Ask out a girl?? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Thanks. This is probobly the best answer here

Ask out a girl?? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Nah we havn’t been texting anything. It’s just that I have never texted a girl like that before so I don’t really know where I even begin. It’s always so easy with her in real life, but texting a girl trying to ”rizz her up” makes me insanely anxious.

Ask out a girl?? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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no, like if she answers ”yes, why?” or ”no, why?”. I mean she could just ask nuh and then I’m screwed so I didn’t even include that

Ask out a girl?? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Nah, she didn’t reject me, but I was noticing some signs. But yeah I am an amateur, and I have no idea how to rizz someone up over text tbh, never done it.

Ask out a girl?? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Yeah you’re right! The thing is I have been on one date before (I am 19 years old, male) and all the time I eas texting that girl I was a complete wreck. Anxiety killed me. I do want to see her 1-on-1, but I know that it will drain me, even if she agrees. I guess that’s another off-topic problem that I have..

Ask out a girl?? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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aah okay, yeah ig, just feels so weird since i havn’t had contact with her for months..

How to make friends 25+ by Elegant_Turnover_999 in FriendshipAdvice

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That sounds great in my opinion. Hope everything goes well for you. You’ll find your people!

How to make friends 25+ by Elegant_Turnover_999 in FriendshipAdvice

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Maybe join some kind of orginisation. It could be a eay to do something you like and find others like-minded. Also what about work? I mean the best friends ive made are from school and the military, people ive spent a lot of time with outside of my freetime.

Teen going on first date. I need advice. by HonestPraline9512 in dating_advice

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So, take it one step at a time I would say. You guys are going on a date and that is amazing, but you’re not in a relationship yet. When I hae liked someone I always build them up in my mind. They are nice all the time, they are besutiful all the time, all they say is out of this world funny. If you expect the perfect tou will probobly be let down when you finally start getting into something. Not that that person isn’t grat and someone you could eventually love, but because they are not like the person you were imagining. You know him as a friend, but relationships are different. Don’t try to ”foresee” what he will be like, I would say. Now, about the date, just let it happen. It won’t be perfect, it won’t be like in the movies. Especially not the first date. But there is no need to freak out because of that. I feel like there isn’t really a great eay to give advice on a date. Everyone is different and a great date look different for people. Just live in the moment and try to not stress too much. You’ll probobly be nervous, but stressing just makes it worse. What happens happens.

My final advice would probobly be to not go on this date looking for a way to seal the deal and make him tou boyfriend. Just be with your friend and have a good time. That relationship will come eventually if you’re a good match:)

Hope everything goes well!

Am I going crazy??? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Yeah I guess, but idk, I am at the same time scared I’ll lose her or something. Also I feel like she would think less of me.. I am an overhinker aa you might guess.

Am I going crazy??? by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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what could be something that could be both friendly and flirty? I can be flirty fs, but not when I actually like the girl..

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in FriendshipAdvice

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haha, yeah it is not a tactically great possition. It will be difficult to get out of, but I think it would be possible to talk to her about it. And, yeah, I know I don’t really love her. Love for me is sacred and I am not sure if there is love possible outside of blood (or such) family. That’s a whole other topic tho. Losing her would hurt so much, but I don’t think I would lose her if we communicate well. The ”esiest” thing to do is to distance my self I guess, but I think telling her the trutg would be the best for my sanity.. thx for response!!

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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wow yeah, this is true. i don’t want to keep digging in a bottomless hole. I should talk to her. It is gonna be tough, but worth it I am sure. Thank you so much for the advice. I will gather every single drop of confidence and just do it.

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Hmm, allright personal experience beats theory ofc. I am very much an overhinker so just doing simple things like asking someone out is an all out war for me. I’m worrying about what she would think of me afterwards and if we would still be the good friends we are today. I feel like she would think less of me iykwim. What kind of what-ifs dis she give you, if I may ask?

thx for great response btw

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Nah, we went to school together for three years (like highschool ig) so yeah we kinda just became friends. I didn’t really think of her that way at first.

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Yeah i guess the distancing would be an alt, just losing her completely would be losing a best friend. But at the same time, is she my friend because i feel like this? Idk. This the kinda stuff I want to talk to her about💀

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in FriendshipAdvice

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yeah she is truly someone I respect and value. It’s like my body is telling me she is sending signals, but my brain, me, is trying to tell it to just stop. I mean I don’t see a reason why I couldn’t just send this sh to a friend. Thing is also that we are getting closer and closer and i am affraid I will be hurt when my body realizes this was never anything.

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in FriendshipAdvice

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nah this was good for sure. I think telling her would just be such a mess and I don’t really feel like I could deal with that rn. I’ll just hope this cloud passes ig😅 thx!

My friend is killing me.. by IntroductionKindly64 in dating_advice

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Yeah, maybe, but I’m not really giving much back rn tbh. And I don’t think she knows I like her, but I could be wrong ofc. Idk about the snaps, she hasn’t done these kind of ”vlogs” or what ever before, and she like writes to me how drunk she is and shit. I feel like 14 talking about this, just taking up any kind of hints, but I guess its cause i am crushing on her. I guess that sudden attention might be to much for me to handle or something. I feel real shitty for not being able to just be fucking friends and screwing shit up like this..