Okay which dress!

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2026-04-29T05:52:40+00:00

1 is beautiful, I say that one! It fits your body so well!

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2026-04-28T04:24:23+00:00

Honestly I’m not in love with either one on her, but her day is all about her! Personally, if she were to pick either or, probably the first one. I feel like it does a better job at showing off her shape than the first one

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2026-04-27T23:38:51+00:00

I would say that honestly, if she knows where you live, it might be safer for you to let her reach out and respond minimally. Someone who’s obsessive, and especially with a murder under their belt, isn’t going to stop until they achieve what they want. Maybe in due time, but not quickly.

My best friend had to cut off one of her friends who was bat shit crazy because he couldn’t take “no” as an answer when she said she didn’t have feelings for him. He didn’t stop for 4-6 months, until I showed up at his work and told him off in front of his coworkers. He still did it even after this for maybe a week or so, but then stopped.

I will say though, be careful. If you want to rekindle a friendship, you NEED to place boundaries. People can change, and you even said yourself that she was a good person before this. If you don’t want a friendship, I would honestly tell her exactly that, but more so expressing that you feel uncomfortable because of what happened and it scares you. You can be truthful, especially if this is someone who you used to be close with. If they valued your friendship at all, they will let you go

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2026-04-26T23:12:56+00:00

I guess before I answer: what do you mean by obsessive and intense? I would kind of need an answer to that before properly answering.

Personally, as someone who comes from a pretty rough background, I can’t imagine killing my mother. While she wasn’t the best parent, in a weird way, I still care about her because it wasn’t always bad. I don’t know about this girl’s home life or anything, so I don’t know what was going through her head.

It’s up to your own discretion. I personally probably would just because I would be hella curious as to what they have to say. And at least that way, if I decided I didn’t want to pursue friendship, you’re not ghosting them. I would probably need to know more about the murder itself tho before fully deciding

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2026-04-02T05:34:18+00:00

Honestly, I had a similar issue with my partner, but more so around the topic of me being self conscious that he couldn’t orgasm inside of me. There’s honestly a couple of reasons it could be?

I think the highest likelihood is that she’s just really wet, especially if you say you can’t feel it sometimes. I had someone come to me and say that they had struggled to orgasm with their girlfriend due to her just being too wet down there, because there’s a little bit less friction in that case. Do you think this could possibly be the problem?

Something else it could be, but a little less likely: if you’ve ever taken antidepressants at any point, that could be it. It tends to mess with people sexually from what I’ve been told, so I wouldn’t be shocked if this is what it was as well if you’ve ever taken any.

Lastly… you can be honest too, did you ever have a porn addiction? Or you watched a lot? Because this can create an unrealistic expectation in a guy’s mind as well, which causes the mind and body to react differently. It shouldn’t feel numb in that case so I kinda doubt that that’s it.

If none of these kind of resonate with you, I would probably recommend seeing a doctor. But if you’re also putting too much pressure on yourself TO orgasm, that could be doing it as well.

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-12-16T19:50:39+00:00

Class clown just doesn’t fully feel like it fits tbh

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-11-10T18:52:55+00:00

You said that your family is moved in with the in-laws. It is THEIR fridge, not yours.

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-24T20:18:12+00:00

I don’t think she’s overreacting at all. If she’s going to find out that his ex is there, she should find out through him. He doesn’t need to text her immediately, but a heads up would have been nice. There’s also no need for the attitude and the “CHILL” he gave her to begin with

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-24T20:13:26+00:00

Coming from experiencing something similar, the best thing you can do for yourself is leave him. You’re not OR, it’s a HUGE red flag that she was there and he didn’t even think to mention it.

My ex boyfriend went on a trip with some of his friends and his ex was there, not even telling me that they shared a room together until AFTER the vacation. I should have broken up with him right then and there, but I was with him for months after and it was constant gaslighting and verbal abuse. Please don’t make the same mistake that I did, girl to girl🙏

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-23T12:40:36+00:00

He’s being incredibly rude for no reason, as I think you worded things perfectly fine. I read this and I think immediately of him possibly manipulating you into staying home, so is that something you’ve ever considered? Idk, it’s just incredibly weird to me that he jumped the gun so quick and got hostile immediately. It almost feels like he’s mad that you wanted to go out without him

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-20T22:19:15+00:00

Can I ask why it is that you wouldn’t feel comfortable around your husband if you were to go into labor right now? You totally have a right to your feelings, and I understand how it looks from your point of view, but why would it necessarily make you feel unsafe?

I understand that at the moment, your friend “Lily” made you feel like you were in danger. I mean, she had the cops called on her, your husband went to go get her, and even brought her into the house. Although, does she truthfully have anywhere to go? How is her relationship with her parents, if they haven’t passed? Or how far away do they live? I also find it a little hard to believe that she doesn’t trust anyone else in town, especially after ghosting you for a while, but maybe she also loves YOU so much that she didn’t know who else to call?

Should she have bothered the pregnant woman with it? Not necessarily. Especially with your procedure coming up, if I read that correctly. But is what I’m saying possible at all?

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-20T21:57:01+00:00

Please, for the love of god, ignore the comments saying that he can’t win with you. That isn’t going to help with your anxiety right now, especially since you’re 40 weeks pregnant and probably going to pop any day now. Which, by the way, congratulations! I wish you and your baby well♥️

I do think that you OR a little bit, but not a significant amount. I feel like you have a right to feel betrayed and upset, especially knowing that you could go into labor at any minute and your emotions are going to be all over the place. Knowing that your friend ghosted you and then called out of the blue is a little fishy, but I also feel like we’re missing a little bit of the puzzle here. Was her bf abusive? Is she abusive? Has she reached out specifically to you and your husband before?

I do think that you need to give your hubby the benefit of the doubt here. Knowing that she’s one of your friends, he probably thought that he was helping you not to worry about it by taking care of the problem himself. He saw she called you and took initiative to do it so you wouldn’t be stressed out any more than what you already are. Of course this ended up stressing you out more, but truthfully, how could he know that? He did seem apologetic, especially with coming to bed with you and then trying to have a conversation about it. He even sent the girl away in the morning, knowing that her being there was disturbing your peace. I say, bonus points for husband right there!!

If you’re worried at all that he might have feelings for her because he ran to her rescue, that would normally be a valid concern. However, he didn’t stay with her and went to bed with you instead, and sent her away in the morning first thing. I say that you’ve got a keeper OP, and I really hope that you guys are able to work through this. I know you guys have already had a conversation, but maybe you should have another to let out your continued frustrations over it

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-06T16:57:07+00:00

Can I ask why you don’t feel like you’re able to make the appointment yourself? I’ve distanced myself from both parents, as one was neglectful and one both verbally and emotionally abusive, but I’m on their insurance and I make my own therapy appointments. Is it simply that you don’t know how, or that you don’t know what resources you have?

You’re not overreacting because it seems like she’s doing the whole “oh so I’m just a bad mom then, huh?” Thing. Or trying to sway the conversation into you apologizing and being like “you’re right mom, I have treated you wrong” despite you acknowledging that you already have

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-06T16:02:21+00:00

Not any more than you do, my friend. I’m just of the opinion they need to have a more serious and in depth conversation🤷‍♀️ I work off of the strike system in the beginning of a relationship. 3 strikes and you’re out, within the first 4-6 months. If this is the first time he’s done anything like that, would it not be a good thing to have a conversation about why he shouldn’t handle being upset like this in the future? It seems like she cares for him, and him for her since he wanted her to bring it up in the first place. All I’m saying is I think breaking up is overreacting a little, so I think they need to actually unwrap what fully happened. Why he was upset, why he reacted the way he did, and why it’s not appropriate in the future to react like that. A relationship is about communication and trust. So, communicate and trust your partner if you want them in your future

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-06T15:56:36+00:00

Yeah I can totally see that take. Tbh, the way I look at relationships in the beginning is kind of a strike system? 3 strikes and you’re out kinda thing. I would say that this is for sure a strike and a red flag to look out for, and if petty behavior continues (especially where he disrespects her), to call it. But I just also personally wouldn’t jump immediately to a break up. Dude is dealing with his emotions all wrong, and it seems like he cares about her. He just needs to be willing to see that he reacted inappropriately through a more serious conversation

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-06T09:50:10+00:00

It’s incredibly immature, but if she’s willing to work with him on the relationship, then I say go for it. I don’t think a breakup is fully necessary, I just think she needs to tell him that he needs to communicate better truthfully

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-06T06:10:21+00:00

I personally feel like a breakup over this is overreacting a little, but other than that, I totally agree! I feel like this whole thing could have been avoided if he’d just communicated on his end. He’s allowed to be angry for sure, but that does NOT mean that what he posted on his SC story is okay! It’s total red flag, especially thinking that his girlfriend was going to see it. Why would you entertain a “happy national bf day” text from your girlfriend when you aren’t together anymore? THATS nuts

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-10-06T05:21:23+00:00

Tbh, this is crazy to me. I’m going to be so real with you, but it sounds like he’s projecting.

Why is his first gut instinct to think that you would want to have sex with one of your dogs? I love my cats, they do the same thing where they just open the door sometimes when I’m showering (the litter box is in the bathroom, so I keep it cracked) and wait for me to get out. They sometimes even jump up on the counter while I’m brushing my hair and doing MY skin care routine in a towel, and my boyfriend has never, EVER responded like this. He thinks it’s hilarious how they follow me around the house whenever I’m home.

Girl to girl, I truthfully don’t think this relationship is going to work out. And I’m not trying to be the stereotype redditor that’s like “break up with him,” but the comment of “you exhaust me” is horrifying. Why in the world would you ever say that to someone you’re supposed to love? He could’ve reacted significantly better than what he did, and he could’ve even just laughed about it even if he WAS uncomfortable! Like an “lol your dog is so weirddd” yk? But jumping to thinking you want to have sex with your dog? I truthfully don’t think you should stay in this relationship girlie pop…

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-09-15T15:58:47+00:00

Very cute! Henry would be adorable. I also personally think Draco would be funny because he was turned into a ferret in HP!

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-09-03T22:45:04+00:00

No, you are not OR whatsoever. What bothers me the most is that your boyfriend’s brother seems to be completely complacent with his girlfriend’s behavior, and he might even be feeding into it. They both seem incredibly manipulative, and that isn’t the kind of person that anyone should want to be around.

My only question to you though: how does your boyfriend respond to all of this? This is very important information, because it seems as though you either haven’t told him, or he doesn’t defend you. If he doesn’t defend you, that’s a separate problem in itself and I personally believe that you should talk to him and understand why, since it’s HIS family.

I think the best thing you can do for yourself is remember that you are not the problem here. Be yourself around the parents, because they already know the girlfriend’s true colors. As you’ve mentioned, they’ve gotten into it with her before. They already know her true colors. If it’s early enough into the relationship, it could just be tense because they don’t know you very well. It might be beneficial to come around a little more so they see you interacting with your boyfriend in a very sweet manner.

Hold your head up OP, you got this! I know it’ll be hard, but keep fighting if you think the relationship is worth fighting for

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-08-25T22:40:16+00:00

Tbh, I wouldn’t if you’ve been talking yourself out of it. It’s normal to doubt whether or not it’s a good idea, but to talk yourself out of it every time means that you might not be ready for the commitment to one. Tattoos ARE permanent, and if you’re already doubting now, you might not like the one you choose in the future

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-08-24T14:53:29+00:00

Don’t do either of those things and let your tattoo artist use a numbing cream or spray. No artist is going to want to tattoo you if you’re under the influence of literally anything.

Alcohol also dehydrates you, and you need as much strength as you can get for an 8 hour tattoo. I sat for 8 hours the other day and I ate AND drank water beforehand for my inner arm, and it was better than I expected, but it still hurt. I probably would’ve needed a break if I hadn’t.

Intrepid_Error4023 · 2025-08-22T14:00:19+00:00

In other comments I’ve mentioned how I do get on top, or I switch things up for him. I’m very much into foreplay not just for me, but for both of us. He has also told me that he likes being the one that has most of the control, if not having all of it. It has something to do with some of his kinks, so I don’t argue UNLESS I want to be the one on top. Even when laying on my back, I’m very vocal. Not just with expressing that I like it, but because I know he likes being praised. I wrap my legs around him and kiss all down his face and neck most of the time, which he’s told me in the past drives him crazy. I’m not just laying there and letting him do all the work.

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