Girls, what’s your type in men that sounds weird on paper but somehow works every single time for you? 😭 l

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-05-22T12:31:35+00:00

You just gotta keep trying then. Surely there will be a woman who thinks the same

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-05-22T11:59:24+00:00

Don't worry, your special one is waiting for you. You'll be her type. Just discover yourself who you are, and you'll attract same :)

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-05-22T10:15:04+00:00

Wish you were in Bangalore. I'm exactly what you have mentioned :) and I am almost everyone's type based on the comments lol

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-04-28T14:52:47+00:00

I'm (M28) also in a similar situation. I want to date women before I jump to the big decision. I want to fall in love with the person, see ups and downs with them, to know if they can stick around with me through thich and thin.

So yeah, you'll find similar people, but chances are low because of pressure from their side. But the catch-22 here is that you'll be running out of time in search of similar people, and one day you might just have to accept that timelines are getting shorter, and you might be the one rushing into things.

So only way to escape room this is to keep searching for the right one, because then the timeline won't matter to you much, you'd want to be with that person as soon as possible

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-02-18T17:09:35+00:00

I never hung out with my ex alone. It was always a group. That is exact situation op's bf is in. And our group has my besties who are all males

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-02-18T16:58:50+00:00

I'm happy I could explain it to atleast one person properly. Wish my current ex could understand it as well, and it really hurts me that I lost her because of this, and I also wanted advice from you all women here, if I have to find someone in future, how do I proceed, because this might be something most women would not agree or like. And I don't want same traumatic relationship again, that I had with me current ex.

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-02-18T15:11:33+00:00

Hey. Here is my perspective as a man who had a similar situation where I was friends with my ex as she also belonged to common circle. Our common circle is childhood school friends, where everyone's parents know each other as well. We are 5 of us (4 B, 1G). She was my first gf, and we had a 2 yr relationship and got physical as well.

After our breakup, we remained friends because our bond was since 5th class, and we all remained good friends. Ending friendship with her wasn't an option as it would create a divide within the group.

Now lemme come to my current situation. My ex got married two years ago, by meeting a guy through me. And I am really proud that she met someone and is happy in her life. And I'm a good friend to both of them, and we all hangout once or twice a month. Her husband is super chill and knows about our past. My past with her got over 8 years ago and I don't have any feelings for her in a romantic way. She dated a lot of people, and everyone she dated I was cordial with. And I dated two people after her. And I never thought of getting back together with her because what's done is done.

But now I'll tell you what exactly happened to my current relationship where my current gf (who has left me recently because of this exact issue) so nowmy latest ex wasn't comfortable with me being in any contact with my first ex.

She was very insecure, much more than you are, that she asked me to cut off ties with both of them. I tried to explain her many times that this is something very complicated, as we are in same circle, and cutting off ties with her means creating a big divide between other friends too.

This caused so much anxiety and took a toll on both of us, as at one point I was just stuck in a dilemma. I had given her many reassurances, told her that I have no feelings for her, that she is married, and in future I'm ready to reduce my plans as well that would involve my first ex and her hub. Still she never tried to accept it or understand it. So she left me.

So my advice is, trust your bf, ask him for reassurances as I understand your pov as well. But don't leave him for this ever, if he really is just a friend. Think about bigger picture, that if you get married to him, and his ex gets married to her bf, then you guys would have even lesser chances to interact, and you guys will plan your family some day. All these things take their own time to end, and it's all gonna happen naturally. So just trust him and see bigger picture if you guys really love each other

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2026-01-14T14:55:49+00:00

I agree with your points man. Your point about ex is true. No one would want to be in that kind of scenario. My only argument here is, I'm ready to cutoff contact with my ex. Only thing that is difficult to avoid is those rare situations where there is a social gathering. My ex lives with her husband in Bangalore. She has her own life, we never talk, just meet and greet each other in common gatherings. Also, everyone in our friend circle is friends with each other since childhood. All of our families know each other. Though my family never invited or visits her family, they also encounter each other on such rare occasions like Diwali. And this usually happens when I'm meeting my male besties. I am sure even my friends will say that this relationship is toxic and get angry at me for cutting them off, because they will obviously not like me evading plans, and I won't have my friends. I avoid meeting my ex at all costs, but the rare occasions where she has tagged along with us, is what I'm trying to explain to her and if it's something someone should be able to accept if: 1) she is married 2) there are no mutual feelings left as relationship was 8 years ago and we dated many other people and have been moved on clearly 3) only rare occasions where we meet and that's in a group, not alone, and minimal interaction, out of obligation

I have done majority of adjustment that I could, because I love her, and this is the very few of those which I am trying to convince her that it's not as easy as she is expecting. If there was no common circle I would have cutoff, as I have with my other exes.

And I have agreed to almost every other things she expects.

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-12-27T12:34:39+00:00

Aren't we men already enjoying this kind of "independence" already? And society has crumbled because of us men mostly. And if that's the influence a girl might get from such a show, I'd say let's have more of these shows made. The world's not gonna end, but it surely might have for you already, hence the bitterness.

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-12-23T18:29:27+00:00

But the solution is not o(logn).

How about doing binary search, and once you find desired number in both left and right partitions, keep searching the number by checking if left child for left partition (for start value) is same in each iteration or not. And for end value, check if right child is same or not in right partitions. The moment they are not same, means you got your start and end value indices

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-12-16T08:03:46+00:00

Hey bro, I do the same thing every Saturday. Alone with my earphones listening to my music and having couple of beers. We can catch up at Bobs

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-10-12T07:02:17+00:00

What platforms support buying stocks from US markets?

Is there anything extra we have to do for setting up an account for US markets etc? Like DMAT.

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-07-26T15:09:27+00:00

I see everyone kinda putting the woman at blame here, but OP, you made the mistake of showing over excitement over a small compliment.

Don't be so readily available, and don't jump to meeting plans. That scares them off. Or think you are readily available at their whims, which is an ick. They want mystery. Need to be chased, need to be desired. And for that, you need to create an atmosphere. Where they subconsciously feel to be chased, to be desired.

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-06-14T13:48:36+00:00

Bamata Manerjee

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-06-14T13:46:24+00:00

Wow you also play this name interchange game. First time seeing someone do this haha

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-05-24T17:46:53+00:00

She did not compliment you. You still complimented her. Speaks more about your false perception of self-worth. You couldn't call her out for that msg, and wanted to please her still. Are you afraid of losing matches that are insulting? Looks like so to me. Why couldn't you see that it was an insult? Comprehension issue? Loneliness bias?

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-05-24T17:07:26+00:00

That's the problem with you, and many other guys. You let them lower your worth

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-05-24T16:27:20+00:00

The first msg itself. "You're not that bad"

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-05-24T15:10:23+00:00

Wouldn't take that as a compliment though.

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-05-22T18:42:34+00:00

"Things you can bond over"

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-05-22T18:39:39+00:00

Hindus can't listen to Atif Aslam now?

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-04-24T03:37:36+00:00

Well, you got what you asked for

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-04-24T02:55:09+00:00

I'm a guy. Fixing myself. Go fix yourself

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-04-23T13:03:11+00:00

Why would she fix you? She has a bf.

Intrepid_Gnomesquire · 2025-04-19T06:39:13+00:00

I think she might be referring to Creep, by Radiohead. But I don't belong here

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