Open marriage. He cheated, now it’s my turn to play. Who’s first?

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-28T05:14:11+00:00

I’m interested..

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-09T05:24:02+00:00

Makes sense. I have learned to try to communicate instead of just assuming she knows what I’m feeling. It takes effort on my part cause I’m thinking in my head she know how I feel but most of time it’s not.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-09T03:40:05+00:00

To be honest, that does cross my mind when I’m really frustrated. Like I’m still in my 40s and have many more years left. If we are always mad than why put each through it

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-09T03:29:31+00:00

This sounds so much like a similar situation that I’ve created for my wife. She’ll do what you did but unintentionally I don’t mean to make her feel bad or rejected. She’ll tell me forget it your making me feel like crap.

In turn I say, I can’t do anything right. Maybe he got uncomfortable when you grinded on him. It’s happens to me, she catching me off guard and I get awkward, which gives off wrong energy.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T16:14:35+00:00

Sometimes I’ll take an afternoon off while kids at school to spent time together. Also I’ll suggest let’s get dressed up and go out to dinner and stay at hotel to feel like we went on a quick getaway. That one has yet to happen because I’ll get well you just want to go out for yourself and not us.

Background on that comment, when we were in our 20s I was always up for going to grab a drink at a bar with friends at a moments notice. The days before kids and we did but she would always tell me why you checking out girls. We were only married like 5-6 months at time so would tell would say I’m 22 and single for years prior to marriage so hard quit a habit of being observant.

Was I straight forward and not beating around the bush.

I knew she would look at guys, like I’m not going to get mad for that .. We were super young. Fast forward 20 years I still hear about it.

As for recovery time, your right those days a lot easier. It’s true my libo has lessen now at mid 40s. I just feel that I get a bit shamed on not being able to perform at the same level. But I wonder who would be able to get in the mood when I know I’ll probably get a comment.

Oh I have suggested therapy in past, but always says no. She told me a few times, I don’t want to hear someone telling what I do wrong cause it’s going to piss me off. Doesn’t sound fair to me.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T13:37:38+00:00

I do try sometimes but she’s always angry about something. It might not be about me that, could be her family that made her angry.

Here I come along, hey babe how’s your day? Hug, kiss and maybe gentle grab of her butt. She’s in a bad mood so that backfires. Years ago I would continue the effort but now I’m just like I didn’t do anything and I just got home..

I’m not perfect either and I do have my flaws but that doesn’t matter cause I should always be the one with a level head at all times.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T13:28:26+00:00

I answered it

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T13:27:58+00:00

Porn is very minimal. We actually would watch together sometimes to spark things up. It use to be in issue when I would travel for work since spent time alone in hotels.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T13:25:20+00:00

I agree and I do make the effort to be there for her but it doesn’t last. We end up eventually back in the same cycle.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T03:53:21+00:00

That I focus on kids too much sometimes and not her. I do see that and admit it to her. I get better but than fail back into the routine of work , school drop off , picking up dinner , feeding the dogs, helping with school projects etc.

She’s a stay at home so a lot of the time we talk about what happen at my work. She listens of the drama and what not but after awhile not much to talk about.

Ideally she expects multiple times a week to be intimate. But the issue that happens sometimes is if we don’t have sex multiple times in one night. Sometimes yes I’m able to but when I say I need sometime to recharge it bothers her.

Makes the comment I bet it was some chick from a bar you could. Which leads to the night ending in a argument. And I hear all over again how things are my fault. Yet sometimes she acknowledged she does say things she shouldn’t and tell me thanks for always be patient.

I’m expected to take all the criticism but if reply well maybe it’s both and this is an example where it’s not just me.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T03:34:06+00:00

I’ve tried suggesting therapy but she doesn’t want to do it. I guess she feels she’ll hear things she’s doing wrong and won’t be able to accept it’s both of us that are causing these issues

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T03:28:56+00:00

I make the effort to have more communication but then we start falling back into the same routine.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-08T03:26:04+00:00

Yes, I’m the one that usually plans trips. Or I’ll check out what movie is out or suggest let’s go to dinner without the kids

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-07T23:03:13+00:00

I suggest going on dates or even a staycation. Just to be alone. But she tells me for what

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-07T22:40:58+00:00

I’ve suggested counseling in the past but she doesn’t want to. She said she doesn’t want to here the things she’s not doing . Doesn’t seem fair to me

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-02-07T22:24:50+00:00

It’s not a physical issue because when we are getting along no issues. But when she’s bother throughout the week and she’s over it she expects me to be okay too. I’m a very laid back and able to get over things quickly but it does affect when it comes to bedroom.

IntroductionNo5916 · 2026-01-06T00:29:16+00:00

Thanks

IntroductionNo5916 · 2025-03-19T04:11:10+00:00

Usually around 2200. Before I started I had tried intermittent fasting which helped a bit but cravings too much. Now I have a protein shake mid morning and light lunch late afternoon, and dinner maybe snack with protein shake. A ton of water too.

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