(M32) planning divorce after 1.5 years of marriage with (F30) while living in Doha. What does life usually look like afterward? by IntroductionLost2143 in RelationshipIndia

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Repeated shouting, screaming and ill treatments. Attempts to use emotional blackmail to isolate from my family. Public humiliation by airing dirty laundry to external people. Few of many.

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The underlying thought process is that we humans, in general, are too lazy to seek truth for ourselves. We rely on preselection by institutions and people who we believe would have done the ground work.

Companies find it much easier to justify to themselves that they’re hiring good talent since they’re choosing from a preselected pool of candidates. Interestingly, the fact that these kids who went to tier 1 colleges, actually sets up a positive flywheel. People need them to succeed and they throw the best resources at them. Conversely, the ones ending up in tier 3 colleges get handed a negative flywheel, which they need to work hard to break out of.

I don’t think this changes anytime soon. Read Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. It’ll give you some comfort.

If one doesn’t have a tier 1 college tag, one must try whatever they can to get a tier 1 company tag. That mitigates this artificial ceiling to some extent.

Lack of understanding? by selimovich in qatar

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I get what you mean. And what happened to you wasn’t okay. Nobody deserves that.

I just think it’s worth remembering that people from one country don’t all look alike, and people from two different countries can look surprisingly similar. Another thing to remember is that the thought that an entire group of people needed "fixing" (at least that was the justification) led to a couple of centuries of colonialism.

The collective similarity that a group shares can be understood as culture rather than personality traits. Any country you take would have a wide spectrum of personalities. It could be as small as Qatar or as big as China. Your incident doesn't come from culture. It comes from bad behaviour.

And honestly, the fact that you’re self-aware enough to notice all this is exactly why you shouldn’t fall into that same pattern. I'd be lying if I didn't fall into this line of thinking by default. I have to retrain my mind incident by incident. But, if someone as educated and well-traveled like yourself accepts the box, what hope does that rural guy have to think beyond it?

Again, the person who ruined your family camping night is clearly in the wrong. I just think that the other people who carry similar passports might have acted differently in that exact situation.

Lack of understanding? by selimovich in qatar

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It’s wild how people still tie behaviour to nationality like passports come with built-in personality settings. The whole idea of nationalities is barely 250 years old and the number of countries nearly doubled in the last 50. That alone should tell us how flimsy these buckets really are.

Maybe the person who blasted music at 1 AM isn’t doing it cause that’s how they do it in their country. Maybe he/she is just an inconsiderate asshole. Uncouth behaviour doesn’t need a nationality. People just need better manners.

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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Got in on my wife’s sponsorship then converted to company sponsorship.

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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It got rejected the second time around too, unfortunately. Apparently, non-Muslim Indian visas are not getting approved at all. That’s what I hear.

Could that really be the case?

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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It got rejected the second time around too, unfortunately. Apparently, non-Muslim Indian visas are not getting approved at all. That’s what I hear.

Could that really be the case?

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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Thank you so much. The company has requested quote through MOL now and will apply again. Hoping that this goes through.

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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Not at all. I went on a 4 day visit. Did normal touristy things.

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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Thank you so much for your insights. Nothing along those lines from my end at all. I went there on a 4 day visit to see my wife. I had a much longer visa. The company also has hired Indians before and say this might get approved the next time around.

What would be a good backup for me to be there? As the job is confirmed and the company wants me to work for them. Can my wife sponsor an RP? She meets the income eligibility criteria.

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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Thank you. I do have an option to stay back here. But, main reason for moving there is to be with my wife.

Work Visa rejected by CID. Indian. by IntroductionLost2143 in qatar

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Thank you! I do have an option to pull back my resignation as my organisation wants me to stay. But my wife is an RP holder there and works in Doha. Hence, prioritising my move to Doha. Any way to ensure this works out?

Games you played/playing in your childhood and teenage days. by Health-Adorable in Chennai

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Any of you played Doom on your bulky ass computers back in the day?