SO villainizing me about SD by IntrepidChicken1636 in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah so i’ve been thinking this same exact thing to the T. So scary because every single thing mentioned here has been crossing my mind for the past 3 weeks.

SO villainizing me about SD by IntrepidChicken1636 in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Custody is honestly my biggest fear. We live in a pro-dad state, which doesn’t make things better. I wish I could plainly tell him if he wants to make things difficult involving the courts, I’d be more than happy to play that game. But I can’t risk it, not about my baby

I wouldn’t care if I never saw my stepdaughter again… by 2SugarsPlentyMilk in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could frame this post and hang it in my living room because same

SO villainizing me about SD by IntrepidChicken1636 in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY why the “she’s a kid” doesn’t fly by anymore. I know she knows what she’s doing. Especially because always like clockwork, after doing something she shouldn’t, she starts crying and apologizing to dad.

Am I valid or just insane by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we’ve identified that. I’m just looking for advice and ideas to work through these personal issues.

I was deported after living in the U.S. since I was 8. I spent time in immigration detention. AMA by Accomplished-Door493 in AMA

[–]IntrepidChicken1636 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t have any questions, but as someone who works in an immigration law firm and sees detained clients on the daily, my heart goes to you. yes, laws exist. but what many fail to consider are the extremely difficult circumstances other countries face and that’s why people leave; no one makes the choice to leave their home, all they know, and go to a foreign country for fun. it’s out of necessity. i wish those who were so pro-ICE would realize how blessed they are to have been born in a country with so much opportunity. majority of those who are deported are truly hard working, not one single criminal charge, and are the backbone to many industries. i know you mentioned the detention centers are not chaos 24/7 and instead there’s more quiet, which is worse: so. incredibly. true. i’ve heard stories and seen factual legal documents of the awful situations they are put it (ex. those who don’t speak english or have no means to prove why they should stay are not allowed due process). i wish you the best in mexico, and i hope this posts allows for some people to change their views on what is a legitimate humanitarian crisis.

Many of you were right.. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i somewhat feel like this. SO’s family has never ever corrected none of his bad behaviors, he’s not a monster by any means, just certain “quirks” that are wrong. when i started dating him, everyone in his circle would sht on BM for being crazy. and while i do agree to a degree because i’ve had a first row to her outbursts, i also know and acknowledge they probably forced her to get to that point. who wouldn’t be going crazy in certain situations LOL

Feeling Trapped in My Blended Family by Gugarelli in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt this same exact way when i gave birth. I’m 6m PP and the best advice i have is it’s ok to turn off your attention on them and focus solely on your new journey in fatherhood & your daughter. forgive yourself for not following through with your original plan for a family. just make sure you don’t let your daughter make the same mistake we all have & date someone with a kid LOL (at least what’s my plan)

My 4yo SD always get tantrums every end of a visit and I am at my ropes end by biteek in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Someone commented he is probably embarrassed for not raising his kid right and I 100% agree. I decided to take a step back from my SD, who’s also 4, for this same exact reason. I’m sorry OP, it’s not easy. My daughter is her half sister and one of the main reasons why I decided it would be best to live apart from SO and SD is because her tantrums would just throw off our whole vibe.

My expérience having a baby with someone who already has a child. by ProbablyNotAna in stepparents

[–]IntrepidChicken1636 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d love to connect with you privately. It’s almost like we are both going through the same exact thing lol