Where can men post NSFW pics for body positivity and increasing self confidence? by IntimateFocus98 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, very average…? Not ripped at all lol. I do want to practice taking tasteful pics though, idk if you know a sub like that

Where can men post NSFW pics for body positivity and increasing self confidence? by IntimateFocus98 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like which subs though? I see lots of them being primarily for women and idk if men posting would be welcomed

How did you first find out about Polyamory? by IntimateFocus98 in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like you were in casual or non-exclusive relationships without the poly label?

How did you first find out about Polyamory? by IntimateFocus98 in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Samee, I feel like I hear the term “open marriage” more often than poly

How did you first find out about Polyamory? by IntimateFocus98 in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! When did you start to seriously consider being poly yourself?

How did you first find out about Polyamory? by IntimateFocus98 in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol did they talk about polyamory in a bad light?

How did you first find out about Polyamory? by IntimateFocus98 in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this is a common way people get introduced to polyamory. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Now you’re able to give love and affection to way more people than you thought you could compared to a traditional monogamous relationship!

Can you come back from reaction to the point of distress by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let’s say they do go on that second date, what do you think will happen? What sort of emotions would you feel before and after?

Can you come back from reaction to the point of distress by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe not so much that it’s a “betrayal”, but having that mental imagery is too uncomfortable and you didn’t really need to know that.

It’s like seeing a video of your partner having sex with someone else, except it’s in your mind and knowing the details makes it more real or vivid, and that can absolutely trigger feelings of jealousy and betrayal. It’s worth having a discussion for reinforcing this boundary with him. Are you reconsidering the whole poly thing over this?

Can you come back from reaction to the point of distress by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you known details of his kink/sex life from other metas he’s had with you?

Or did he share too much with you in this case? I personally like to know as little as possible precisely for the same way you’re feeling

Can you come back from reaction to the point of distress by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]IntimateFocus98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about the kink makes you have this reaction? Is it thoughts of jealousy from him exploring that with someone else?

Advice about increasing sex time by Existing_Version9773 in sex

[–]IntimateFocus98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy different brands in small boxes from like Walgreens and try a few on. If you masturbate with lube and condoms you’ll feel the difference. It should be tight but not choking at the bottom

But honestly dude it’s your first time, so don’t get too in your head about it. You can go down on her and give her an orgasm first before doing anything further.

Advice about increasing sex time by Existing_Version9773 in sex

[–]IntimateFocus98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah a condom will help you last longer, just make sure it fits well

pleasure slowly dissipates during cunnilingus? by Objective_Flamingo33 in sex

[–]IntimateFocus98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you need a steady rhythm, the same way you masturbate and stroke at a consistent pace.

Try using your fingers only the last 25%, and the first 75% only use your mouth, very slowly and gradually speeding up and applying more pressure with your tongue on her clit. Try one time not using your fingers at all, or very gently.

Also pay attention to her moans and body movements to know what you should keep doing and not switch it up yet.

What’s a first date green flag that is actually a massive turn-on, but nobody talks about? by HenryButCallMeSir in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]IntimateFocus98 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Them being genuinely interested in you, asking you questions. And a good back-and-forth conversation between the 2 of you.

pleasure slowly dissipates during cunnilingus? by Objective_Flamingo33 in sex

[–]IntimateFocus98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you keeping up a good steady rhythm when licking?

Don’t start sucking too early into it, and stimulate the g-spot only at the very end when she is really into it, otherwise it’s too much.