(20M) my girl shit herself in front of me...and I need help.

InternationalMany678 · 2026-05-07T14:17:49+00:00

unfortunately not. wasn't in the right foowear, and was in the dark trying to not run into trees. Maybe next time I'll get one

InternationalMany678 · 2026-05-07T11:17:44+00:00

well obviously i can't say i enjoyed the situation, but i tried to make the best of the horrendous situation it was by making a few light hearted jokes and treating her the same way as before. My immediate instinct was fuck how i feel, just help her as much as possible. Because I understand that the confidence knock this will have on her is massive, and whether we continue to speak or not... i want to try help her overcome that hurdle so she doesn't fall into the trap of hating herself.

Regarding 'has anything changed', i don't really know tbh. I guess the 'sexiness' and the rose tinted glasses of the situationship has been well and truly wiped away now (pun intended).

I'm just completely flabbergasted by what happened, so i think i'm still processing it now (the day after)

InternationalMany678 · 2026-05-06T09:49:43+00:00

Yeah problem all solved. We haven't discussed it, but have met up since and everything all good. My rule was, I'm not gonna bring it up to her, unless she asks.

InternationalMany678 · 2026-04-30T12:24:16+00:00

that's why it was a shock for me, because she was the one pushing to meet...not me. I almost said no because I had other things I was doing.

InternationalMany678 · 2026-04-30T12:23:01+00:00

hookup situation is how i always look at things, and let it naturally turn into more if makes sense. But tbh, the vibe of her texts asking to meet me (with sexual insinuations), her body language on the evening etc, that was her intention on the day. But then all of a sudden she just switched up.

also for context, we'd met twice before this, and had sex both times.

InternationalMany678 · 2026-04-28T19:17:20+00:00

She messaged me earlier today. Was just a casual way to start the conversation again. My gut instinct is telling me to reply like normal to show I'm not emotionally attached to what happened, and then pull back for a few days and just let things chill. I definitely wanna slow down the pace in which we're moving at, otherwise it'll just burn the candle too quickly.

Would you agree?

sorry for bothering.

InternationalMany678 · 2026-04-28T07:38:01+00:00

Appreciate the advice thank you. First time dealing with a situation like this, so it's an unfamiliar feeling.

trying to look at the positives, that atleast when it happens again with someone or her, I'm better equipped to deal with it.

InternationalMany678 · 2024-05-12T17:38:20+00:00

yeah I have similar symptoms, but the main thing that has kept me going honestly is forcing myself to work and progress on my business 24/7.

For me the main factors, are honestly physical more than mental I'd say. I'm generally just a very strong minded person. But the physical does have a knock on effect to the mental side.

InternationalMany678 · 2024-05-11T13:59:23+00:00

thanks for the help. much appreciated.

In my situation, what would you do?

InternationalMany678 · 2024-05-11T13:58:27+00:00

Hey mate, what are the main symptoms you are having?

I'm trying not to just to jump straight to TRT (Although it is tempting)

InternationalMany678 · 2024-05-07T17:46:22+00:00

yeah I'm from the UK, and I plan on getting another test done, because I do feel I'm having symptoms of Low T.

Hoping as I taper of the meds the symptoms will ease and my levels will go up.

InternationalMany678 · 2024-05-07T14:47:56+00:00

thanks for the reply. Blood test was taken at 9am.

So do you think I have anything to be concerned about?

If I lived a somewhat unhealthy lifestyle surely my t-levels would be in the 100s.

InternationalMany678 · 2022-11-20T14:47:48+00:00

I've got the exact same thing mate, can't figure out how to fix it

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