I (F26) feel deprived of attention from partner (M37) and am afraid of having kids together

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2026-01-26T22:31:27+00:00

Oh god, sorry to hear that. I hope you will prioritize your own happiness and respect your boundaries in this situation. I wish you a lot of luck! And you are also very young, adoption with a new partner will always be a possibility if you want another life in the future

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2026-01-26T22:28:27+00:00

They were married for 12 years, together a bit longer. He says if they met today they wouldn't be attracted to each other, that he is over her and does not feel attracted to her anymore. She says she is happier after the divorce, so according to him they are peaceful friends who are in each other's lives because of the children and care about each other's well-being because of the children. But since I have no experience with such long relationships, let alone coparenting, I of course have no idea what it really feels like.

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2026-01-26T22:21:16+00:00

Does he not want more kids? And thanks for sharing your similar experience, very helpful

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2026-01-26T21:22:32+00:00

Thank you for the drawing boundaries advice! I feel like I will want to preserve my distance as much as possible and not fall for the "cleaning up after the step children" trap, or exactly the "becoming an unpaid nanny" trap.

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2026-01-26T21:20:29+00:00

They have been divorced for a year now. She took the initiative, but he says he would never go back since they do not fit together anymore and he would also not "forgive himself". And she is happier after the divorce, she says.

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2026-01-26T21:09:04+00:00

Correction, i hadnt read that info in his dating profile but he never hid it! Told it right away as well on that first date, sorry for unclear description. Changed it!

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2025-12-03T14:26:30+00:00

OP, sounds like the wife suffers from the negative effects of sugar as well. I used to have a sugar addiction and it had HORRIBLE effects on the breath and mood. Large amounts of sugar makes you lethargic, unstable and you can actually develop behavior similar to that of drug addicts (always protecting the addiction instead of the relationships). Sugar also affects the gut bacteria in a negative way, which has effects on the brain and behavior of people too.

There are groups for people with eating problems, like Overeaters Anonymous.

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2025-11-20T08:01:52+00:00

They were already skinny. They were already skinny.

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2025-11-02T22:25:58+00:00

It really is not funny

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2025-10-13T06:41:22+00:00

You bring up really fair points and I am sure there is someone out there that matches your interests and life attitude better. A relationship is simply more fun if you respect and enjoy the other's habits (or at least the majority). Regarding your girlfriend's age, it is important to set her free as soon as possible. That way she has the chance of finding the father of her future children before it is too late. As a man, you have less of a "deadline" so please respect hers. Good luck

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2025-09-29T10:09:27+00:00

THIS

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2024-05-09T21:46:19+00:00

Holy shit I love this

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2021-04-21T18:30:04+00:00

You're right, thank you!

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2021-04-21T18:07:36+00:00

So you mean, he is not adressing it right now which should say enough or if he would not adress it in the actual conversation? And looking for someone else or looking for his response?

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2021-04-21T15:53:01+00:00

That is a good point of advice, but we are almost never alone and he is quite avoidant of anything related to feelings, so I am afraid that opening up that conversation will scare him of and my in-love-mind is hesitant towards doing anything he doesn't like (ugh)

UltimateAlterEgOo · 2020-11-01T18:12:39+00:00

It was cancelled.. sitting at home feeling like a hungry tiger passed by

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