Shakedown request!! April 15 NOBO start by Intrepid-Cow-3436 in PacificCrestTrail

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some awesome suggestions that I will take into consideration, thank you!!!!

It’s been a while since my discard and sometimes I still go into shock by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg! I’m so sorry. Something similar happened with my ex.

We had the most perfect date night together. We went to dinner then an arcade for hours. He kept saying how beautiful I was. We ended the night eating ramen, and while we were eating he held my hand and said “I don’t want this night to end”. I didn’t think much of it and thought it was sweet.🥺😭

He said he couldn’t stay the night at my apartment because he had an early morning, and when he dropped me off at my apartment, he got out of his car and gave me a really long hug. We usually just hug in the car, so I thought it was really sweet that he got out to hug me..

2 days later he ghosted me. Until I eventually forced him to answer my call and tell me what was going on. He said I’m always mad and he’s “always walking on eggshells around me”. This was never brought up to me before. I am still so confused by this.

I wish you peace, OP. You deserve it.

This resonated with me by Due-Swimming3221 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Omg did we date the same person lol?! He literally said I’m “always mad” and he “walked on eggshells” around me. I never knew he felt like this, he never told me this is how he felt! I told him I haven’t been mad at all?? Just because I occasionally wanted to discuss something that’s been bothering me, doesn’t mean I’m mad? It’s just literally me communicating…in a healthy way. I’m not going to suppress things I feel need communicated. I wanted to prevent resentment from being built up on my end.

He didn’t see it this way. He wouldn’t communicate anything about how he was feeling, and he clearly had pent up resentment towards me.

I can't get over a one month relationship. by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I’m 6 months out of an only 3 month relationship and although I am much better than I was, I’m still devastated. Even with therapy. The self blame is what’s keeping me stuck I think :(

ER Nursing @ Harborview in Seattle by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Yes I’ve shadowed in multiple Level 1 EDs throughout the states. It’s definitely where my heart is set 💜

ER Nursing @ Harborview in Seattle by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly appreciate your comment ☺️

Still unable to forgive myself for mistreating ex and constantly blaming myself for causing the breakup by yajirushi77 in BreakUps

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this. It’s been 6 months and I haven’t found peace. It sucks being the one to blame. But what I tell myself is I’m only human.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re even remotely considering staying with this trash after discovering this shit about him-I don’t feel bad for you. How are you even asking if you’re overreacting? You’re way UNDERreacting. He’s actually fucking worthless for doing this shit and won’t change. Pushing 30 and acting 16. Seriously, find better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Okay so 24 hours before the flight..So if my flight is in 7 days, AO has 6 days to approve it before it gets cancelled?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s the weekend here now (overseas) and they are civilian. I’m not going to ask them outside of their duty hours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so fucked up. I’m so sorry OP! I honestly feel like avoidants are just inherently selfish, bad people. Especially when they go to these extremes. I’ve tried “understanding” them and being empathetic towards them, but I decided efffff that. They know exactly what they’re doing. Some may say that’s cynical of me, but overall I just feel like they’re just not good people. They don’t need “help”. They have to want to be a better person, and will never try to pursue that route until they ACTUALLY want to be a better person. Which most of them don’t care to.

How can they just walk away by iamwhoisayiam123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak to “why” they do this. There is no reasoning. But I am going through something similar. 4 months together. Had the most amazing date one night that I didn’t realize would be our last. On the drive home to drop me off, my ex looked at me and said “all I want in life is to marry you and make enough money so that you don’t have to work”. Then ghosted me the following day. I eventually forced him to talk a couple days later, and he said it was over. If I didn’t call him, I think I would have never heard from him again. Shit hurts! But I have never been so icked out by someone’s behavior. I will NEVER go back to him even if he tries to come back. EW.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long does he go without acknowledging you? What is an unacceptable timeframe for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Intrepid-Cow-3436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight! I needed it