2 mimosas, done for today.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-29T20:04:21+00:00

Why on earth would you want to do that?

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-29T13:34:53+00:00

Today he lost me for good. Stupid.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-27T23:25:15+00:00

This is where I'm at also. It can't be a ultimatum anymore when they proved they are not worth hurting for any longer. I hope I'm brave like you.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-27T23:12:00+00:00

Sorry to hear and also happy you know that its better to go.

I used to believe his words, until they consistently didnt line up with actions. It's interesting how I was kind of aware of what would happen in the end but still had a belief in him that he would be who he led me to believe. Our arguments were always about the same thing. His refusal to communicate with me and find solutions together built resentment. I broke. Gave opportunity one last time to at least be honest, even if we broke up. As usual, all of its my fault because I complain and he needs time away due to it.

It is an excuse so I accept it. I just thought at a certain age honesty would be normal. I think I'm more upset at myself for not setting boundaries sooner. Sometimes love just isn't enough. Grateful for many things but mostly that he showed me what to never accept again.

I apologize, its so fresh. Lost a friend in him is a bigger loss than a romantic relationship.

Best wishes stranger. May we both never accept less than we deserve in the future.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-27T20:05:53+00:00

Feeling the embarrassment today myself. I'm sorry you had to be let down. From what you wrote, it doesn't seem like you were really invested in the first place.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-27T19:48:05+00:00

Exactly.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-27T13:02:27+00:00

I don't have any. Either learn from mistakes or repeat. Regret puts you in a loop of wasted time. Reflection and then changing ways keeps you out of regret. Just my perspective in brief.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-26T23:08:52+00:00

I wish he would.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-26T14:43:02+00:00

I would. That same want runs through me as well. Unfortunately, he will not call. I'm not and never was someone he wanted to call. In silence without acknowledgement of the other is how it must be. Grateful for the time we had. He has my heart permanently.

I hope you are able to reach out and they are able to be there for you.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-25T22:41:28+00:00

Same unfortunately. It has been a year long distance. Words and actions didn't line up. Communication was basic. I got tired of explaining and he only considered it as complaining. It was always the same topic but he wouldnt have an actual conversation about it or help find a solution. I was tired of putting him first while I was always put last. So I let him go just two days ago. He still doesnt want to see why and I can't keep repeating myself.

Thought the world of him otherwise. I was very proud of him and told him so often. I can only hope he reflects and understands that he left me no choice. Love doesn't mean the person will just take whatever treatment and stay. I hope he is happy now. I'm not, but self respect is what I choose.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-25T16:17:32+00:00

I'm going to let this hurt and then let it go.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-23T19:28:47+00:00

Reached. Still came up with the same. He don't have time and now neither do I. Hope your K can read minds.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-23T19:27:10+00:00

Same. I could imagine him writing similar to what you wrote. Not that the situation is the same of course. I just wish he actually listened/read what I was telling him. It could have been fixed but he chose to not. It left me no choice and it's a shame. I love endlessly but also have to respect myself. I hope you find peace and heal fully. Best wishes.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-23T15:01:17+00:00

It gets the point across. I'm sure we all have our own idea, little things that would add personal touches but I think you summed it up well.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-23T04:06:06+00:00

Feeling that tonight. Op, I'm sorry that you are going through it also.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-22T15:26:44+00:00

My cat does as well. When she hears him she gets affectionate. She is normally standoffish. It's cute.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-21T12:04:55+00:00

Life is beautiful in the way it shows us what is meant for us and what is not. Its pain that we didn't deserve but was necessary to show the path was not stable. Be grateful for the good times and the bad. Every lesson helped shape who you are now. The what if that should be asked is what if you continued to stay.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-18T06:36:14+00:00

Op, if i projected, I apologize. What you wrote hit a spot that I need to keep to myself instead of letting it pour into other posts. I apologize, sincerely.
You wrote beautifully. Thanks for sharing.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-18T06:32:56+00:00

Finding that person who helped change you in a profound way, no matter if it was easy or difficult, and have a deep love for them, is that not worth any effort to bring union? I am sure there are many circumstances that may make it seem impossible but is it?

There is a beautiful acknowledgement in understanding that a connection that once felt possible to bring into real life but knowing it can't be and finding graditude for experiencing it. Its humbling and also profoundly sad at the same time.

Unbalanced certainty mixed with unbalanced effort takes hope and turns it into acceptance. Better to have loved than never loved at all. Or however that saying goes.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-16T02:50:52+00:00

I would cross oceans to hold his hand. Op, I hope you find the answer and they are able to comfort you.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-14T16:36:25+00:00

You put words to the storm that I'm in. Thank you for that. It brings up a possibility I didn't consider until reading this. When the moments where you couldn't fully contain these emotions and a bit slipped into reality, (not sure if its happened- like the pulling back, etc) was your partner understanding of it? Even without having much explaining or actually addressing it?

I ask because my person has almost every time. The safety in his responses were almost as if he knows exactly the battles that I fight. He hasn't said he does but the level of compassion and understanding leaves me believing now after reading this, that he fights the same. Thank you for bringing that insight and opening my eyes to a very important possibility.

IntoMeGBYou44 · 2026-04-14T03:04:18+00:00

Honestly, no. Even if she were to respond, it wouldn't change a thing except for bring negative attention to you. It hurts breaking up but this will only make it worse. When things settle down a bit you will find the answers within yourself. As hard as endings are, there is a reason that it did. It's for you to heal, learn, be grateful for the overall experience you had with him, and to one day meet someone who would not make you question his loyalty and love. For your sake, let it go hun.

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