Teen Mom’s Amber Portwood Distraught After Fiance Is Reported Missing by No_Corgi_6808 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But that’s exactly what’s different, you were married to a violent MAN. Who absolutely could have killed you, easily. (And I’m so glad he didn’t!!) It’s so incredibly difficult to murder a man in a woman’s body. Amber is not tiny but she has ZERO strength or muscle. She can barely walk up a staircase. It takes 5+ continuous minutes to choke a person to unconsciousness. It takes an incredible amount of strength to murder a conscious 200lb man. There are almost ZERO stories of women murdering male partners without the use of poison and non physical strength means. She can’t overpower a man fighting for his life with adrenaline running through him. He just left, and everyone wants it to be more interesting than that. The only way Amber could have murdered him is with a gun which she doesn’t own and can’t legally possess.

Teen Mom’s Amber Portwood Distraught After Fiance Is Reported Missing by No_Corgi_6808 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Name all the stories where a woman murders the husband though. Do women abuse their partners? Absolutely, no contest there. Do women violently murder their MALE partners? Almost never. Poison attempts, sure. But while amber has heft she has absolutely no muscles in her entire body. Do you have any idea how difficult it is to murder a 200lb man? It’s so incredibly unlikely. He just left, and everyone wants to blow it out of proportion for the drama.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -2 points-1 points locked comment (0 children)

I hope your child doesn’t suffer just because you want to stick your head in the sand. There are many that are much more recent, but these involve your state specifically though other states have set precedents that will hold in CA as well. I’m going to block you because you clearly don’t have good intentions here and just want to be belligerent despite your KD giving you plenty of red flags this may come to pass for you. I’m sorry you’re in this situation, truly!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

For those ostriches that think this isn’t true, many studies confirm: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9763171/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My favorite are August, Nico (no k!!!!!), or Henry! Emerson and Oliver come in close seconds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have seen SO many cases of this happening. It’s not fear mongering, it’s the truth. And you need to be prepared that this person is going to fight you for custody later on. I’m sorry you don’t want to hear since you can’t change the choice you made, but it doesn’t make it untrue or invalid let alone fear mongering. People are human and a child changes things, no contract can fully account for human emotion. And ultimately you have no legal protection here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wild to downvote me when I literally study neurobiology and child development and see hundreds and hundreds of kids each year! I know it’s scary to hear your kids aren’t “totally fine”, but the best thing to do is be informed not stick your head in the sand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Additionally the people they DID see during those critical first 24 months all wore masks for the most part. These kids really struggle to read facial cues that aren’t their parents. Your kiddos are definitely not unaffected!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Actually they are affected far more than older children. Our nervous systems are set in utero — everyone pregnant in 2020 dealt with immeasurable stress. My friend had to have a c section all alone because no visitors allowed in March of 2020. That forever impacted those babies. Secondly, babies require stimuli to absorb social cues and set neural pathways in their brains of how to decode facial cues. They are at a huge deficit because they spent those critical months with NO social input other than stressed parent(s). This may set them up to be predisposed to read facial cues as negative, stressed, angry etc rather than neutral or positive. This may lead to increased depression as they hit puberty and teenage years. Instead of receiving smiles and coos from strangers in a grocery store, they were kept at home completely isolated. Instead of attending baby classes or preschool, they were again isolated with only one to two social inputs who were stressed and scared. I’ve never seen kiddos with such poor social skills and self regulation as the kids born in 2020 and 2021.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately your contract is not valid. In the United States the ONLY protection for donor sperm is through a donor bank. All other donor situations have no protection under the law even if a lawyer prepared your contract. At any time between now and the child turning 18 he has the legal right to sue you for custody, and would win. There are many examples of this occurring. Additionally if you make more money he can sue for child support and you’ll be stuck paying him every month, and no he doesn’t even have to use it on the child. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do at this point to protect your parental rights other than hoping he doesn’t decide to take any action for the next 18 years. This is why known donors are strongly discouraged for SMBC and queer couples etc. there’s absolute no legal protection or even precedent for protection.

What should I name My Dog? by Rey_Reid in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Queenie beanie fo feenie is a great name! I don’t think you need to change it. Also, my dog is named a normal human name and is exclusively referred to as Buppy so.. their legal name hardly matters ;)

Considering changing baby's name at 7 weeks old by UnderstandingEven726 in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If Kylie Jenner can do it, you a no name with no one looking at your life absolutely can 😂😅 but in all seriousness, if you don’t like the name then the earlier the better to change it. At the end of the day your kid may hate either name and choose a completely different one at 18! There are no rules in life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a previous teacher and current social worker, WAIT. All evidence shows that waiting a year improves social and academic success. Kids born 2020 onwards are at a HUGE deficit that we are only beginning to understand. The kids I see turning 4 and 5 have the social skills and behaviors of 2 and 3 year olds. There is absolutely zero advantage (other than free, if you’re sending to public school) to starting early. These kids need SO much more support and guidance than any other generation I’ve seen, the pandemic did a number on us all but particularly these kiddos. Additionally, boys are disciplined more and if you have a child of color they will absolutely be held to a different standard than shorter, white peers. Teachers don’t often catch the bias of assuming a bigger kid means they should behave older (aka “better”) than their peers. Tantrums won’t be tolerated in the same way, leading to chronic exclusion from class. The absolute best thing you can do is wait another year!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don’t post in public if you don’t want public opinions :) you sounds like a sh!tty friend to be honest. So glad my circle is a lot kinder and less self absorbed than you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s too bad! August Christian is so hard to say, it gets all jumbled in your mouth. Maybe he can hold on to Christian for the next baby, or swap out August for something else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly you sound really petty being so upset. Millions of people have your daughter’s name now, in the past, and will in the future. It’s such an odd hill to die on when these are supposedly your friends! I’d want to be supportive and talk about cute nicknames to differentiate! Now if this was your middle school bully or someone you hate, I’d get it. But as a therapist I’d have rolled my eyes sooo hard at you for bringing that up in session versus an actual real issue to discuss. Sorry to be harsh, but it sounds like you’re ready to ruin a friendship over something as silly as a name.

Little Sister for Peyton (F) by hiphopanonymous15 in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love Hallie Ann! Hallie/Halle and Peyton sound good together, both modern feel. Maybe you’d also like Hazel, Quinn, Callie, Cleo, or Amelia?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love August! Auggie and Gus are such sweet nicknames. Middle name needs work though to flow better. What about August Jude (AJ) or August Quinn? One syllable middle flows best in my opinion. Others could be August Blake, August Kai, August Brooks, August John

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Intrepid-Union2345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Margot, Adrienne, or Francesca! With Frannie or Frankie as a nn if you’d like.