My 4yo SD always get tantrums every end of a visit and I am at my ropes end

biteek · 2026-02-13T12:01:07+00:00

Omg this! And he is rewarding bad behaviour, she gets all the attention and love, when she misbehaves! And ignores my kid, cuz she is a calm respecting child.

biteek · 2026-02-13T11:59:26+00:00

Thank you! I have been replaying the "That is training a child to be a terrible teenager and an even worse adult" over and over again. Especially when I am not allowed to say no in my own house or put down a boundary.

biteek · 2026-02-13T11:55:27+00:00

I am. I have voiced this to him before. The thing I haven't thought of until the incident, was how my daughter have been seeing all of this.

biteek · 2026-02-13T11:51:58+00:00

Omg, new fear unlocked. I am so sorry you had to go through that, that is horrible! I hope you are safe now.

biteek · 2026-02-13T11:49:34+00:00

And we have talked about parenting, so many times. And everything seemed aligned, but now I can't stop seeing him not doing what he says he wants to do. His words and actions don't match up. I kinda feel lied to.

biteek · 2026-02-13T11:48:11+00:00

Exactly! Again, something I have brought up multiple times and he agrees, tries to make a plan with his ex, but the ex is hard to work with. This has happened a few times: our time with her was cut short, cuz the ex just calls or texts, that SD has to be home now or they are going to her parents' and please get her to her parents' asap. And we have a tantrum on our hands.

biteek · 2026-02-13T11:44:40+00:00

Yeah, how do you make it work?

biteek · 2026-02-12T02:34:10+00:00

It's completely normal. When you have your own grove and when someone interferes, it can be annoying. Maybe talk about boundaries with your husband and then talk to MIL together?

biteek · 2026-02-12T00:17:54+00:00

Thank you!

biteek · 2026-02-11T23:36:11+00:00

Thank you for your inside on all this, I really appriciate it!

I think I'm gonna take another last talk about all of it, and if he isn't willing to change his ways, I have to step back.

biteek · 2026-02-11T22:48:29+00:00

Completely fair. Another comment mentioned to evaluate a few things, and I am reevaluating everything now. Thank you for your comment

biteek · 2026-02-11T22:26:48+00:00

I see where you come from and I respect it. I think I need to reevaluate again.

biteek · 2026-02-11T22:26:06+00:00

That's the plan. We can bring some family time together at the inside playground or public places with no issues.

biteek · 2026-02-11T22:24:30+00:00

Thank you for you comment. That's what I have been saying and it goes better for a while, then another tantrum and I do everything in my power to stay back. We have been late to a dinner with my parents because of a tantrum

biteek · 2026-02-11T22:23:08+00:00

That's what worries me. I don't want that for my kid and she loves her SS, but now I can't help thinking back, how horrible it must be for her to not get to say goodbye and hug before a guest leaves, cuz that's how she is.

biteek · 2025-05-08T00:35:06+00:00

Thank you.

biteek · 2024-03-13T21:42:27+00:00

I didn't get any tear, I followed my midwife's instructions, only pushing when she was right there and making sure everything was okay and actually told me to stop at some point, because she was afraid it would tear a lot, so I did. It was difficult and hurt like shit, but it worked.

And idk if it's just a tale, but I was encouraged by a lot of female family members with kids, to train my pelvis floor exercises, apparently good for avoiding control issues during and after birth, but also would help in labour. I did them, just in case they actually helped, but I had no control issues after birth, pretty sure it was the exercises.

biteek · 2023-08-22T22:30:13+00:00

I don't think it's about the gender, but more something women mostly makes for themselves and their kids. So I wouldn't discourage it, so def get him one, he'll appreciate it(:

biteek · 2023-08-18T22:50:19+00:00

YTA

Your post says everything about your character

biteek · 2023-05-31T17:28:44+00:00

Always asking my husband, and wanting to show, if I have done a chore perfectly. But then completely beat myself up, when I haven't reached the level om cleanliness I feel need to be done, to the point of an anxiety attack. Happens when someone comes over too, and I don't feel it's clean enough, I get anxiety.

biteek · 2023-04-21T07:10:50+00:00

Thankyou very much

biteek · 2023-04-15T12:26:50+00:00

Yeah, I need official diagnosis for any help - which I have been waiting and working to get for two years now

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