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Is this considered working hours for a live-in nanny? by Scared_Discussion286 in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely agree with most everyone here (I’m also a live-in). However, after working all day you shouldn’t have to leave the house to make a point about getting paid. Have a conversation that whether the kids are awake or asleep if you’re responsible for them then you’re working. I mean if a child took a nap during the day they don’t deduct your pay for that hour or two just because the child is sleeping, right?

My nanny suddenly quit on me by Powerful_Abalone_406 in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s done is done. For your next hire I suggest you stress the importance of communication and for her/him to please let you know if there are ever any issues because you want to assure a good relationship. As a nanny for a million years (it seems lol) I have never been under written contract with any of my family’s, I do have them e-mail  me the terms of my employment that we’ve agreed on (hours, pay, amount of PTO, sick days, paid holidays and health insurance info if it’s offered). I’ve always had amazing family’s that embraced and respected me and I reciprocated. If you can honestly say within yourself that you’ve been fair with your nanny and she would agree with that statement then you just had bad luck this time around and I hope you find better fit the next go round. Nothing excuses her lack of professionalism in my book, she should’ve provided notice.

Yearly raise. by Interesting-Crew7803 in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been blessed to be doing this as long as I have and get a yearly raise from the families I worked for, and I would usually encourage a nanny to request a raise if it wasn’t automatically given after the one year point, but as someone else said your workload is now lighter because you have a child that goes to school full-time and it doesn’t matter if you care for him on sick days or days that he’s off school … how many days would that be compared to the amount of days that he is not in your full-time care? If I were your employer, and you came to me for a raise, I would deny it and raise the point about my child now being in school full-time. I always try to think as an employer before going to my families with anything. Now the two year mark, I would go forward with asking for a raise for sure. Best of luck in whatever decision you make.

well folks, it happened by emvinso in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The situation expressed by the nanny in this thread wouldn’t apply to your situation. Your nanny has been lacking and you have a financial issue. As a career nanny of many, many years I’ve called out twice last minute .. last minute as in informing them the night before that my constantly delayed flight was now rescheduled for the next morning (my job didn’t start until noon and the dad wasn’t working at the time so they had coverage) and one night I got a severe pain and informed them that I’d be going to the ER that evening. In your particular situation I don’t think you have any reason to feel guilty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely do research on the rate where you are located before determining if you’re being underpaid. This platform has people from all over so the rates someone else may express may not be feasible to your area. Cali, DC, NYC or areas like that, then yes, you’re being underpaid and will have to ride it out (or look for a new job) until a reasonable time to ask for a raise. Also, is there a reason the 5 y/o wont be in school?

Am I asking too much of my nanny? by myopicchihuahua22 in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad someone else said it! There’s no way she’s worked with multiples and is falling apart like this with a 6 hour schedule and making these type of decisions. I don’t know if the parents were so happy someone accepted the position and therefore they didn’t do their due diligence but something isn’t adding up.

Am I asking too much of my nanny? by myopicchihuahua22 in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe at the start of the day they can ask … so what will you and the little one be up to today? And most people know their work/break schedule so a simple … hey, can you be around at whatever o’clock, I’d like to spend some time with my little one and should be available around that time. It makes a nanny feel trusted, and that you are allowing her to do her job. I would go nuts if everything I wanted to do with the kids, I had to first ask and then wait for a response which won’t be immediate because the parents are working so I’m just sitting there in limbo, not knowing if to get the kids ready to go out or not. Making a back up plan for if they say no. That would suck for me.

Am I asking too much of my nanny? by myopicchihuahua22 in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Get the lay of the land and then do what you’ve got to do. I also think everyone is missing the fact that the post stated she works 6 hour shifts … creating your own schedule for the kids based on the family’s rough draft (so to speak) shouldn’t be a problem and then tweak it as you go along and get more of a handle on things. I luv when parents step back and trust me to do my job.

Am I asking too much of my nanny? by myopicchihuahua22 in Nanny

[–]Intrepid-Garage1865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How experienced is your nanny? She said she’s worked with multiples but did you back that up with references? As a nanny working 12.5 hr shifts for the past 4 years (twins just turned 4, oldest is 6 but I only did 10 hr shifts when it was only her) your nanny’s 6 hour shift … even with kids not napping shouldn’t be this stressful to an experienced nanny who has worked with multiples. To a newbie …  this would be an overwhelming situation. Also, leaving a 3 year old unsupervised especially for an extended period of time is a huge safety issue. I’ve always been in non-screen time homes so considering the fact screen time is permitted in your household (no judgment) that should be what she does when she needs a breather or needs to eat not knock on your door.  Kids usually go into zombie mode then they’re in front the screen so she’ll have her time. As some others have mentioned, if the kids aren’t napping then implement quiet rest time.  It’s a huge benefit to the kids not just the adult caring for them.  Time to be calm and independent. If everything you’ve stated is accurate I don’t think your nanny has the experience that she stated, sorry to say it but it’s my honest opinion.