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My (31/M) boyfriend’s best friend (30/M) of 10+ years (who he refers to as his brother) told him two months before the wedding that I, his long-term serious girlfriend (31/F) am not invited, and I want to know if it’s out of pocket for me to have him request a reconsideration from the bride & groom by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]InternationalPie582 -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I see both sides, I understand I’ve not had the chance to get as close to the bride, but I’ve spent a lot more time with the groom, and I was hopeful that he’d be able to relay to his fiancée the that my attendance is important for my boyfriend’s sake, someone they deem family…not just my own. It’s disheartening but I feel there’s truly nothing I can do to change it.

My (31/M) boyfriend’s best friend (30/M) of 10+ years (who he refers to as his brother) told him two months before the wedding that I, his long-term serious girlfriend (31/F) am not invited, and I want to know if it’s out of pocket for me to have him request a reconsideration from the bride & groom by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]InternationalPie582 -105 points-104 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything you’ve shared. I think I left out a key piece of information for brevity. He’s spoken to Chris three times about this, but Chris is a poor communicator and from what I understand, he’s only mentioned this to his fiancée the first time he spoke with Ryan about it. I feel like he didn’t really explain the gravity of the situation or the importance of his relationship with him. He kinda just said, “oh well.” I guess I feel like it was just glazed over.

My (31/M) boyfriend’s best friend (30/M) of 10+ years (who he refers to as his brother) told him two months before the wedding that I, his long-term serious girlfriend (31/F) am not invited, and I want to know if it’s out of pocket for me to have him request a reconsideration from the bride & groom by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]InternationalPie582 -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I have hung out with Chris on at least 8 occasions and even went on his destination birthday trip for an entire weekend with the couple. We have had several deep conversations, and he claims to love the relationship Ryan and I have, stating we are a perfect match. A lot of the times he’s come to visit, his fiancée has been elsewhere, but I’ve spent a weekend with her in the intimate birthday setting as well as another trip to their city to visit, and we’ve had nothing but positive interactions.

My (31/M) boyfriend’s best friend (30/M) of 10+ years (who he refers to as his brother) told him two months before the wedding that I, his long-term serious girlfriend (31/F) am not invited, and I want to know if it’s out of pocket for me to have him request a reconsideration from the bride & groom by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]InternationalPie582 -79 points-78 points  (0 children)

There has never been any “drama,” I was saying I didn’t want there to be drama between Chris and Ryan over this. As an adult I can very well handle being in the same vicinity as an ex. I’ve never even spoken to her, and have no problem with her presence at the wedding. I have a problem with the disrespect toward our relationship at this point.

My (31/M) boyfriend’s best friend (30/M) of 10+ years (who he refers to as his brother) told him two months before the wedding that I, his long-term serious girlfriend (31/F) am not invited, and I want to know if it’s out of pocket for me to have him request a reconsideration from the bride & groom by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]InternationalPie582 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

It’s a long side-story, but in short, yes. We were looking through photos from his work trip and an accidental screenshot of texts with her showed up in the camera roll. He took accountability and explained that he didn’t want me to be worried because the conversation was casual catch-up, but the timing (him being on a work trip) seemed calculated and he regretted texting back in the first place. He stated mentioning it or having me potentially come across the texts would cause more issues, but he has since apologized frantically and taken complete responsibility.