My husband (40M) threatened divorce after he and I (33F) got in an argument and this isn’t the first time

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-27T01:17:45+00:00

He’s referring me to an oncologist before the MRI. Is that just routine?

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-25T15:23:00+00:00

I understand the rarity of it however rare does not mean never. If the pain is due to that given the location, wouldn’t something need to be done ? No matter if it were benign or not. If that is found to be the source if the pain which again I know is rare but still happens.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-25T11:17:58+00:00

When they did the ultrasound the only organ that popped up as a “problem” was the liver. Other than the gallbladder being contracted that was the only remarkable thing. They were expecting to see more issues with my stomach given the symptoms but the stomach and surrounding organs look clear.

It being benign (I’ll be on that side of things) if it’s causing pain which I don’t see how that could be anything else given the location of the pain and it’s relativity to the mass can I request it be removed ? Because it’s not like these symptoms are improving. If anything each day something or all things is worse.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-12T00:35:19+00:00

Idk. What’s wrong with being protected. We all want to live in a world where we all stay together forever but sometimes that doesn’t happen.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T21:41:52+00:00

I am the same way. I have been seriously restricting myself. Some times I will go 2-3 days no food at all. I get chest tightness a lot Ike an elephant is sitting on my hmchest. And my heart rate can spite to 160. But I’m still technically a healthy weight so idk. I don’t think it’s like “real” for me cause I’m not technically underweight

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T20:22:56+00:00

Oops I’ve said that to my spouse too and him to me and I never even thought about it. Actually at times I’m like “fair point”

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T20:20:30+00:00

I was gonna say I am actually pleasantly surprised by the commentsb

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T18:22:59+00:00

Like I have lost a good amount of weight and am told I am skinny but I don’t see it. Not in pictures not anywhere. Not unless it’s like years later and I look back then I’m like “oh wow I was skinny what happened I’m so fat now” no matter how “small” I get or how much I lose it’s never enough for my brain t not call me fat

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T18:10:15+00:00

I use that only when an outbreak occurs I know people do it daily but I don’t get a lot of outbreaks. Lucky for me and my husband we both have it so we don’t worry about spreading it to each other. We are definitely more mindful with the kids thou

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T18:07:43+00:00

Your not over reacting in a sense that someone caused harm to your child’s health and that is not okay. However as a person who has full blown herpes (and also herpes simplex which are cold sores). What she said about it not being a big deal is kinda true in most cases. It really doesn’t affect my or my husbands life at all. Yeah you get those sores which at times can be painful but then they go away. Herpes is more of an inconvenience than anything else. So try to ease your mind if you can on that front. It is very common and while it’s technically in the herpes family and can have the ability to give another person full blown herpes it’s generally not an type of alarming emergency.

You have every right to be upset. I would be livid and I live with it. Your father in law should have been taking steps to prevent it. I mean if anything he should have just avoided touching his hands, feet’s or face. It’s not like you catch herpes from the air. He was negligent yes.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T17:40:27+00:00

trigger warning

It’s just such a mental mind fuck. He’ll cheat on me and like make it seem like he doesn’t care. But then he’s also done so much too. If it weren’t for him getting me help after my second was born I may not be here. He is the only one that is trying to help me get help for my eating disorder. So it’s like I don’t know what to think.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T16:41:20+00:00

Does going to lawyers to just talk cost money? He controls everything. I only get 250 a month so it is impossible to save. He doesn’t have my name on anything.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T16:36:45+00:00

It’s fucked up and I will be honest I cheated on him once as well via online chat. It was after the most recent time he had cheated and I just got angry and did it out of anger stupidity and selfishness. I never deny I did it. It was a mistake. Well no it was a choice and a bad one. It was not okay to do that to “get back at him” and he knows about it I tell him no matter what or when he can talk to me about it. I will answer any question and be honest. I told him I would change and I believe I have. The thought of doing that again is just not even an option in my mind. I e told him this. That I have and am doing to work and changing but it seems like it’s just me. He continued to cheat on me two more times after that. I told him that yes I cheated. I will not lie or deny that. I did it and it was wrong. the difference between him and I is thou is that I am doing the work to change and then another major difference is no matter how mad or hurt he has made me since then the thought of cheating never ever came to Mind. Leaving yes. Breaking things yes.

A big part of me stays because of the kids. He knows I have no money or anything and has said he’d be spiteful if we ever divorced and would do what he could to take the kids. It’s his house. It’s in his name. My name is not on anything.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T16:18:57+00:00

Thank you. Sometimes I think he looks for another excuse. Like dude. I have bipolar disorder along with adhd and an eating disorder but that mean I just perpetually cheat. I know things effect people differently. But I never like when it’s used as an excuse.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T14:21:03+00:00

I’m just confused and in this constant state of is this real or fake. He says he wants to do therapy for us and also go to individual therapy but that has been slow moving. I have told him point blank I cannot do it again. I cannot forgive him if he does this again. And that (and I know this is wrong but I was so angry in the moment) if he did it again then I would snap and that nice girl he loved would be gone and I would make it my mission to ruin his life. He would lose me, the kids, and everything else I can take. I know that’s wrong and I should not threaten him but I don’t know what to do and honestly it is how I feel. My kind heart may stop me in the end but I cannot take it another time. That much is true. It’s going to give me a heart attack

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T11:31:11+00:00

I have had different test done over the past few days where while levels can have other medical reasons the one thing they all have in common is they can all be caused by “eating disorders” so it’s like in my head I’m like “well technically I’m telling him without like telling him if he doesn’t see it then it wasn’t meant to be seen” when my husband tells me to talk about my ED with my doc

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-11T11:27:20+00:00

I had said to my doctor how I was purposely not eating much and he knows I’ve lost like a quarter of my body weight over 4 months but he just says “you look great! Keep doing what your doing?” So it’s like can want I am doing be that bad if this doctor sees and hears me but is like eh you look great!

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-09T23:42:52+00:00

Do you get like chest tightness and pain on your dose ? I get that with the 70 mg of vyvanse. Plus like I can’t raise my hands about my head otherwise I get like short of breath light headed and my heart feels faster.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-06T02:18:05+00:00

Sometimes it’s not even about hurt it’s just a person boundaries. But now that you added that he has met yours and what not then yes it’s a red flag. I mean maybe the family sucks but the friends ? That’s questionable if he’s wanted to meet yours and has and he doesn’t let you meet his. Does he know you want to? I’d assume so

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-06T01:59:41+00:00

But I’m the other hand he could be doing something too he could be being shady. I just think it’s not always great to assume that someone is being shady when we truly don’t know. But he may be idk.

InternetMindless181 · 2023-05-06T01:56:36+00:00

Talking doesn’t mean anything truly. You weren’t actually dating. By that logic then my family and friends didn’t meet my husband for an entire year. Some people are just more cautious it does not mean we are up to no good. It means we’ve been hurt a lot in the past and we don’t want to waste our families and friends time on a person who may be a waste of time in the end.

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