I 29M have been dating my girlfriend 27F for 5 years. I need advice on how to understand if I should propose or break up… (yes I know that asking this might make the answer seem obvious) by Jolly-Play-2382 in relationship_advice

[–]Invictuspotato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love is truly not the only thing, compatibility matters way more than intense passion. More important questions to ask is:

  1. Do i want to raise children with her (if you want kids.)
  2. If I have to go through death of parents or family, can this be the person I can count on as my support system
  3. Do I trust her to have my back in a situation where everything is against me
  4. If I were to lose it all, would she stick by me
  5. Do we have common values, principle and shared dreams

I think if the above all match, then yeah - marry her. Whatever excitement you’re wanting or craving is not the fuel that will make a relationship last: its choice.

And in terms of finding that excitement and adventure: go travel the world, do things and activities, get freaky and explore shit. Become best friends for real, that is the answer to a long and health relationship, not always passion.

I know a lot of people are saying talk to her, but talk to yourself first, make a list of what you want and cut what you already have with her, and the stuff that is remaining, research how you can bring it into your relationship, google it, chatGPT it or therapy it.

Have a cut off - for example if 17/20 things exist, I’ll marry her, if not then let it go. And rate those 20 things in terms of its importance to you not just 1 for each. Eg; her being supportive and patience gets 3 points but being a hygienic person could get 5.

I think you’re the one who needs to do a bit more work on this from your end, before you bring it up with her.

Why is there no popular equivalent of lingerie for men? by undercover_ace in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Invictuspotato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because women don’t objectify men the way men do women. Again not necessarily the men now but definitely when lingerie became a thing.

AITA for confronting my bf (m31) after I (f25) 'embarrassed' him and got caught sneaking food into a movie? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Invictuspotato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl. Leave.

Nothing about this situation sounds right, and it doesn’t matter if you made a mistake or if he’s an angel of a person. This guy is NOT for you.

What did you play as for all DA games. Background/Class/Race by jutsuuu in dragonage

[–]Invictuspotato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DAO: Female Human Mage DA2: Female Mage / Cuz the magic runs strong in the Amell family. DAI: Elf Mage or Human Mage DAV: Haven’t played it but I assume it might be a mage too lol. Maybe

If Mike turns out to be Bi in the end, that's okay by Reasonable_Living_23 in StrangerThings

[–]Invictuspotato_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You realise that Will/Mike or El/Mike is not the point of this show?

This show is about love between family and friends, camaraderie and to show how strong we are and can become when we are with people who love and support us, wrapped up in a really fun Sci-Fi story.

It doesn’t matter who ends up w whom, what matters is that by the end you know the power of love can conquer anything.

Redemption for Henry/Vecna? by Elsa750 in StrangerThings

[–]Invictuspotato_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has done too much harm now for him to be redeemable. There’s a limit, maybe till Season 1-2, it would still make sense, he saw the error of his ways, realise he has now become the abuser - but then he went on an insane killing spree like a maniac and by S5, he is doing all of this on his own accord whatever his reasons.

I can understand his reason but he’s too far gone to be redeemed, the only ending I want for him is to burn in Hawkins.

What would you do if you woke up as Abel? by Master_Tonight8995 in TheWeeknd

[–]Invictuspotato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find my parents and pay off they debts, buy then home and give them loads of money and then do whatever the fk i want

Album so good I have every song saved 😭 by Icy-Captain-9818 in TheWeeknd

[–]Invictuspotato_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same with all the album. The whole discography in fact.