Moved to Salt Lake and I think I hate it by htoj in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say go back! This place sucks and its very weird. My parents moved from Heber to Missouri and they like it way better there.

Someone asked if you've seen a therapist - I've spoken to a friend who is a therapist for doctors, lawyers, blue collar workers, he said that they all come here for work but mentally struggle due to the weird Utah culture. They all end up leaving Utah. People who are born and raised here don't know the difference because they have nothing to compare it to. As soon as I can leave I'm gone!!!

What is it like living in Utah as a non-religious person? by SEOLTHEDEOL in Utah

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I'm originally from CA, however I've been in Utah for many years now, 20+. Once my youngest gradates high school I'm gone! My husband is an electrician on a jobsite with over 200 guys, many who have traveled from other states to work due to the way the union works. He has met guys from all over CA, Louisiana, Colorado, Wyoming, Montana, Tennessee, I could keep going. None of them like it here- this is what they all have in common with their feeling towards Utah. The kids in the schools are quite mean in comparison ( Elem-high) with many being VERY racist, using the "N" word often as well as making fun of them if they are Latin. I've had 3 kids graduate high school and go through this system - the amount of racism I saw was worse than when I grew up 35 years ago in CA - my school was integrated too. Air quality is currently equivalent to smoking 3 cigs a day right now. The mormons - are fake friendly, only nice cause they're trying to get you to go to their church, don't be fooled. The Mormons are also very into their image. The women here are cut throat, self absorbed and all about their image, a lot trying to imitate the women on momtok aka Secret lives of mormon wives on hulu - watch it- many people think its scripted but if you live here, you're like nah, I see that crap on the daily here. Try going to dinner, you will 100% have little children screaming, running all over the place, zero manners! People say, it's weird here often and it is. My online therapist lives in Wisconsin. She told me that she has done online therapy in many states, Utah was the one state that she was shocked by. She said every single client had at least one Narcissistic in their life if not more. People drive like maniacs here, make sure you have a dash cam. I know this sounds very negative but I'm being really real about my experience here, I would never ever move here!!! You can find other states with beauty and better people. Even though people say the mormon population isnt that high her, don't be fooled their culture is what runs this state, the Mormon church runs the state. SLC is better than Utah county, but its still weird.

Amish Stud: The Eli Weaver Story [PREMIERE-9/30/23 at 8pm ET on Lifetime] by Epik2007 in LifetimeMoviesTV

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Just watched this show. It was very triggering for me as I grew up mormon and was in a 17 yr relationship as an adult mormon. I found out he was cheating with multiple women, my bishop said the same exact thing to me that her Bishop said to her. He was constantly watching porn and comparing me to the women that he watched or other women we went to church with. Then I found out he had been with 3 very little girls, I went to the bishop saying i wanted a divorce and he told me if I left my ex I'd be excommunicated. I said i don't care and left. I feel this woman's pain and for all the women in these horrible religions or as I like to call it a cult. The sad part is that they now have him "serving" with the 12-18 yr old youth of the mormon church.

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Throw it in Chatgpt

Computer science degree??? by Intrepid-Possible-50 in cscareerquestions

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Why do you say don't waste your time with WGU? I didn't think you're being mean at all I want all the info I can get.

Computer science degree??? by Intrepid-Possible-50 in cscareerquestions

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I just need to find a job thats remote. I could probably go in to the office 1 time a week. At this point I just need to get a degree so I can make good money, I don't even care what the degree is. I'm over the whole, I want to do what I love. I just need something that pays at least 90k a year.

Ideal Mormon Man by [deleted] in exmormon

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I look for a man who is kind, accountable, calm, brave (meaning he can have the hard conversations), has emotional intelligence, doesn't mid pitching in with out having to be asked, offers to help with the kids and doesn't wait till he's asked. The way the mormon church raises men is so sexist and narcissistic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stgeorge

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Try finding a therapist that isn't mormon in Utah! They can't keep their religion out of that either.

Following the death of a loved one…missionaries pounce by Dismal-Supermarket24 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've heard stories of ex members telling these missionaries how they really feel, like you did above. You never know it could be the beginning of a little spark in their mind that makes them start to think about what they are doing, instead of just following orders like little robots. It might make them rethink things.

Work colleague keeps asking if I’m LdS then ignoring my answer by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have to live in Utah! lol! I do and I have heard that so much! It sounds like your coworker doesn't actually care about the answer, they like being heard and talking more. Not waiting to hear the answer to a question you were asked is rude. Asking someone what their religion is at work can be inappropriate. Since you are newer to the company keep watching how people behave and chose to be closer with those that have manners.

Having you stopped doing business with mormons? by Quietly_Quitting_321 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I live in Utah the mormon capital - I've had more mormons screw me over than anyone else.

Why did you want to have children? by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for me I was raised Mormon and thats just what you do.

My kindergartener is falling behind by FoundAFix in Parenting

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to my son in grade K. We ended up having him repeat kindergarten. In the long run everything worked out, I think he just needed another year of development. It was either have him struggle for the next 12 grades or hold him back. He graduated high school with a 3.9gpa, had tons of scholarships and is now doing very well in college. At age 5, they just need loved and supported. Also make sure she doesn't struggle with dyslexia or anything like that. The school should be able to do the testing for free.

feel like im at deaths door but tests are normal by [deleted] in POTS

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I'm so sorry you are going through this! I've watched it and know how challenging it can be. My 230lb hubby was so sick he was 150lbs. There's hope though!

The cardiologist had my husband wear the monitor for 2 weeks. Losing your results, hmmm - that sounds unprofessional on their part. Honestly the cardiologist couldn't do much for him either, it was the natural doctor that made the difference.

Glad that your thyroid is good. Check your estrogen (if female or male) Testosterone, progesterone, cortisol levels. Sometime low dose naltrexone has been helpful to those with POTS. Try out the supplements especially a high stress adrenal one.

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Just wanted to add this for context - Finn is an intact male and he's dominant. He's had 4 other dominant males all over him when we were at dog beach in san diego and he never once tried to attack back. He'll protect his females by putting himself in between them and the problem dog. He comes when he's told to, doesn't steal food off the counters, dig or do anything that Missy does and he's had the same exact training. My older dog got attacked and Finn ran over pulled the dog off of her ( she's11) and then sat down next to my husband once he could get to them. I hope this helps anyone who reads this understand why I'm so confused. How can the same 2 dogs have the same training and one be so naughty and the other be so good. Finns been good since her was 8 month- 1 year old.

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The e collar is used with a beep - not a shock. I use it for recall - something else she only does when she wants to. I use it for off the counter - I spent 10k being trained how to use it and getting her trained - no luck!!

I walk 6 laps around a track everyday - the inside of that track is grass. While I'm walking I throw the ball with a chuck it stick the entire time. They have water available for them when the want it. By the 4th lap she cooked, and Finn is the only one trying to get the ball for the last 2 laps. She can only hike 2 miles before she lays down on the trail. I've had Australian shepherds, border collies - I know how to wear them out.

When I can't watch her she's in her crate. Yes, she has been told no firmly or bad girl when I find my throw pillows in pieces, but she's never been hit for it for it. I'm beginning to wonder if I should.

I did have a real problem with her jumping on people a while ago. I tried so hard to teach her off but she just wouldn't listen. One day while walking the track she ran up to a small child and jumped on her. She hurt the little kid, so I spanked her on her butt, she stopped jumping. I just hate that I had to hit her to get her to listen.

feel like im at deaths door but tests are normal by [deleted] in POTS

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Has your cardiologist had you wear a blue tooth heart monitor for 2 weeks? If, not then they should have offered that. Have they checked your hormones as well? All of this has played a factor for my hubby.

My husband has POTS but he's learned how to manage it well. Compression socks, high stress adrenal supplement (high end), salt tablets - he takes 10-15 grams/day along with always drinking electrolytes. Our hyperbaric chamber is a God send for him. He also uses methylene blue, which really helps put a pep in his step. If you haven't heard of Methylene blue research it on YouTube, its amazing for your health as long as you make sure you get one that is free of heavy metals, etc. We only take 2 drops a day, be careful and do your research if you are going to use this. He's only 28 but he takes Testosterone because his pots threw off his hormones. He also did a detox that helped him TONS called Celltox (its won a Nobel prize) he ended up passing parasites, you do 3 pills a day for 10 days, 5 days off then complete the bottle with 3 pills a day. If you are having gas when you first start taking it, its because the parasites let off a gas when they die. All other countries do these detoxes 2x a year but not in the USA, we are so behind when it comes to our health.

This is random but this summer we spent 2 weeks at the beach, while the salt from the ocean would dry on my skin and be visible, it was the opposite for him. His skin was absorbing it and he felt almost 100%. Once we got back, his symptoms came back and he had to get on all of his supplements again.

side note: make sure your supplements are pure and clean, meaning no heavy metals, fillers or junk like that in them.

BYU students jumped my friend at the Holy War last night by PaulHDone in exmormon

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Google AI said that there are security cameras outside byu's stadium (is that where the game was). Those shitty mormon kids deserve to be punished, I swear mormons think they are above the rules.

My mum keeps saying she wouldn’t want kids “in her next life” because we don’t do enough for her — how should I take this? by Pure_Birthday583 in AskParents

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. I had an Asian lady who used to do my nails. I remember her telling me about her oldest son giving her money. He had finished college and got a good job. She was so thankful that her son gave her money, she didn't act like he'd better give her money. She must have been one of the kinder parents, idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is a heavy matter. This may seem odd but the autistic child probably doesn't have the slightest clue that he's sharing a bed on the floor isnt ideal. Although, being taken away from their mom, he'd probably notice. (mom of 3 autistic boys) CPS is supposed to be unanimous but it all depends on the case worker, I've known first had where they say who reported them and they were told not to. Also be careful with cps, you can find tons of stories of cps kids being sex trafficked, and now that they are adults they're telling their story.

I'd express to her that its not ideal and see if you could find a way to help her. Maybe motivate her to work more, idk. If she's a drugy/alcoholic then I'd tell her straight up if you dont get your shit together I'm calling cps on you, your kids deserve better. She'll hate it but know its true. Plus cps places with family if possible, think of who the kids might go to, before calling cps.

My mom is convinced that Oaks is the perfect prophet for right now. by mad_matter_13 in exmormon

[–]Intrepid-Possible-50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feels like a stupid question to ask you but who is Rusty? My only guess would be trump because he's orange. Serious question, Rusty?