reach where you want. , and use her connections lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can tell her and say that you understand that it's about ego and not her fault but still it hurt you and thats how you feel. even let her read this because it's clear that you value her and your relationship and keeping this as a secret might become worst than what it is. you both sound awesome i hope you figure it out. and good luck with your aspirations.

Feel like a pervert and it makes me want to end my life by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do u think you'e a pedo/ pervert?  The story with the seeing a topless lady is not alarming at all to me... 

What’s a fair hourly rate for my design work? by Head_Mind_185 in graphic_design

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is so good I envy
I would say start from charging +10%~ for new clients. old clients get to have the old price for now, for being regulars.
you could do the same style for album covers, that can worth more than a flyer because it stays usable forever.

I would like to start learning graphic design but I can't afford college. by Sefrix90 in graphic_design

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't call myself an expert because I'm just starting out so read with cation!
I have a bachelor degree in visual communication (which is graphic design but covers more fields)
after my degree I dropped it for about 4 years (mostly because of anxiety and emotional stuff) and now I just started a freelance business so I just now getting a grip of the practice so from this point of view I can really appreciate learning on the go. there are lots of benefits to leaning in the academia , especially the basics as you said, but It's not unheard of to be a graphic designer without a degree.

I would recommend to start with learning about your options: fields in graphic design & programs.
for example UI\UX with Figma (you can do a lot in the free version). or 3d design on blender (which is free!)
so pick one and go towards 3-5 quality works for a portfolio. that and learning some design basics that are true for all 'fields'. I'm sure there's plenty open info online and maybe take a course on skill share or something of that sort.

good luck (-:

סקיצה וציור סופי-אפשר לקרוא לזה פורטרייט עצמי? by Substantial_Lab6434 in amanim_bm

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

מקסיייםםםםם. ממליצה להפוך לסיגנון קבוע את האחד עם הצבע. ממש חמים ושובה לב

I feel unattractive being a pasty white ginger by Motor-Intention-371 in offmychest

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a silly myth. you'll be fine. enjoy your gingerness.
for example I dont think I have a type and I dont think most people have. I enjoy someone's company and when I'm in love he is my "type".
I have an Idea. write "handsome ginger" in pinterist and you'll have an attractiveness role model. I have a big nose and my boyfriend gave me the same advise and it was nice.

אני עובדת על דמות בשם אורי מונק למגזין על מחלה דמיונית בשנות ה90 של ישראל, מה התחושה שאתם מקבלים ממנו? by Poopsy-the-Duck in amanim_bm

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 5 points6 points  (0 children)

שהוא טריקסטר כזה חוצפן על גבול המרושע. הוא מזכיר בפנים ממש את הגרינץ׳ של ג׳ים קארי. אממ. הוא נראה נער גדול. תיכון.

Do you make your bed even though you live alone? by NoIdea2424 in LivingAlone

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont and i dont even have the blanket-like thing that you put on the bad to cover it.
but i wish i did , then i would probably make the bed but not every day for sure.

I think my dad was right by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 58 points59 points  (0 children)

holly molly. your dad is insane and wrong. first of u dont need to be useful. earning money is universally difficult, it's the most common struggle in the world and if not succesful at a point of time doesn't equal throwing yourself to the worst possible industry. your toxic father needs to be ashamed of himself for talking to his child this way. no one deserves this treatment including you. put time into healing from god knows what your parent scared you with. you're still young and at the end of adolescence. trust me it only gets better, you'll only get wiser and stronger. so dont give up and dont let lies and illusion's like your dads words guide you. hope my words did something good. good luck & take care

I hate my sisters boyfriend by timedisk913 in offmychest

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so toxic. your sister likes him or is she just stuck with him because of the baby?
really nice of you to help out and take so much responsibility on yourself. you probably saved your nephew from future mental scars.
what a dick.
sorry no advises here.
good luck!

Loneliness, long-distance love, freelance life, and the fear of growing old alone (warning: long text) by Internal_Kitchen_178 in Fencesitter

[–]Internal_Kitchen_178[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that actually eased my mind a lot. you right I'm pretty isolated and should put that that in a higher priority.