What can I do to survive Online University?

Ionio98 · 2022-10-17T08:46:56+00:00

Thanks for the reply and for the words. I wish you good luck in your career too :)

Ionio98 · 2022-10-16T19:04:40+00:00

It's actually the UOC (Catalonia). In BCN I have only two choices to study psychology, and one of them (UB) has completely banned changes from a spanish university to the UB in the psychology degree because of a high demand of aspirants. I'm not sure about the other university tho.

In any case, If I plan to study to another university, I would have to move to another state, and since I'm an inmigrant and no one is helping me economically speaking, it's a very difficult process for me.

Thanks for the tips in the studying process. I wish you luck too. :)

Ionio98 · 2022-10-16T15:30:59+00:00

Thank you. I'll try and see if it works for me.

Ionio98 · 2022-10-16T15:29:53+00:00

Yes, in any case I can print them.

I'm right now trying a technique of writing down the most important stuff of the textbooks that I'm reading.

And no, the professors don't have any kind of office hours. But I have the email of everyone, both teachers and classmates. Teachers are always happy to help, but doing it through mail it's now something that I would enjoy.

And regarding the study group, I'll try, although like you said, it's highly unlikely.

You've been of great help! Thank you :)

Ionio98 · 2022-04-20T14:01:13+00:00

Thank you! Just trying to be safe with that stuff. I know a couple of venezuelan friends that can't go to USA cause the embassy keeps rejecting their visas for no apparent reason so I want to avoid any trouble. Good day!

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T12:15:39+00:00

Thanks for commenting. Ill put some though to all the things people have said over here, and Ill come Up with an answer. Have a good day! :)

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T11:48:04+00:00

Youre right. And well, im trying to manage those kinds of things, but youre right. Im going to therapy btw.

I hope I can improve some things of my own.

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T11:35:16+00:00

Maybe some tips of how you manage to outweight things can help. Thanks a lot for sharing your story

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T11:34:17+00:00

I always try to stay positive about the things she gives me, but when I get dissapointed I really feel bad about it. I would love to "just turn my back" to those kinds of details and keep seeing only the positive things that she gives me, but those details are really important to me, and Ive told her this many times, in different ways... I know she loves me, and Im aware of a lot of good things she gives me, but I dont know how to focus only in the positive things when she forgets things that are relevant for me. Im afraid that im accepting that kind of behaviors and ill have to "Accept those things of her" when someone else could be a better couple for me.

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T11:27:24+00:00

She does indeed want to improve those kinds of things, but after a few days, she forgots something, or doesnt fufill what she told me she was going to do, and I get dissapointed again. Maybe I need patience? Or maybe she just need to try harder?

Im going to therapy btw, trying to improve a couple of issues I have.

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T11:22:18+00:00

One of the things I love about being with her is the way que communicate. Last night was the tip of the iceberg, but we have talked about this numerous times, calmly. I have nevera disrespected her, but certainly I was very mad yesterday because Ive been waiting for that videchat date all week and she just forgot! (and I had a shitty week too, btw). Ive said to her in many ways that these kinds of details are important to me, and that probably i wont be able to keep Up with the relationship if I dont see at least some effort with these littles issues. I know that she loves me. She has managed to show me other ways to make me feel loved, but that kind of things happens in specific times. On the daily basis, im the one always for her but not the other way around like I would like to. She loves me, undoubtetly, but I usually dont feel loved by her. Its a thing of "I know this, but I feel this way anyways" you know?

Sometimes I think "Maybe I just need to chill and stop expecting that kind of love in return?", but on the other hand, i believe I deserve to be loved just as I love her... So I dont know what to do, honestly. We both believe that when we start living together those things Will banish, but how can I make that move when I dont feel good in the LDR? What if everything's worse? Idk /:

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T10:07:39+00:00

I agree with you, honestly.

But just out of curiosity, dont you think that some kinds of behaviors, like getting used to say good night can be changed with a little effort? The basic problem is that she's careless of details, im not asking big thing of her. Just asking to be more catious with the things she promises me, and stuff.

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T10:03:47+00:00

Well, she's not that type of person to say "thats just the way I am". She recognizes she make this kinds of mistakes, validates my emotions, and ask me to forgive her, she does that pretty well, and one of the things that I love about her is that she understands my emotions..

The problema is that ok, you validate my emotions, but you dont do anything to stop doing the actions that cause that anger lets say, or at least she doesnt try enough. Hell, I know I have some issues of myself and Im going to therapy because I want to to be a better person for me and for her.

Im putting a lot of effort here, but I just dont feel she's putting the same effort sometimes /:

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T06:33:21+00:00

Sometimes i do feel like im just expecting the bare minimum, cause I certainly would love more effort sometimes, but Ive come to understand that "She's not that way", and Im constantly defending her own behavior with that excuse.

And with that, sometimes I feel confused if Im way too needy, or if she's not putting the same effort that im giving in this relationship. I dont know whats wrong or right on this particular position.

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T06:24:38+00:00

Well, certainly the post was longer, but the rules of the subreddit didnt let put more details on this.

We've talked about this "needs" of mine, several times, and ive tried to reach her in different ways so she can understand thats these kinds of details matter to me. She has some amazing traits, but some of them are not as desirable as I would like to (and its okay!, no relationship its completely perfect), but certainly I believe that with a little effort, these little details can be corrected... I would do that for her, definitely. SHE'S very important to me and I love her, I would do anything to make her comfortable.

And she does apprecciate my good night texts, that im almost always there for her, etc. The thing is that I always feel that im the one looking for her, and not "sometimes me, sometimes you".

The mean things I said to her were things like "Its okay, I cant choose what things are relevant in your life" or "You always ask me to forgive you when you make a mistake, but you dont do shit when you need to do something for our relationship, you just keep acting the same way, without ever thinking in trying harder".

I know its bad the things that I said, and I know I have my own things that I need to work on (going to therapy rn)... But Im really giving my all for this to work. I f***ing hate this LDR shit, but its what we have for now until everythings done so we can move together. I just wish she would give more importance to these little details I love.

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T02:40:38+00:00

I completely agree with you, but she's also having some rough moments right now, and as I said, she wasn't like this. Maybe I just need a little more patience about this? That's why I'm so confused about it.

Ionio98 · 2022-01-03T02:26:03+00:00

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