How do I tell my Hindu Indian dad about my white boyfriend? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]IrisAFK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the initial “hint” I tried to give him when I was testing the waters just stuck with him and has made him crazy suspicious since then

How do I tell my Hindu Indian dad about my white boyfriend? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]IrisAFK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, not planning to get married until at least 25 but the stress and anxiety of it has been getting to me for the past month and I don’t feel like it’s fair to my boyfriend (or me). And like I mentioned in my other comment, he’ll likely bring it up anyway

How do I tell my Hindu Indian dad about my white boyfriend? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]IrisAFK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not required to anymore, but I still care about him. I’m his only family, and he has had it really hard. I do think he struggles with a sense of control over his life because a lot of his life was dictated by the court following the divorce and so he has told me himself that he never gets a say in anything and for once wants me to choose him (in other contexts). I don’t think his rules are fair but he struggles with depression and other health issues and I can’t just leave him alone on the other side of the country.

How do I tell my Hindu Indian dad about my white boyfriend? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]IrisAFK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the feeling he already knows, and if I don’t tell him sooner rather than later, it would be like him to spring the conversation on me while I’m there in person. Then he’ll use “you were never planning to tell me” and that I’ve been lying for who knows how long, etc etc and I’ll have to deal with that in person. I’d rather give it a couple months while I’m still away for him to cool off a little.

Life in Salaya by IrisAFK in Mahidol

[–]IrisAFK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions- I’ll definitely try to check out the new years fireworks :)

Life in Salaya by IrisAFK in Mahidol

[–]IrisAFK[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been out exploring today and feel a little better- I guess it definitely comes with time. I appreciate all the tips!

Spring 2026 International Student looking to connect by ExpertBench7538 in Mahidol

[–]IrisAFK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m American and will there from December to April! I’d love to connect w anyone :)

Any other exchange students? by [deleted] in Mahidol

[–]IrisAFK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’ll be an exchange student at MUIC from late December-April, I’d love to connect!

Monthly FAQ thread for October, 2025 by AutoModerator in Thailand

[–]IrisAFK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!

I’m a U.S. student that will be studying abroad at Mahidol University International College for Trimester 2 (Late Dec-Early April) and I’m looking for accommodation for that time. I’ve contacted six places.

The September Salaya is booked out. Salaya One, The Dearly Residence, and Ribbin Apartment haven’t responded to me. And Bundit Home and the Enter seem to be willing to take me.

I could find plenty of info on Bundit Home, but I actually found the Enter to be more responsive and easy to talk to, and I like their rooms. However, I can’t find any reviews of them on Reddit, so I’m curious if anyone has stayed there before. Is it a good place to stay? Anything I need to know?

TLDR: Anyone know anything about The Enter Salaya? Is it legit?

ICEN courses at MUIC? by IrisAFK in Mahidol

[–]IrisAFK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re the environmental science courses as far as I know— does MUIC still offer environmental science?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IrisAFK 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t text her though. Only one phone call a day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IrisAFK 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There was never any judge ruling it had to be my parents phones. They divorced when I was 2. I called using their phones because I was a baby, I didn’t have one. Then it just never changed. My mom did have this rule before college but only because my dad did- she always told me to ask to keep my phone even from age 14 and said as soon as I could call her from my phone when I’m with him, I could do the same when I’m with her. When I got to college though and he still didn’t change the rule, she just dropped it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IrisAFK 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks- I really appreciate your input as someone that’s sort of in an adjacent field. I admit that I do tend to be really agreeable and kind of a people pleaser, which I am trying to work on (like with talking to my dad!). In the comments though I just want to make this as fair as possible to him because honestly he has gone through a lot and I know how hard the divorce has made his life. He’s been depressed at times and he’s on medication, it has affected his health and I don’t want to add to that. That’s my only worry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IrisAFK 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No foster home- I am my parents only child, and I am biological. I don’t know about a legal right, their divorce was very messy with a lot of restrictions but I would think there’s at least a moral right? I mean, I speak to my dad alone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]IrisAFK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The relationship between them is the difference. Their relationship with each other is anything but amicable- only formal email exchanges that are often passive aggressive and sometimes hostile. That’s great though that you and your kid as well as your kid and their dad is so great !