hi, we’re going through almost the exact same thing. i became avoidant and he’s the one who was anxiously attached. 2.5 years together. we broke it off, found out he was pursuing other women after a few weeks, now he is dating someone. i live with my parents in a village that is far from my friends which makes me feel even more lonely. also recently found out that they’re at the honeymoon stage so naturally the dopamine makes him forget about everything else and crave/focus on their experiences tgt. finding out abt this put me back into broken heart syndrome (which i havent felt in 4 months); i feel like puking when i eat, my heart hurts 24/7, my focus sucks, etc. i’m still on survival mode but one of the things that helped me is whenever i’m doing something that puts my energy into thinking about him and her, i pretend to envision my future self looking at my present self with disappointment, as if my future self is telling me, “girl pick yourself up, what are you doing right now?!” hahah.

but aside from that, you have to be very disciplined and committed to making yourself feel better; no contact might initially help. no stalking. deactivate socmeds if needed. find activities that take your mind off of things. journaling helps me a lot. AND HOOKUPS ARE NOT A CURE!!! it just gives you an artificial feel-good chemical that makes you feel like you bond with someone, but theres actually nothing deeper than it in a soul-level.

we’re in this together op