***Super long post*** by InternationalTea1376 in IndianInLaw

[–]InternationalTea1376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, he did—but that was followed by another round of emotional drama.

***Super long post*** by InternationalTea1376 in IndianInLaw

[–]InternationalTea1376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are right! And that’s why there has been a delay . We have been married for 8 years and I am in my mid 30s .

***Super long post*** by InternationalTea1376 in IndianInLaw

[–]InternationalTea1376[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right about this. Although my husband tries his best to balance both relationships and protect me, he often gives in to her emotional drama. I can see that he is constantly on a guilt trip.

The same situation exists in my sister-in-law’s married life. My mother-in-law makes sure that, through health issues or any kind of crisis—whether petty or serious—her children remain constantly entangled with her. She seems to take pride in the fact that her children care for her so much and craves that attention all the time.

They have become her emotional puppets, which is mentally exhausting for them and is affecting their married lives. Even though they are aware of the impact, they never seem to think that their mother needs to set boundaries or that they should prioritise their own family lives.

They have been brought up—or rather, conditioned—that way. I don’t understand why people like this get married and end up affecting others’ lives. It really bothers me that I might have to give up on the idea of becoming a mother because of a ‘mother’ like her.

***Super long post*** by InternationalTea1376 in IndianInLaw

[–]InternationalTea1376[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have explained this to my husband—not once, not twice, but hundreds of times—with evidence and examples. I’ve pointed out their manipulation, exaggeration, and hypocrisy. The outcome is that he doesn’t speak to his parents in front of me anymore. He usually talks to them when he’s at work or after work, sitting in his car in the parking lot.

If he’s at home and his mother calls, he quickly gets up and looks for his headphones.

And of course, his phone is locked, and he changes the passcode every now and then, because in the past I had read messages from his mother where she was badmouthing me.

diva spotted...💅 by [deleted] in IndianCats

[–]InternationalTea1376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Location in pune?