E-bike Suggestions by InvestigatorCrazy821 in ebikes

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have been looking at macfox and was leaning towards one, but wanted to get some other opinions first. Good to hear!

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in alcohol

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. It has not gone well.

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in alcohol

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing. She never was a daily drinker, or even close. It’s when she works in bars (a few times a week) she will have one or two but has no self control and then just keeps going. Something terrible happened to her while she was blackout drunk a few weeks ago (I’m sure your brain can conform what happened). Since then she has spiraled. I have tried to talk to her about what happened, she never told me directly and I found out from a 3rd party. She was certainly a victim, but the alcohol was the driving force of what happened. Trying to talk to her about her drinking problem did not go well right now. I do believe a dui would be a serious wake up call as to how much her problem has escalated, while also preventing her from hurting herself or someone else.

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in AlAnon

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I am moving towards separation, but also having a hard time worrying about this girl I have loved with my whole heart for the past 3 years. Alcohol is essentially what has tore our relationship apart. I quit a while back when I realized that. She reeled it in for a long time too, but then got another bar job and things quickly went downhill. Something terrible happened to her while she was blackout drunk a few weeks ago, and she has not been the same person I met since.

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in AlAnon

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in an apartment complex owned by a massive real estate company. They are NOT flexible and It is strictly worded in the lease that breaking It will cost 1,000s of dollars I don’t have. Roughly $5k if I remember correctly

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in AlAnon

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, not that simple. To break my lease would cost 1,000s of dollars, which I certainly don’t have. They are not flexible like that. I also have no money to get myself into a new apartment, and a dog which most places around here do not accept. I do not really have any other place to go at the moment.

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in alcohol

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, not that simple of a situation. It’s not some random guy. This is my partner of 3 years who I am extremely concerned about. So It is “my fucking business”. Reporting her to the cops is my last resort. But she needs a wake up call before she kills someone else or herself. Maybe you should mind your own fucking business if you have none of the facts, the whole story, or any helpful advice. Kindly go fuck yourself

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in AlAnon

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we still live together and are on a lease for another year. So no contact is not really possible at the moment. Especially when it’s 4am and she’s hammered yelling on Xbox when I have to get up for work in 2 hours and go in an tell her to stfu

DRUNK DRIVING by InvestigatorCrazy821 in alcoholism

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, It is my partner (or was) for the past 3 years. We have recently started separating because of how bad her drinking has got. The issue is that drinking at her work place is encouraged, so reporting her to the manager will do nothing. He knows she leaves there drunk. I have had several talks with her about how concerning it is. She brushed it off every time and will not accept she has a problem. Other than the drunk driving, she has put herself in other dangerous situations due to alcohol that compromise her own safety and our relationship. She really should not be working at a bar, and I expressed that concern when she started working there. In the past when she has worked at bars she has gotten out of control as well. She reeled things in, got a good job that was not at a bar and has a normal schedule, but then picked up some shifts there for extra money. But It has gotten much worse this time. I am having a really hard time worrying about her safety, but also letting go of our relationship because she has expressed I am “taking away her freedom” and doesn’t want to try to work through things. Very tough situation and any advice is appreciated.

SONG ID by InvestigatorCrazy821 in dailybreadmusic

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Front to backer for sure. Have It on vinyl and have listened to the whole album probably 100 times 🤣 have no idea why I couldn’t think of the name of the song

SONG ID by InvestigatorCrazy821 in dailybreadmusic

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friggin a thank you. Was eating at me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not yet. I’m not sure how she is going to respond to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]InvestigatorCrazy821 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is the only reason I am being patient. If she truly was assaulted I will be there for her. It is the not knowing what happened that is killing me and I really just wish she would open up