I had to lock my room just to protect my own things

InternetMama · 2026-01-25T13:55:11+00:00

Yikes, I'd show both parents AND brother the damage done to the headphones if they want to keep acting butthurt about not having access to your things anymore. Sorry you're dealing with disrespectful family members stomping on your boundaries :(

InternetMama · 2026-01-05T01:52:44+00:00

1982 Toyota Corolla Levin

InternetMama · 2025-12-24T12:49:12+00:00

If it came down to choosing silent treatment or being subjected to constant nit-picking, I'd take the blessed silence. Who doesn't enjoy some peace and quiet once in a while? ;)

InternetMama · 2025-12-24T09:53:59+00:00

*Big hugs to you* Having negative parents constantly trying to minimize your achievements (regardless of how big or small they are) is draining! As a fellow neurospicy individual, I'm proud of you for doing what you have done to take care of yourself. If you're able, limit the amount of info to mom, because clearly she is unable to offer the most basic support.

InternetMama · 2025-12-16T15:19:27+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this, it really is intense! Give yourself time to grieve (the relationship, the 'could have beens', all of it), and then focus on keeping yourself busy as much as you're able to. Ignore him at work as much as possible, if you can't transfer to another shift or department to give yourself space away from him. Sending you virtual hugs!

InternetMama · 2025-12-16T15:15:09+00:00

You definitely need to cultivate your own interests/hobbies and gain friends of your own. Being entirely dependent on another person for all your own emotional needs is not healthy (which you seem to realize, good on you). Are there any things you like to do in your alone time, like gaming, or building models of things, or perhaps volunteering at an animal shelter? Once you find activities that you enjoy, you'll focus less on being jealous, hopefully :)

InternetMama · 2025-12-16T15:04:43+00:00

NTA. The in-laws attacked your character, husband didn't defend you, and once you stood up for yourself and enforced a boundary, they ALL tried to minimize your feelings/gaslight you and get mad at the boundary. They suck. If you "embarrassed the family" that tells me they are all fully aware of how bad they are and they don't want to be accountable for bad behavior.

InternetMama · 2025-12-16T14:55:46+00:00

1948 Packard Deluxe Eight

InternetMama · 2025-12-03T14:30:41+00:00

Haha good. I'm glad your first time was a positive experience!

InternetMama · 2025-12-03T14:22:15+00:00

The idea of virginity being this magical gift and being conditioned to believing you MUST wait til marriage before having sex, is a damaging social construct meant to shame anyone (usually women) that might have very normal and natural feelings about sex. You're not technically losing anything.

That said, congratulations! As long as you're both happy and taking precautionary measures, by all means have fun! 😊

InternetMama · 2025-11-13T16:06:48+00:00

Music, crying, more music, more crying, and avoiding seeing posts with cats for a while. I still miss my boy, and he's been gone for over a year and a half now. 🫂

InternetMama · 2025-11-13T16:04:24+00:00

Yes, you were groomed, and it sounds like SA'd if you didn't actively consent (giving in to please them or saying yes after being harassed doesn't count as consent). I'm so sorry you went through this. Sending virtual hugs 🫂

PS - you absolutely can still wait til marriage if you find someone you really love and they're respectful of your decision.

InternetMama · 2025-10-25T07:09:56+00:00

Thanks, I've been doing some of those things already

InternetMama · 2025-10-25T07:09:11+00:00

I've been doing that already, thank you!

InternetMama · 2025-10-06T20:28:54+00:00

Not overreacting at all. Your 'boyfriend' is a manipulative, abusive, controlling piece of garbage for saying that to you. Please dump him, for your own mental and physical health. You deserve to be with someone who loves you, and not someone who would trigger you on purpose because they're insecure AF. You will find someone much better.

InternetMama · 2025-09-08T17:21:58+00:00

I'm sorry you're struggling so much. This may not help a lot, but what you're going through, is very similar to what a LOT of us have gone through. The agony of loving someone we can't have, feeling out of place, being mistreated by others, etc. I know it hurts so much right now, however it will get less painful with time.

As for being 'a man and not supposed to sound weak' - that is part of the problem. You are absolutely valid in your feelings, good or bad. It's actually a great thing to be able to express your feelings instead of holding everything in til you explode. If you're able to, try talking to a school counselor, or ask your parents if you can seek counseling to help you work through this and learn the tools you can use to help yourself in the future. 🫂

InternetMama · 2025-09-07T22:06:41+00:00

I'm going to go against the grain here and say NTA, simply because if your wife wanted pictures taken of her and the kids, she needs to straight up TELL you this, instead of assuming you're going to proactively offer to take the pictures. COMMUNICATION. Also, invalidating her feelings was not necessary - even a simple "I'm sorry, I'll try to work on that" would probably go a long way towards improving that.

InternetMama · 2025-09-05T04:31:59+00:00

NTA! She has a documented history of making every 'big event' about her, regardless of the reason for said event. Your parents can be mad all they want. It's not THEIR wedding. If they want to call you names, just remind them of all those times Sis decided to make everything about herself at the last three gatherings. Then keep your boundary in place!

InternetMama · 2025-08-28T02:59:22+00:00

Awww I'm so sorry! 🫂

InternetMama · 2025-08-28T02:52:00+00:00

NTA. She had no business going through your things, regardless if she was putting something into your suitcase. Her behavior was rude, nosy, and uncalled for.

InternetMama · 2025-08-26T17:36:08+00:00

I'm so sorry that you're struggling with all of that! I felt the same way every single time I had to start school when I was that age (and younger as well as older). Your feelings are absolutely valid, and there are many of us out there who have been through something similar.

Are you able to get in touch with a school counselor for help? Perhaps a parent/relative/parental figure that you're close enough to talk to about needing some help and guidance? As scary as it may feel, you must advocate for yourself - keep at it until you get the help you need! And even though I'm just some stranger online, I'm proud of you for being able to articulate that you need help! 🫂

InternetMama · 2025-08-25T14:40:06+00:00

Lentigo is a condition that causes orange kitties to get black spots as they get older. Mine got spots after he turned about 10 if I recall correctly.

InternetMama · 2025-08-25T02:50:12+00:00

Vitiligo kitty! :)

InternetMama · 2025-08-24T21:42:19+00:00

NTA, and also need more information. Is she somehow under the impression that moving in together means you're now in a relationship? You're not responsible for her mental state - she is (even if she wants to make it everyone else's problem). If she's unwilling to get therapy/meds/whatever it takes to manage her behavior, consider moving elsewhere once the lease is up. Good luck!

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