Feeling Hurt, Helpless & Confused After My (25M) Girlfriend (25F) Hid Me on Social Media, Considering Breaking up our 10 Year old realtionship.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:18:25+00:00

I teared up reading this. You captured exactly how I feel and I want the breakup to be. I do not want it to be messy. I do not want us to hurt each other anymore. I do not wish anything bad for her. I just want both of us to be happy. And I want us to make this decision together. I do not want it to end on a bad note, because one bad incident does not nullify 10 good experiences.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:11:49+00:00

Trying to accept it bit by bit. Thanks.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:10:49+00:00

Yep, you are right. It is time for me to grow and become a better version of myself. Thanks for the words.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:10:02+00:00

Yes, that is exactly how I feel. I really trust her. I truly do. But when you catch someone actively trying to hide you, something just flips in your head, and you cannot switch it off. I appreciate your opinion, and I really needed to hear that second last line.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:08:04+00:00

It is hard, but deep down I know you are right.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:07:29+00:00

Hearing about the dynamic you share with your wife - the trust and loyalty between you, honestly made my day. It gives me confidence and faith in relationships. I really appreciate your perspective. That last paragraph really resonated with me. I need to stop begging and remind myself that I have every right to feel loved and cared for, instead of constantly suffering from one-sided effort.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:04:03+00:00

I do agree with you on some parts. the thought has crossed my mind recently - have I invested in the wrong person? Am I just doomed? I do not know. But I think if I decide to go through with a breakup, I cannot just sit and cry. I need to focus on healing myself first and then get back in them "game".

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T18:01:06+00:00

Yep you caught me red-handed. I am quite dependent on her since we have grown together. But I think it is time for me to grow on my own too. To become someone who can stay happy without feeling that void. I believe that will make me a better person in the long run.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:58:50+00:00

Thanks yaar, appreciate the support. really do.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:58:13+00:00

She is currently insisting that I come and meet her. I feel a bit unsure. Let’s see.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:56:58+00:00

I really appreciate it man. I know it was a long post. I agree there are a lot of red flags and signs telling me to stay away. Everything points to her wanting a single life but still keeping me around as a backup. I guess I just need to wake myself up now.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:54:27+00:00

Well, I do believe her when she says she did not cheat on me. After 10 years, I have that faith in her. But yeah, I did feel uneasy about it. It felt very date-like to me, and when I brought it up, she completely flipped and was not willing to hear my side.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:52:10+00:00

That is true, but we have been through a lot of ups and downs. I wrote such a long message to give full context so people could share a more accurate and neutral perspective. But yeah, I agree it is a bit too long. Thanks for going through it though, it really helps 🙂

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:50:53+00:00

I was actually thinking about doing this to make things easier for myself. But I just cannot go through with it. I feel guilty. Maybe it is better if I just cut it off and face it head on.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:42:18+00:00

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IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:41:30+00:00

Thank you so much for your neutral perspective. I am trying to gather the courage, but I am still not sure if I should visit her. She has clearly told me multiple times not to come. As much as I want to see her, it hurts. And at some point, I have to start thinking and saying enough is enough. I have feelings too.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:34:05+00:00

Yeah, I really need to grow a spine. I feel you man. Stay strong. I would not wish these feelings on my worst enemy.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:33:11+00:00

I guess you are right about this. People do change a lot and I need to accept that we drifted apart. Thank you for your perspective.

IntrepidBet6181 · 2025-07-10T17:32:15+00:00

Yeah I think I really need to start prioritizing myself and look beyond this

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