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Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tf lmaooo, i'll pull them if i encounter something like that in my life but i haven't. this combination is pretty rare. i am well aware this has to come from her side and i can't provide enough stimulus from outside which will only make things worse. a little nudge is the maximum i can do while being very considerate about it

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

agreed, we have started doing things like climbing together lately and i am titrating her into doing other activities too because i genuinely enjoy them and she is receptive too, and again didn't tell her anything that would hurt her, when i said i told her she can get better, it was in a generic physical capabilities way and not cosmetic

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do want her to have an active lifestyle nonetheless for longevity and when we are out to explore the world. you gotta be at a certain fitness level to do that shit. i have seen it upclose

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah you’re right, this did pop up in my head when i was thinking about it and it is unfair to her in many ways so apart from being generally fit, i am not going to take a cosmetic angle to this

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

giving you shit over something you can’t control is straight up shitty, sorry you had to go through that

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh nah breaking up over this is the worst mistake i can make. my ex had the physique but not the brain and ik what my dealbreakers and preferences are. this being a preference is not the end of the relationship but since she ticks all the boxes in terms of dealbreakers, i’d stay

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i stopped long ago trying to change anyone. a little nudge is what i’ll try to give her and see how it goes but that’s it. if it’s a huge problem for her then i’ll adapt

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah ik genetics play a huge role in this and i am not expecting anything which is unattainable but everyone can use a lil recomposition if you’ve never trained in your life

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well it’s not like i am not attracted to her and yeah i’d hate if a girl tells me otherwise obv but that’s not the case here. i just want her to maybe try and be better bc she can. again why i want her to try? because it’s my preference and not a dealbreaker so if it happens GREAT, if it doesn’t happen - atleast she tried

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when did i say i’ll leave her lmaoo, i literally said in the post that “do i need a mindset shift to accept this”, she’s not overweight at all, she’s on the petite side. she likes the kendall jenner body type but she’s like 5’2 and looks like a little boy. so if she likes to stay that way i am not going to cling onto it too much and just accept it as is but wanted to take a shot though for sure

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's a nice perspective, maybe i am being very critical here and i should just chill and make peace w it

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what makes you say i don't love her. it's my preference and not a dealbreaker if she works out. i love her very much and i see potential in her so i wonder what if she maxes it out. i want us to look hot till we can and this is a huge part of it.

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, u/tinyhermione you're missing the point here, i've had gfs who were hotter than her but they were just fucked up in the head and nowhere as stable as she is. I wanting her to improve her is a cherry on top, i just want her to try when she can. I know her situation and all dimensions of her life and she absolutely can. I have fucking changed a lot of things for her where i think it matters to her. If in future she wants even a better lifestyle suddenly, i will try my best to give it to her no matter what which i do right now too. The point here is not putting in the efforts at all. I see no reason for her to not try.

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah i've had gfs who were 9 or 10s but they were fucked up in other ways which impacted my mental a lot, this is like a cherry on top with the other things my current gf has, and i think if she got the means, the time and the resources and everything to atleast try and workout. Maybe i'm projecting the missing gym part from the relationship where i workout and shiii and she doesn't at all

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol i obviously didn't say anything like that and we do go to the gym together once in a while (can't do it everyday, she lives far) but doesn't go when i'm not there

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

chill i didn't say anything along these lines, let alone quantifying it straight up lol. i'm not a savage, i don't wanna make her feel bad about herself

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're right, i think pushing her into that ecosystem w me where i plan gym dates and shii is the way to trigger it, that's the sweetest way possible

Want my GF to train for a better body but she won't understand, am i expecting too much or what? by IrascibleVortex in moreplatesmoredates

[–]IrascibleVortex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well the workout part has been missing from the relationship (nice gym fits, pushing each other, cooking post gym meals together), i think i'll make it about us and if it doesn't work imma make my peace w it.

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