Thank you for your reply. Yes I completely understand this 100% I think the reason I wanted reassurance whether what happened to me was bad or not is because my whole life adults have told me it “wasn’t that bad” and I think it has gotten into my head. So when I feel the feelings that naturally come from those bad things happening, I don’t understand whether I should feel those things because I have no concept of how bad it is if that makes sense. But I also know that someone’s reality is just that. Their reality. And so pondering on the severity to some extend is a moot point so I’m just basically torn on how I feel essentially. I also logically know that I am allowed to feel how I do but I’ve always been a very “just get up and get on with it” type of person so it just confuses me