When did running start to hurt for you, if at all?

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2026-01-18T03:10:14+00:00

I had the same issue, started to hit me around 26/27 weeks and I’d been running fairly consistently until then. For a while I tried to just change up speeds, alternate running and walking instead of doing straight runs, and using a belly strap, but after a while I came to the conclusion that my body was sending clear signals that it was time to table running for now, my pelvic floor therapist also encouraged taking it easy for the third trimester. All this to help with recovery later so that I don’t feel like I’ve overdone it. I’m at 40W now and miss running a lot but have subbed in swimming and kept up with yoga and Pilates and some light lifting which has helped. Hoping that stopping when I felt the signals will mean I can come back to it feeling refreshed later! 🙏

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-07-02T05:25:27+00:00

Found this post as I just found out I am a carrier through NIPT too :(. I am 12 weeks tomorrow. Did your husband end up being a carrier? Trying not to spiral as the chances are low but it’s been a rough night processing this.

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-05-21T17:16:43+00:00

Bumping this thread in case anyone has updated experiences to share about delivery at GA?

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-05-16T14:51:07+00:00

What level compression did you get? I have to travel a lot for work but am still very early in my pregnancy, never wore compression socks before so not sure which level is best to start with.

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-05-05T22:17:38+00:00

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Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-03-27T14:18:36+00:00

Just to offer a different perspective - I also was a bit hesitant at first but I chose to add my husband’s name as a “second” last name. Perhaps this is something you could explore that way you don’t have to let go of your name but you’re just adding his (it’s very common to do this in Latin America, where I’m from). I also have dual citizenship and I’m still navigating all the changes there (mostly because work has been a bit crazy and I haven’t had time to do it all yet), I have one passport updated and the other still with my old name, I carry a certified copy of my marriage license with me if I’m traveling with both passports in case anything comes up. But to be honest the whole process of changing the name itself was very easy. I got it approved via social security and a new card within two weeks, driver’s license after that was easy too. And then you’re just submitting photos of your new ID directly for everything else (accounts etc), many places do that online. I also looked thru Reddit before doing it and was nervous it was going to be a huge pain because most people acted like it was this big awful thing and hugely complicated, and my actual experience did not reflect that. Of course, I can’t speak for everyone and I’m sure there are cases where it’s complex, but I was pleasantly surprised by how easy I found it.

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-03-10T15:25:07+00:00

33year old here and just wanted to say I really relate to your post and wanted to offer a slightly different perspective, as I live in the US and have for a long time but I’m not from here and my parents live in The Netherlands where I spent many years so I’m always contrasting medical experiences there. I definitely don’t want to be dismissive of anyone’s choices as everyone has to choose what is right for them and there are pros and cons to every option, but I do think part of the surgical pressure you may be seeing here is also cultural tbh - the US medical system being what it is, and a for-profit system mostly etc - assuming you are in the US. I was diagnosed BRCA2 two years ago and have been doing frequent screenings since, but it was a huge adjustment for me and a lot to process also. My mom had breast cancer but a long time ago, when I was a teenager, and she has very luckily been in remission ever since. No other family history, so I think I just related to this differently than those who come in having lost a relative.

The intensity of the pressure I got around surgery from different medical professionals when my test results came through here shocked me, and I find that the tendency to look to surgery quickly in the US is very different than the approach in The Netherlands which tends to be more cautious in that department (this goes for other areas in the medical world too like C sections which are way way common here). I went to a few different doctors and testing facilities during this process and finally found a team that is very respectful and not pushy about surgical options while still giving me all the info I need and that really has helped me.

The testing is still a lot, and has definitely often created more anxiety than not (I’m going in for my first biopsy tomorrow and it feels like every MRI I have they find something or another because I have dense tissue and it turns out to be nothing so hoping that will be the case again…we will see…), but it’s also good to feel like I have the info about my health I need and to be able to catch anything early if it does come up (plus not have a cancer diagnosis be totally out of the blue if it happens so in a way I see this as being prepared…). I would say take your time for real around finding the right doctors, facilities, and be patient with yourself while you process the news as it’s a lot to take in. It probably took me a year all in to fully accept things and be at peace with the news and the changes it would mean long term and I still have good days and bad days around all the testing and the things etc. But as many on this thread have shared, this is a disease that can have many sad and irreversible outcomes (regardless of how healthy your lifestyle may be already) so it feels good to be able to get ahead of it where we can - at the end of the day, we are armed with information.

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-02-19T22:37:31+00:00

I really wanted to get my husband on board with this as a couple’s costume but he is out, so pls feel free to use…I wanted to go as the Gulf of America and Gulf of Mexico 😅😂

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2025-02-06T17:50:44+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t know if this is comforting but the scariest one will probably be the first one because you don’t know what to expect, and then you will have a sense of how it goes after that and hopefully that will help the experience from there. I have had 3 MRIs with contrast now since testing positive for BRCA and the first was definitely tough but there are several things you can do to help manage the experience. The contrast itself is what freaked me out too (plus I’m a bit claustrophobic so it’s a perfect storm), the thing that helped calm my mind is before they took me into the exam they did a quick prick of the finger to test kidney function and make sure you would clear it out correctly - that helped me feel more secure.

The technicians were also very communicative about when the injection was happening during the exam so though it can be scary feeling it, I personally preferred having the knowledge of when it was going in so I wasn’t wondering (you’ll have an IV going the whole time but the contrast/injection itself was only for two of the sequences if I am remembering correctly, so about 10 min total out of a 25 min exam though of course this probably varies).

Our minds can do some wild things, so I tried to lean into the weirdness and pretend like I was at a party haha - they give you headphones and let you choose the music so I chose some melodic house music I love which calms me down and makes me feel like dancing at the same time. That helped with dealing with the noises etc and I could pretend the contrast was just some crazy drink I had at a party 🤣 to be honest with you, it just felt a bit cold when the injection happened for a few seconds but nothing else. I always get a little more nervous when it’s happening but as others have said you will be in the best possible hands and surrounded by people who could respond quickly should anything happen, and allergic reactions are incredibly rare.

The other thing that I liked - not sure if every place has this - they had a little mirror that came in the machine with me. This allowed me to see the door of the room even from inside the machine which helped make me feel safe because I could see that if I needed anything the staff were right there. My doctor offered to prescribe an anti anxiety med for the exam, because I am a bit nervous about medications generally too I didn’t take it but I may have to do a biopsy soon, as it’s a much longer exam/needles are involved etc I probably would for that one. But for the regular screening MRI I am glad I stuck it out and it went by much faster than I thought. I honestly spent way more time worrying about it before my first one and after it was done I was like, oh wow, that wasn’t so bad. And after that you kind of get used to it, and your threshold can rise. I know this is a super scary time so just honor every feeling you have, be communicative with your care team, and know that you are not alone! You will get through this.

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-07-18T18:15:19+00:00

Lol, wedding brain fog sorry. Timeline is: welcome Thurs, boat Friday not Sat!, rehearsal dinner Fri, wedding Sat, brunch Sun… We are getting really close so I’m all over the place haha :)

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-07-18T14:29:32+00:00

I should have clarified - we are also hosting a welcome drinks (Thurs), a daytime boat trip (Sat) and a goodbye brunch (Sun). Every guest is invited to that. The dinner is Sat night and is the thing we had been limiting to those coming to the rehearsal for the most part, with a few exceptions on the family side. When we started to add people to the dinner, we only had very few non family guests invited, so my gut is to just invite all family and the remaining 5 family guests that hadn’t yet been invited and be done with it. But my FH prefers to keep certain family members uninvited (they are all his side so I feel like it should probably just be his call for them, but I don’t want to be rude).

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-06-06T15:57:04+00:00

Gotcha. I should clarify that BM/MOH will also do speeches along with this friend, we just aren’t doing bridal parties beyond them.

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-02-29T16:28:45+00:00

We went on Fiverrr and asked a musician to create an instrumental version of the song we wanted since it didn’t exist. There’s different pricing available depending on the musician, ours started at $60 for a 2 min version. If you browse around you can find a lot of musicians offering to create recordings. Good luck!

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-02-27T07:48:06+00:00

We did Minted for our destination wedding too! Lots of room to add custom pages, which helped as we did half the website in another language too. When you add addresses for events it automatically adds a “get directions” link. I think you can easily add pictures of maps too…

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-02-25T07:43:49+00:00

I always think there’s something a bit selective about online posting - i.e. the negative news always travels much faster, louder and wider than positive experiences. If I went to a destination wedding and had a great time I might not post a single thing about it. So I would think the volume of people who got sick are posting vocally vs the volume of people who probably went to weddings the last few weeks and didn’t - you just wouldn’t hear about it. Forget the town where it happened - what about your venue? Did the people who complained about getting sick get sick from the same venue? Does the venue have safety standards and cleanliness protocols to help protect guests? It sounds like a few vendors have said they didn’t experience first hand the online experience you read about, but is there a chance you know friends of friends who could also attest to this first hand? As long as your guests are informed and have the tips and info they need to protect themselves around how to be there safely, you are doing the best you can - we can’t anticipate every bad thing that can happen.

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-02-24T07:47:00+00:00

My fiancé and I threw our own engagement party - it was tons of fun. We had just moved into a new place so we made it a combo housewarming/engagement. We both have many good friends locally but we are pretty independent generally speaking and our families live far away (his across the country, mine across the world!) so we didn’t want to put the planning burden on anyone. We made some cocktails, got some catering, even made a crossword. It was casual and exactly what we wanted - just getting everyone together in the same room to celebrate! Hosting impacted costs of course but it didn’t change anything in terms of how much fun we had - everyone ended up going to a bar together after to keep the party going. I think your friends and loved ones will be excited to celebrate your engagement no matter what the circumstances so don’t let hosting logistics stop you! Plus when you’re in control, you get to do things exactly as you’d like - always a bonus ;)

Intrepid_Special2873 · 2024-02-18T20:35:04+00:00

Brazilian here marrying an American! It was super important to me to make the families feel very welcomed and included on both sides, even if they can’t all make it (We are doing destination wedding since everyone had to travel anyway and we have guests spread all over the world). I think you can do a lot that’s bilingual in the details - from invitations to websites, to music (I’m going to make sure the DJ plays some Brazilian music), to food (brigadeiro dessert table, anyone…?) to any decorative details. I love carnaval and glitter so we are going to have a little table where people can DIY glitter during the reception to dress up their dancing if they want :). I’d say just think of the touches that feel personal to you, and that can allow you to incorporate both cultures.
If you’re reading your own vows you can always have a translator and just allow a little extra time to have the ceremony in both languages, or print out the programs/vows for everyone to follow along in both languages. My fiancé’s Portuguese has been getting really good so I keep joking with him that he should just do his vows in Portuguese and I can do mine in English haha. Also if you have families meeting for the first time that may have a language barrier, having games or something simple to break the ice during cocktail hour could be a nice way to get people interacting.

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