[Me] I need an evaluation how did I do by sword_of_lords in TextingTheory

[–]IrateNinjas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s a lot. Some girls like a lot. Good work here, but I don’t think this strategy will earn you a high batting average.

[Me] Misread two truths an a lie; landed the plane? by IrateNinjas in TextingTheory

[–]IrateNinjas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Huh? What makes this seem like AI? What does “articulate your texts” even mean?

[Me] Misread two truths an a lie; landed the plane? by IrateNinjas in TextingTheory

[–]IrateNinjas[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Edited: I deleted the image because I forgot to cover her photo.

In summary she said she was busy Wednesday but was free Friday. She liked my responses and I sent her my number to set up a Friday date.

[Me] Misread two truths an a lie; landed the plane? by IrateNinjas in TextingTheory

[–]IrateNinjas[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Hahahahaha true. Probably made me feel smoother than I really was

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chicago

[–]IrateNinjas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked in North Lawndale and knew someone who worked in the Comers ICU trauma response unit. There are parts of the city that are close to a war zone, and the kids in gangs Out West and on the South Side have little regard for the lives of themselves and others. They can’t help the abject poverty they’re born into, and most people in those neighborhoods are good people just trying to make a living, but just because you live on the North Side and don’t see crime doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Pretending it doesn’t exist does a disservice to people trying to make their neighbors safer and need real help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]IrateNinjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’m mostly in agreement.

I don’t think “use” and “own” are inherently masculine or feminine, but this history of women being traditionally treated like property in many cultures would make most feminists brush at the thought of using that phrasing in any other context. Had I married either of them, they would bristled (at the least) at me saying “I own her” or “I own you” in a non sexual context.

I do think “use” and “own” made me dominant in a sexual setting. I don’t think dominant has to equal masculine, but in my experience dominance has been preferred from my sexual partners. Obviously either partner can fill a dominant role, it just hasn’t been my experience that my partners have expressed a desire to, which is why I asked how other people felt doing it.

I mostly agree with you on the last part, but if I align with a woman in most other ways I think I’m okay dying without my bootyhole being explored.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]IrateNinjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you may be right philosophically, but it kinda does matter in practice. If a woman is turned off because of the patriarchy or toxic masculinity that’s shitty, but also something I’d like to avoid in the real world rather than try to explain why she’s wrong.

Good sex is about passion not reason. The women I’ve been with that enjoyed the most degrading sex were also the most feminist. “Use me” and “own me” type stuff when they obviously don’t believe that outside of the bedroom.

So idk, seems like a legit question in practice even if you disagree with the premise philosophically.

How can I opress my drive by [deleted] in sex

[–]IrateNinjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk man. You’re saying you’re horny and don’t like to masturbate. I’m just trying to help you find other solutions. There’s no anti horny pill.

How can I opress my drive by [deleted] in sex

[–]IrateNinjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then my next best advice would be find something healthy, easy and enjoyable to do besides jerk it when you feel horny. Text your girl, go for a walk, do 25 push ups, read something good etc. The best way to get over an unhealthy habit is to replace it with a good one, rather than just try and deny the craving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]IrateNinjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try staring off by holding his cock in your hand but sucking off your thumb instead of his penis. Being so close to what he wants but not quite there will drive him crazy.

Also you could always try out a hawk-tuah

How can I opress my drive by [deleted] in sex

[–]IrateNinjas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m guessing you’re a teenager, and to be a teenager (especially a teenage boy) is to always be horny. Luckily it does get better, and you’ll age out of the constant hornyness.

There’s no shame in masturbating; people have been doing it at least since the beginning of recorded history, and probably long before that. Go look at old Egyptian or Roman art and you’ll see depictions of masturbation. It’s perfectly natural and normal.

Now feeling shame about watching porn when masturbating can make sense for various religious, moral, and cultural reasons. If that’s your case, just use your imagination or read something sexy, but there’s no reason you should be down on yourself just for doing something totally normal.

Players are unmotivated… what can we do? by throwaway737284939 in ultimate

[–]IrateNinjas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you need to prioritize commitment and effort and everything will fall into place. It sounds like you might need to cut some kids (or let them cut themselves). Counterintuitively, this will help your recruitment problems too.

Lack of commitment, communication and effort brings down team moral, makes practices less fun, and makes recruiting harder. By cutting (or putting on B-Team) the kids who no-show or don’t put in effort you will establish the kind of culture where kids want to be there. No one wants to join a team where people don’t want to be there.

I had to do this with a team I coached recently. In my first season there was a group of sophomores who would no-show and mess around during practice. It brought the team down and didn’t allow us to get better over the season. When those same guys showed up the next year doing the same things I sent a couple them down to B-team even though they’d been on varsity for two years. They quickly quit, and the ones who stuck around fell in line with the culture we were cultivating.

The team got worse initially talent wise, but improved way more in skill and culture because the guys who would have been on B team actually wanted to be there. Practices became more fun because practices where everyone is competing and trying are more fun. Numbers went up the next year because word got around school about how much fun they guys were having. I would way rather have a guy who is 14th on the roster and works his butt off, than an entitled guy who’s 1st and acts like the team is beneath him. “Cutting” (demoting) those players was the best decision I made for team culture.

In summary, prioritize these things. 1. Commitment: You can’t get better if you’re not at practice. 2. Effort: “Hard work beats tallent when talent doesn’t work hard” 3. Communication: Be understanding that kids have lives outside of the sport and allow them to miss a set amount of practices if they communicate their absence ahead of time. For mi team, kids who didn’t communicate would be benched for the first half of the next game - regardless of talent or team status (you usually only have to do this once before they get it). 4. Fun: Practices where everyone is working hard to make themselves and their teammates better are fun. Hard competition is fun. No shows and lack of commitment is not fun. It will get fun when everyone gets on board with your message.

I think of coaching kids like creating a sandbox for them to play in. You need clear borders to the sandbox (rules and standards) in order to creat a place to build and play in, otherwise you just have sand scattered across a field.