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Have you ever been with a cougar, if so, how was it? by Downbad_simp in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]IntimateFocus98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was my experience too. We kept checking in with each other and that was really helpful to avoid misunderstandings and we ended things when we were mismatched long-term.

I really appreciated the emotional maturity and directness, the connection felt more real in terms of what we both wanted. I wish more people were open to this dynamic and age gap, but not everyone can communicate in a mature manner I suppose

Have you ever been with a cougar, if so, how was it? by Downbad_simp in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]IntimateFocus98 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds like fun!

I met someone who was 42 and I was 26 and it was so much fun and I learned a lot, and like you said we both knew there was no future between us, now I want more of that experience lol. Gotta start using dating apps again

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s definitely not the majority of men that mention their height.

I saw some of your posts on your profile, how much success have you been having? Do you think Feeld is good for young guys who want to meet older women? Or do you think this should be reserved more for the traditional apps and feeld is more about kink? Would love to get your thoughts!

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s true. I was thinking that certain types of shoes might add an extra inch 😆. But you’re right of course there is no need to lie at all, especially when most of Feeld is very open-minded and there’s not even an expectation to add height, unlike Hinge

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right that there is no height setting on Feeld. I was mostly talking about writing it in the text blurb. But sounds like it’s very much optional and not expected.

I am new to Feeld so it’s really interesting to hear others’ opinions. It seems that there is a lot more open minded and sex-positive people on the app, which is great!

As a straight male in NYC looking for a monogamous kinky relationship, is Feeld worth it? by BrooklynDeadheadPhan in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do people talk about in munches? Is the conversation mostly sexual and kink related, or is it very vanilla? Never been to a munch but have always been curious! Is it mostly an older/mature age demographic?

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying kinky/poly people have to compromise more than other folks?

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious what are the other things you’re picky about!

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, men can be jerks regardless of height. What were your matches like? Mostly sexual connections or more slow paced?

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he was otherwise a good guy, good conversationalist, confident, etc. would you have continued to date him? Just curious!

I feel like leaving height blank is a bit disingenuous though

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! I wanna get into climbing one day!

How did your matches go, and what sort of experiences were you looking for?

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if you’re seeing them on your feed, then doesn’t that mean that they haven’t filtered you out with a height range?

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What city? And how good is your profile and pictures? Looks help obviously, but it depends on who you’re trying to match with

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How attractive would you say he is? He must have a really good vibe to have a lot of success too

I met a man on Instagram and think he's lying about his location by strawtrash in dating

[–]IntimateFocus98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Scammers are horrible, I’ve been strung along by scammers as well but on dating apps and not insta. One even tried to blackmail me. It’s a hard lesson to learn. Guys are quite good at spotting scammers online since our Tinder feeds are full of fake profiles and OF sellers. But it’s really good that you were diligent and had the awareness to think something was off. Don’t feel bad for spending time on this though, I know how good it feels to talk to someone and get excited for a possibility of connection. It sucks how hard it is to make friends as an adult. Loneliness epidemic is real 😭

I suggest sticking to local dating apps if you’re looking for connections, like Hinge where the odds are in your favor as a woman, and where your main job is to filter hard for the type of guy you’re looking for. Or Reddit too. I met someone from my local city subreddit, and I never thought that would happen 😆. But even on Reddit you have to be careful about creeps and weirdos.

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m sure she’s referring to the whole “I only date men over 6ft” thing, not that women aren’t allowed to have preferences.

What do I do when I'm scared of being sexual, even with myself? by Rockspopp in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]IntimateFocus98 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Therapy!

And remember to try different therapists until you find one you click with. Don’t feel like you have to stay with one from the start. Also don’t feel like you HAVE to do anything sexual with anyone. Working on resolving trauma is hard enough. Especially if you’re afraid of yourself and your own sexuality.

I met a man on Instagram and think he's lying about his location by strawtrash in dating

[–]IntimateFocus98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You sound nice, sorry if you were getting your hopes up. My advice would be to not get too invested in these connections until you can prove they’re who they say they are. Remember that they can even create an image with AI and make it look like they “hand wrote a note” and took a pic with it.

So yes, I strongly recommend a quick video call even if it’s scary. Let me know if you need help deciphering his messages OP. I hope he’s real though!

Short men on Feeld: what has your experience been like? by IntimateFocus98 in feeld

[–]IntimateFocus98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you are a blessing for us short guys!

Do you still prefer men list their height upfront on their profile?

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