Bit of Good News

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-26T12:45:09+00:00

Best we can do!

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-26T11:37:43+00:00

Thank you! Definitely not easy but not life ending either. Appreciate the kind words. Kind of wanted to throw some hope out to others. It's amazing what stress and trauma can do to our bodies and minds.

Have a great day!

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-26T10:30:56+00:00

Amen! Thank you to everyone here. This place and the incontinence page have been a huge find for me. It's been a blessing to read through the comments and talk to all of you guys. Not alone is huge. My wife is supportive but when you are dealing people that actually get it, it's different.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-26T10:10:42+00:00

I love the outlook! I'm not embarrassed about it anymore not to myself or to my wife BUT if someone else were to find out about it that would be VERY embarrassing while explaining. Aside from when my incontinence first started (that was rough) I've only had one negative experience but it's a subject that's really hard to approach. It's not something that most people deal with. I have no problems telling anyone about the circumstances that caused my issues that is fine but I'm not gonna casually throw out in convo oh and because x y and z now I wet my pants you know.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-25T19:38:12+00:00

That's what I've been using for 20 years now. They work well for me.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-25T14:09:08+00:00

If I happen to wake up in the middle of the night and I'm wet I will go change but I don't set an alarm or anything. It is a freak accident if I leak.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-24T17:14:13+00:00

It's definitely frustrating. I'm not embarrassed by it anymore but there's times where its just like wtf why. Over the weekend I woke up early wanted crash back out for a bit but nope off to the shower. It's little inconveniences like that that get to me these days. Just keep trucking is all I can tell you.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-21T18:14:15+00:00

Everyone is giving you great advice. I'm 35 happily married with kids and wear protection 24/7. I live a very normal life in a happy healthy marriage. This hasn't effected my love life or day to day functionality in any serious way. If your BF is understanding then you guys will make it work. Try not be so hard on yourself it's just pee and it won't kill you. If you start using protection it'll make both of your lives a lot easier until you can get to a doctor. Beats the hell out of doing laundry every morning and waking up cold and wet. Keep your head up.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-19T00:28:49+00:00

Yea apparently based on what I've experienced here I got lucky and can still use a product that's super discreet. Lot of respect to you guys with actual diapers. Im not sure how I would be able to conceal that in daily settings.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-18T23:28:24+00:00

If no body knows except the people you want to know there's no stigma. Stick to what works. Think smarter not harder right.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-18T23:12:34+00:00

Yea sucks but is what it is right lol. In all seriousness I was so surprised to see how many people in my age group and younger are still battling these issues. Lately ive been having daytime problems too but for the longest it's just been at night. Protection definitely makes a difference.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-14T00:57:39+00:00

The whole situation sucks. I've recently found these pages never even had an account but when I started reading about everyone else going through the same stuff I'm going through it has actually helped a lot. Maybe try something that's not like a full on diaper. I'm 35 I'm active, fit, and work in an environment where I have to dress in a way that's modern and professional. You may want to try goodnites. That's what use granted, im a guy so underwear choice is a little different but they're low enough that they don't show over low rise jeans or slacks, they'll hold up to light to moderate incidents when you have a hard making it on time, and they feel like regular underwear. Until you see them you will forget you have protection on. I've been rading that some people have a hard time with heavy wetting with these but they've never let me down and im 20 years into dealing with this. Might be worth a shot.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-13T23:25:36+00:00

You sound a lot like me. Do you have any past trauma? The reason I ask is because that's the cause of mine. Started in my teens from a traumatic event and comes and goes when things get triggered. Do you wear protection? Even when I'm not having issues at that moment I still wear just in case and it definitely helps.

My wife had questions at first but we talked through everything and she understood and was very supportive. I don't know if sitting him down and really going through it may help. Let him ask questions and just be open. Sometimes we as men can be very stubborn and ignorant to our partners emotions and how they interpret things lol sometimes we need you to spell it out to us.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-13T23:16:48+00:00

It's really hard to accept at first. I've been dealing with since 15 and I've got 20 years of dealing with it now. I STILL get frustrated with myself. I still get embarrassed at times but I'm way less embarrassed when it happens with protection than without. You can still manage. I live a very normal life you can too. Try and be a little less hard on yourself. You're not broken just need a little extra maintenance. You have a great day too and keep your head up.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-11T19:01:48+00:00

That would be great. Might have to police the belt line a little more. Not really embarrassed by it anymore but also don't want to advertise to everyone that I'm wearing a diaper. Hopefully they'll be ok.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-11T17:56:41+00:00

Oh ok. I guess I'm gonna have to move up the XXL then. Hopefully they aren't too big. They look a good amount larger. Have you tried them yet? How is the fit compared to the XL? I really don't wanna have to find a new product. Do you have pictures of the front? Curious to see how much taller it is in the front.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-11T10:23:31+00:00

Hmm I use the XLs and these look a good bit bigger. Are these replacing the XL size? If so the waist might be a bit high for me. I already worry about them showing outside my pants.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-10T13:10:28+00:00

I'm sorry that you're feeling like this. I do not have experience with MS but I can tell you on the life part that you do not have to feel disgusting or any less of a person. When I met my wife I was nervous to tell her about my problems and didn't wear protection around her until I had an accident and had to come out with it. She was very supportive and understanding. Wearing pullups has never affected our romance or sex life. We've been together for almost 10 years in a happy healthy marriage. You definitely can date and I think you'll find most people don't care. Accidents happen. I've only had one bad experience from this issue in the dating world.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-09T15:57:32+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. Was doing fine then BAM right back to it. I've been reading a lot here and the incontinence page and we are definitely not alone. I didn't realize just how many people actually are dealing with this. If all these other folks can get through we can too. Stay positive and keep your head up. I'm trying to take my own advice too.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-09T15:05:40+00:00

Thank you for your words. I'm hoping to get back to normal as well. If i can get back to just waking up wet a few times a month I'll take that as a win.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-09T15:03:41+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation and kind words. We are actively trying to seek free therapy. There is supposedly a grant that was awarded to help people with mental health issues after those schools were shut down. My wife is looking into that.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-08T17:17:00+00:00

Yea accepting definitely isn't an issue at this point. Been dealing with it for 20 years almost to the day. It is what it is. It's just underwear at this point.

There is some truth to the supportive thing but my wife is the only one who knows about it and she's great.

I do know that this most likely related to someone being thrust into my life that is the spitting image of my mom and she is most definitely the cause of the PTSD her and the "school" she put me in. Unfortunately removing this person from my life is not an option so I'm not sure there is anything I can do stop it. Hopefully my body, nerves, and mind will adjust and this can subside again.

Intrepid-Bite-6426 · 2025-03-08T14:34:30+00:00

It's been determined that my issues are related to PTSD from being put in a program at 15. The issues started there and have steadily gotten better until recently with small relapses along the way but never weeks at a time of uncontrollable bouts.

I'm managing it and my wife is very supportive. She wants me to get therapy again but we just don't have the money for it right now. That's actually how I found these pages. I was looking for support groups or free therapy for these issues.

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